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| Wed 24 Aug 11, 8:48 PM male2shemaid UK(SA), 4 yrs   |
Hi, I have been in an email exchange with someone on here who is admitting that he is feeling very depressed regarding his sexuality, re his submissive needs and the fact that his wife will have nothing to do with either his need to submit to her or his female persona. He sounds a good father with kids that he adores, but he is in a miserable place at the moment. I have emailed him some thoughts to try and get him to focus on the positive, and emphasised the importance of him going to see his GP to seek the advice of his GP re possible anti-depressants and/or counselling. I have also suggested that he look up some of the various counselling organisations that deal with people who have sexual identity issues, etc. I am concerned for this person. He lives in the North West of the UK so I am wondering if anyone on here knows of any counselling organisations in the Manchester, Liverpool, Lancs area that may be able to help this person? Are there any that deal especially with people who have 'fetish needs' as part of their identity? If you do know of any perhaps you could post the info here. Thank you. | ||
| 24 Aug 11, 8:50 PM wonderer UK, 5 yrs |
This isn't a recomendation because I have no knowledge of her, but this profile http://www.informedconsent.co.uk/p/The_Counsello... may be of interest. "Wisdom begins in wonder” (Socrates) | ||
| 24 Aug 11, 9:49 PM CurvyWench UK(CM), 3 yrs |
http://www.relate.org.uk/sex-therapy/index.html On our first date He bought me marmite and KY jelly. I knew then. I knew the way you know about a good melon. 300511 | ||
| 24 Aug 11, 9:57 PM carenza_lionheart UK(NN), 24 mths  |
A close friend of mine is a qualified therapist who will work with people through Skype. She is very kink friendly. Happy to pass on details privately. The innocent one | ||
| 24 Aug 11, 10:00 PM SirBstard UK(DL), 6 yrs |
Looking for a counsellor on the internet?
caveat emptor
(especially ones who suggest they can "Sort out your life") Edited 24 Aug 11, 10:02 PM by SirBstard | ||
| 24 Aug 11, 10:03 PM male2shemaid UK(SA), 4 yrs |
Looking for counselling organisations.
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| 24 Aug 11, 10:04 PM SirBstard UK(DL), 6 yrs |
the BACP should have a list | ||
| 24 Aug 11, 11:32 PM Silent_Storm UK(M), 6 yrs   |
Website here http://www.fortysecondstreet.org.uk/index.html for 42nd street in Manchester, pulled from recomendations on this thread>> http://www.informedconsent.co.uk/posts/205894/0
*Choose Freedom* Sign up to http://www.caan.org.uk | ||
| 24 Aug 11, 11:39 PM restlessredriding 10 mths |
Hello..this being my field felt i should just say be careful!! Please ensure you stick to CPCAB/ BACP sanctioned and qualified therapists, t at least Level four/ diploma level; registered approved therapists will ALL be kink friendly, we see a very broad spectrum of society, and are completely non-judgemental and unassuming... Love and light | ||
| 24 Aug 11, 11:43 PM just_saffron 2 yrs |
Relate are kink friendly and very non judgemental...and all registered. I know, because when I questioned right in the beginning they helped me and actually helped me to accept that this was a part of me and there was nothing wrong with it. I'll also say that all except for one counsellor I know of, most have been accepting. You could however try PINK therapists? They have specific training in sadomasochism and the issues there in if I remember correctly? Listen, I may not always feel fabulous, or smart or intelligent...but I am. | ||
| 25 Aug 11, 1:02 AM Mona_Demarkov HR, 7 yrs |
I know this is really obvious, but I'll say it anyway: His main issue is not a problem of accepting who he is, or his kink, but the incredibly tough situation of having an established family who does not understand his needs, and therefore having to choose between love and loyalty vs his strong sexual persona. Many things come into play here, some of the strongest being questioning what is important in life, what role love and sex play in happiness, what sort of future he wants, what truly makes him feel fulfilled etc. His options need to be clear to him (there are not many, but there are many variations of these options), and then he can work on figuring out what he feels most comfortable with. He could perhaps find comfort in knowing that these situations are incredibly common. They seem very devastating at first, but many do find a happy middle eventually (or an ecstatic extreme).
I am sure a good therapist would help, but ideally he needs to speak with a clever philosopher. |
