Posted by larra_uk on Mon 29 Aug 11, 6:28 AM to larra_uk's blog.
Im usually a very forgiving person. I can look at most situations and think *what if that was me, what if I had had t do that*. I have had friends who have owed me a lot of money and through no fault of their own they havent been able to pay it back, to me, it is only money. Not that I have a lot of it, but they are genuine friends who havent been able to pay it back. That I can forgive.
At the moment I am off work. I had a car accident a few years ago, and it turns out I have a fractured shoulder. Because of this fracture I have been in a lot of pain. A few weeks ago my manager called me and told me I had to be in a meeting in 30 mins, rushing around, trying to get all the info I needed for this meeting, I lost my footing on the stairs in my home. I banged my shoulder right off the wall. Well anyway I have been off work sick since then. Im going in for an op in Sept to replace this shoulder.
In the meantime, I have had my integrity challenged by my manager, been accused of driving while off sick, although what driving for a short distance has in common with driving for 45 mins, working for a min, and I mean a min of 7.5 hours and then a 45 min drive home has anything to do with me not being able to work has anything to do with *anything* I have no idea.
Apparantly, one of my colleagues has written a statement saying she saw me driving, she didnt! What she saw was my sister driving my car. Asshole, But I am so pissed off!
This is someone I trusted. Someone I had faith in. The same as you may have faith in a friend. So you have faith in a friend to understand your decisions, to not be jealous of you. Thats the same thing.
We have shit senior team at the moment, They are bullies, keep your head down. All of that I understand. But for someone I considered a friend to offer me up in order to keep the spotlight away from herself? That I dont undersatnd.
I see that all of the time. Friends jealous because someone has lost weight. because someone has gotten married. I dont understand it, and I dont understand the forgiveness, because that I will never have for this person!
| 29 Aug 11, 9:51 AM angellover UK(CM), 3 yrs   |
I really felt your pain when reading the above and I am so sorry your feeling it, as I can see it was an utter deal breaker in your friendship. Why people do it, I don't know... to keep in with the in crowd, maybe but who really knows. Time to brush yourself down, learn from the experience and move on forward. Good luck with your opp in Sept too. The highest fences we have to climb, are those we have built within our mind | |
| 29 Aug 11, 10:26 AM NilSatisNisiOptimum UK, 6 yrs |
Thats retail for you. Revenge is a wasted emotion | |
| 29 Aug 11, 12:01 PM Shypeachybottom UK, 20 mths |
Have you spoken to your 'friend' and confronted her? maybe she genuinely thought it was you, and was put in a position by your managers (who you say are bullies) where she hesitated and they then badgered her until she said she thought she had seen you, they have now presented it to you as her 'ratting you out'? Until and unless you have heard her side of the story you can't be sure what happened, and at the moment all you have is half the story as presented by someone you consider to be a bully... think about it... There's a somebody I'm longing to see, I hope that he turns out to be, someone to watch over me | |
| 29 Aug 11, 12:09 PM dementia_von_gurth UK(DA), 4 yrs |
sometimes you have to judge people on their actions, it's difficult sometimes. i feel guilty when i do it, like i'm a bad person. the difficulty is that people usually do things like this behind your back and are then nice to your face which leaves me confused and thinking that i judged them wrongly .... but the fact is that some people are just wrong-uns ! all for one and fuck the rest | |
| 29 Aug 11, 12:12 PM Miss_Fifi UK, 20 mths |
That's a bloody awful thing to happen to you! It's mean and vindictive! What a cow she is for going to the lengths of signing a statement to say she seen you driving. It grinds my gears and I can't stand people who stoop to the lengths of hurting others livelihood especially when you're ill to.
Big hug for you and I hope karma gets her as soon as possible. Be strong fight back with all your might, sending you all my good vibes I want a Ginger/Red headed boyfriend/sub, come on now don't be shy I only bite a little bit Edited 29 Aug 11, 12:13 PM by Miss_Fifi | |
| 29 Aug 11, 2:37 PM gentlemusings UK(M), 19 mths   |
Quite simply they're not true friend's sweetie.... You find out who are quickly enough when you are in need yourself.. and when you find out who are not, console yourslf that their lives will be so much emptier without you to count on... Submission is giving your heart freely knowing what joy and pain will come of it... |
