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| 19 Aug 11, 8:40 AM poolhead UK(M), 13 mths   |
I call my Mistress Miss. She likes it because it makes me a little shy. I like it because I know that she likes it, it shows respect and it takes me back to the shy school boy days - "yes Miss, no Miss, excuse me Miss". The only time I don't call her Miss is infront of vanilla friend and family. | |
| 19 Aug 11, 8:44 AM Goddess_Asphyxia UK, 3 yrs |
If you called me 'Mistress' you'd be dismissed immediately. 'Taste the whip, in love, not given lightly......taste the whip, now plead for Me !' | |
| 19 Aug 11, 9:54 AM ladybabe2 UK(SK), 6 yrs |
So when you are insisting that we refer to you as Mistress or in my case Master then we slip up in public because we can only see you as our Master/Mistress, we are to be castigated for it? When we are worshipping you as Master/Mistress then its ok but god forbid that you slip up at the wrong time? Ok yes it can raise an eyebrow or two but l doubt it is done in a malicious way just someone seeing someone he sees as Mistress and got a bit carried away, laugh it off not one of us are that important that the world will stop because someone has stupidly referred to you as Master/Mistress.
Of course punishment should be given to stop it happening again But if he isn't in a relationship with the said lady then he should have kept his mouth shut!!!! Don't make them a priority, when they only make you an option... | |
| 19 Aug 11, 10:15 AM Dark_Cherry UK(B), 2 yrs     |
Oh this I like Fuck labels. Labels suck. I am a filthy, slutty, sadistic princess | |
| 19 Aug 11, 10:39 AM JustTony UK(L), 17 mths |
The short answer is you call her whatever she wants, one would think. I've met women who insisted on being called Mistress at all times when at home, for example. And at the other end of the scale are those who don't want any of that. It's just an individual preference- but it's hers of course, not yours. For example, my gf dislikes anything she thinks is stereotyped or sounds artificial, and she insists on NOT being called Mistress or anything similar, even though I've really felt a need to use some sort of respectful honorific at times. It used to feel strange calling her 'babe' when she had me totally helpless, frightened and under her control in every conceivable way, mentally and physically. But I've gotten used to it now, and it does actually feel a lot more natural. One of the benefits might be that using the same vanilla form of address at all times seems to maintain my awareness of her as a dominant human being, rather than a BDSM object.
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| 20 Aug 11, 5:52 PM SinPar US, 12 yrs |
Comments like that hold her, you, and your relationship up to public judgment and ridicule. You may not care about it, but she may. What if you had blurted that out in front of her vanilla friends, her employer, or her children? There could be repercussions from that that you couldn't be sorry enough for causing her. Or not. How she runs the relationship is up to her but I'd pay attention to the fact she wasn't appreciative of your slip and try not to do that again. SinPar
-- The weak are the most treacherous of us all. They come to the strong and drain them. They are bottomless. They are insatiable. They are always parched and always bitter. They are everyone's concern, and like vampires they suck our life's blood. (Bette Davis) | |
| 20 Aug 11, 7:46 PM Cinnamon_Tart UK(S), 8 yrs |
Well, all I can say is, "Why yes, of course, Lord and Master of the Known and Unknown Universe, I am not Worthy," is a fuck of a mouthful when responding to a simple request for coffee. But then, we ain't big on protocol.
Pleasure: quantified by plunge pools, and waterfalls. | |
| 20 Aug 11, 8:04 PM AstronautMikeDexter UK(E), 2 yrs |
If they're topping I usually find "Oi you!" or "Get off me" works fine. |
I got a few funny looks as well.
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