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| Mon 29 Aug 11, 4:54 PM Yourfeet_myface UK(HP), 2 yrs |
I was just reading a femsubs blog about an incident in her early sub days that went way too far. A male dom beta her badly. I have always felt OK about allowing myself to be tied up and beaten by a woman.I am generally bigger and stronger than most females and women usually don't commit acts of mindless violence. I trust my instincts but once trussed up that could be a big mistake.
My question is have any other male subs had a bad experience with a Femdom who went too far? john | ||
| 29 Aug 11, 5:07 PM KnightToDreams UK(CW), 3 yrs   |
quite a few especially in the early days a dance with the devil | ||
| 29 Aug 11, 5:30 PM prettyPETunia UK(WS), 4 yrs |
No, but only had one, and it was fucking fantastic!! Excuse me, im thick | ||
| 29 Aug 11, 6:00 PM Cheeky_Little_Smile UK(SO), 5 yrs |
Although I don't fall into the category of male subs – me a female sub, I still thought I would contribute.  I remember my first Dom, who up until this point, I completely trusted. We discussed using a cane, and he sent me off to buy an evil looking thing, which I obediently complied with. Night in question, he tied me down and used the cane so aggressively that it drew blood. He thought my cries of pain were all part of the scene. I didn't know at that point what a safe word was. Granted he was mortified at what he had done, but since then I have had a horrible fear of canes, and it's something that I want to get over, and learn to enjoy and to take. And I will bear my soul when I am kneeling at your feet | ||
| 29 Aug 11, 8:28 PM davcol29 UK(PO), 4 yrs |
Never had an experience when a beating went too far, but did have an incident with a violet wand. Trying a new Mistress for the first time, she suggested the violet wand which i had never tried so agreed to this. Problem was she got a bit carried away and ended up burning my nipples, they both scabbed up and lost sensation in them for about three months. Couldnt tell here to stop as was gagged and masked at the time and tied up so could not struggle too much either. Do not believe she meant to go over the top but just got a bit carried away. | ||
| 29 Aug 11, 8:54 PM Yourfeet_myface UK(HP), 2 yrs |
Dave did this chage the way you went about things or how you chose a Mistress? | ||
| 29 Aug 11, 11:52 PM Ama_Sidero UK(GU), 7 yrs       |
I have to say, subs need to remember to use their safewords and to get one and to express limits. I am not ever implying that scenes that "go too far" are a submissive's fault, but it is also a matter of perspective. People are sadistic. That is why, theoretically, you want to play with them. Then, if, for example, you say you don't like CBT, in all probability you might GET some CBT because they are SADISTIC. It isn't really rocket science, is it? Now, I know in the nicey nicey marshmallow world of "we all want to play nicely so we can play with each other again", and pro-dommes wanting repeat business that people being "happy" and "satisfied" is important. But it varies greatly on who you play with, how well you know them and what is pre-negotiated. And that is what safewords and limits are for. Because while a dominant/top might do things you dislike, very few would be irresponsible enough to ignore a safeword or limit. (intentionally, I might add, as sometimes music is loud, etc). This is kind of also intended to be a moderate post at the beginning for newbies so they don't think the scene is rampant with people running about "going too far", as the majority of the people are responsible.
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| 30 Aug 11, 3:18 AM roblxxx UK(PO), 17 mths |
Simply not true. Women are responsible, for example in public houses, acts of violence in direct proportion to their nimbers, according to research carried out by the landlords Association. The Israeli Army took women OFF frontline duties because they were too violent.
However, I'd take issue with the word "mindless". Unlikemen, women are unable to route the acts of violence through the forebrain, as men do, but route it straightthrough the amygdala, meaning that once women staqe on violent behaviour they are unable to control it and won't stop it until they're exhausted. This is what Feminist really mean when they say me should get in touch with theior Feminine side I'm a bad, bad boy, and I'm going to steal your love. | ||
| 30 Aug 11, 3:48 AM Eleise UK(SW), 3 yrs |
And your ideas about why the Isreali forces have prohibited women from serving in close combat military operations is also entirely incorrect. Where did you get that one from? | ||
| 30 Aug 11, 7:44 PM Yourfeet_myface UK(HP), 2 yrs |
As a former officer of the law of 30 years you are incorrect about the proportion of violence from women, men commit far more acts of violence although the gap has closed a bit over recent years. There are also some, but fewer still, who commit cold blooded violence but on the whole they are more socially responsible and cause less problems. j | ||
| 1 Sep 11, 6:56 PM Big_Girls_Toy UK(SW), 3 yrs |
As a sub who actively seeks out very large and agressive women who enjoy overpowering, dominating and humiliating men. I can say with some confidence that the proportion of women that would take advantage of your helplesness to inflict a really serious beating is very small. After almost 30 years (meeting probably 100+ women) of putting myself in a position where this could happen I have only had two instances of meeting women who actively enjoyed inflicting pain and generally beating me senseless - both hid their intentions until it was too late to back out and later explained that their real enjoyment came from breaking any agreed limits and seeing real fear in their subs eyes. On the other hand I must have met over 50 women who claimed to enjoy pushing limits but actually spent most of the time checking I was ok. |
