18 Aug 11, 12:57 AM
jemima101
UK(NE), 10 mths
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worm_boy wrote:
MisterBear wrote:
worm_boy wrote:
journerotica wrote:
worm_boy wrote:
No, people aren't really into the type of strict domination and humiliation that I am into. What you suggest is a good idea about starting discussions etc, only I do find the types of things I'm into a little embarrassing and a little personal, which could be part of the problem when it comes to clubs and munches.
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What you have to accept then is that you're not offering something a Domme wants. The fact that your statement is very you focused signals you out as a "do me" sub. Lifestyle Dommes tend not to want a "worm" of a man. If you have specific kinks and specific things you want done to you, you really might have to consider a Pro. Because most Dommes want a sub whose primary goal is to serve and obey them, then it's a matter of finding vanilla and kink compatibility.
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Yes, tell me about it, you just hit the nail on the head.
However, I can't help what turns me on and what doesn't
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So you are limiting yourself to just doing the couple of things that work for you? Well there's your problem, you need to adapt and be willing to do more than just what you like and consider doing some things that the Domme you want likes and develop some give and take. Failing that, if you want something specific then you will have to pay for it or join a monastery.
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that does not fill me with confidence, i've tried to adapt
it just does not work for me i.e not the scene i'm into.
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Ok, im going to come across horribly twue here, but frankly this is why you havnt met anyone,
Why the feck shud a Domme meet u to do what you are into?
it seems to me the fap means more than the reality of being sub.Stop whining and either man up or enjoy the porn.
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18 Aug 11, 6:48 AM
AngelFingers1
UK(CH), 2 yrs
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I'm wondering at what stage, and in what way, the OP's potential Dommes discover his interests?
If he is as reticent and "closed" in one-to-one communication as he appears through the medium of this website then maybe that could be the reason for his lack of success.
It seems really odd to me that someone supposedly submissive seems so determinedly unyeilding and uninterested in even considering submitting to kinks that dont exactly match his narrow(? I'm guessing as we have no idea)kink. Sounds much more of a closet dom or fetishist mindset than a submissive one.
Oh Yes....and the sun will set for YOU.
Edited 18 Aug 11, 7:07 AM by AngelFingers1
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18 Aug 11, 7:02 AM
MizzScarlett
UK, 4 yrs
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worm_boy wrote:
yeah, well i'm not a pain slut, I like verbal abuse, humiliation, hair pulling, that kind of femdom roleplay
you rarely get in clubs
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I'm not sure why you think this kind of FemDom roleplay is not seen in clubs?? I've seen plenty, and done plenty.
"Style is the sum of all your defects." - Alan Bennett
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18 Aug 11, 9:08 AM
sassyslut
US, 21 mths
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MizzScarlett wrote:
worm_boy wrote:
yeah, well i'm not a pain slut, I like verbal abuse, humiliation, hair pulling, that kind of femdom roleplay
you rarely get in clubs
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I'm not sure why you think this kind of FemDom roleplay is not seen in clubs?? I've seen plenty, and done plenty.
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I was thinking exactly the same, and that the OP does not come across as a sub but more if you wsh as a bottom or smply somebody has a fantasy and preconcieved idea of what is thast he wants and want a scpecific "scene" he keeps talkign about clubs and playing in public and finding a "scene" not about finding a Domme to serve or a relationship or even a play friend. It took me a while to even really get what he ment by finding a scene. and of course he is extremely vage and cagy that is rather offputting
On the other hand he knows what he wants and how he want it, what is a bonus if he ever finds somebody who is into the same thing and only the same thing, and clearely who is not looking for a relationship either.
Ladran Sancho!! seņal de que avanzamos.
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18 Aug 11, 5:10 PM
worm_boy
UK(B), 4 yrs
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sassyslut wrote:
MizzScarlett wrote:
worm_boy wrote:
yeah, well i'm not a pain slut, I like verbal abuse, humiliation, hair pulling, that kind of femdom roleplay
you rarely get in clubs
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I'm not sure why you think this kind of FemDom roleplay is not seen in clubs?? I've seen plenty, and done plenty.
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I was thinking exactly the same, and that the OP does not come across as a sub but more if you wsh as a bottom or smply somebody has a fantasy and preconcieved idea of what is thast he wants and want a scpecific "scene" he keeps talkign about clubs and playing in public and finding a "scene" not about finding a Domme to serve or a relationship or even a play friend. It took me a while to even really get what he ment by finding a scene. and of course he is extremely vage and cagy that is rather offputting
On the other hand he knows what he wants and how he want it, what is a bonus if he ever finds somebody who is into the same thing and only the same thing, and clearely who is not looking for a relationship either.
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Yes your last comment is very true, I do know what I want and how I want it and everyone on this scene has a right to this. These are the fantasies I've had since childhood, I don't mean to be vague or cagey but I do not talk openly about my deepest fantasies on a thread. |
18 Aug 11, 7:10 PM
lfdtp1
10 mths |
Amazonia_Sidero wrote:
OP....why don't you volunteer to house-sub at an event. Maybe someone will play with you then.
People generally like to get to know people a bit before they play with them. If you don't ever speak to anyone or post or have a conversation with someone in a club, then it's highly doubtful anyone will get to know you well enough to want to play with you.
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But we only likes to play wiv ze attractive slender ones, methinks.
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18 Aug 11, 7:14 PM
worm_boy
UK(B), 4 yrs
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lfdtp1 wrote:
Amazonia_Sidero wrote:
OP....why don't you volunteer to house-sub at an event. Maybe someone will play with you then.
People generally like to get to know people a bit before they play with them. If you don't ever speak to anyone or post or have a conversation with someone in a club, then it's highly doubtful anyone will get to know you well enough to want to play with you.
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But we only likes to play wiv ze attractive slender ones, methinks.
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well i'm afraid to say, you are very wrong about that, this is not about the physical at all!
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18 Aug 11, 7:20 PM
StrangeBoy
9 mths |
Amazonia_Sidero wrote:
OP....why don't you volunteer to house-sub at an event. Maybe someone will play with you then.
People generally like to get to know people a bit before they play with them. If you don't ever speak to anyone or post or have a conversation with someone in a club, then it's highly doubtful anyone will get to know you well enough to want to play with you.
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A house sub, why was I not told about this hhhmmmmm??
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18 Aug 11, 7:25 PM
Ama_Sidero
UK(GU), 7 yrs
  
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StrangeBoy wrote:
Amazonia_Sidero wrote:
OP....why don't you volunteer to house-sub at an event. Maybe someone will play with you then.
People generally like to get to know people a bit before they play with them. If you don't ever speak to anyone or post or have a conversation with someone in a club, then it's highly doubtful anyone will get to know you well enough to want to play with you.
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A house sub, why was I not told about this hhhmmmmm??
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Well, both of you poppets are in Brum. I suggest you go to some Brum events and charm the organisers and show them how well behaved you are. Unless you want to come this way... said the spider to the fly...... LOL There is always call for boys in bow-ties. 
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18 Aug 11, 7:26 PM
journerotica
UK(GL), 18 mths
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worm_boy wrote:
Yes your last comment is very true, I do know what I want and how I want it and everyone on this scene has a right to this. These are the fantasies I've had since childhood, I don't mean to be vague or cagey but I do not talk openly about my deepest fantasies on a thread.
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This is where you're falling down. If you're not accepting about who you are and what you like to the extent that you can explain it anonymously on the internet, then how do you expect to be able to find a Domme who has matching interests? I'm guessing it means you also wouldn't be able to talk about things at a munch or club, or when meeting a Domme. So no wonder you find it difficult to find a scene you like when you seemingly can't explain what that scene is.
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