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| Sun 14 Aug 11, 3:49 PM Inge880 5 yrs  |
I know I am going to offend a number of people on this site, and I would like to ask you to just ignore this message if you feel so. This post is not meant as an ethical discussion subject. I am a single professional, PhD level, international lifestyle, etc. It just strikes me how hard it is to find a community where I would fit in. In the Netherlands there was a community/dating organisation that was 'high level' i.e. college level and higher. It is in that range I would find my potential lifetime partner. Of course, a lot of people might feel that education and background do not matter. I am of a different opinion. In 'normal' life I would look for someone who has the same intellectual level, background, interests, lifestyle, and exposure. Simply because I want to share those things and need that common background. Wanting bdsm to be part of the equation makes the search a lot harder. Ordinary venues are no longer the places I would seek my Dom, and the Internet sofar has not brought me in contact with the man I seek either. I wish there would be a meeting place in the UK (or rather, Scotland) where I would find my peers: good looking, healthy, intelligent people. Ones that I would go into a conversation with and realize suddenly the whole evening has passed… I wonder if others feel this need to, where they would go for an intellectual match, or if there is a need to establish this kind of bdsm community? |
| 14 Aug 11, 3:52 PM Bubbles_2 UK(E), 6 yrs  |
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| 14 Aug 11, 4:17 PM DeCoverley UK(GL), 4 yrs |
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| 14 Aug 11, 4:21 PM teufel_tanz UK(HA), 7 yrs |
I know of a few people who have had similar feelings but as you say, apart form a few loosely arranged gatherings of friends, dinner parties etc, I have not heard of any sort of agency where BDSM has also figured. I would imagine that you have little option other to advertise (as you are doing) or trawl clubs / munches in order to select the ones you desire. As to your last question, I have more qualifications / education than average but don't feel that makes a difference as to whose company enjoy. I would go so far as to say that I am less attracted to those to who it does make a difference. Good luck in your search Edited 14 Aug 11, 4:23 PM by teufel_tanz |
| 14 Aug 11, 4:23 PM OllieVW 3 yrs |
Why not organise something yourself and promoote it. 
Ill bleed for you if you make me cum |
| 14 Aug 11, 4:24 PM giventake2001 7 yrs |
Plenty of us professionals here. I'm a marketing director. The lifestyle appeals across a very broad spectrum. |
| 14 Aug 11, 4:25 PM OrdinaryCouple UK(RG), 11 mths |
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| 14 Aug 11, 4:25 PM Muzzlehatch UK(TN), 7 yrs |
I hadn't realised that to be stlyish and classy, one had to attend university, or know the way to an airport.
Owner of The Croppery Dungeon and Breakfast. Organises The St Leonards munch. |
| 14 Aug 11, 4:33 PM icy_one 11 mths |
surely 'class' is subjective? I think those who think they have it rarely do!!! The chains that bind my mind are stronger than the chains that bind my body |
| 14 Aug 11, 4:35 PM SpartanReserve UK(SN), 24 mths |
I might follow suit with a meeting place for the working classes, god knows we would have a better laugh. As said by Ollie, if there is something missing then get on and start something. Though the events I have been to, (only 3) have each had a mix, from high flyers to the more low rent like me. Just go out and mix but at the same time leave some of the holy thats crawled where it shouldnt at home. Your chances of finding a match will vastly improve. Also, there are Dom's and there are Dom's regardless of their job title, not saying I am a good one (still wearing L plates), just saying finding a high flyer is one thing, finding a high flyer who will also make a great Dom for you is another. Wish you luck in your search though. The bigger the smile, the sharper the knife. Edited 14 Aug 11, 4:38 PM by SpartanReserve |
| 14 Aug 11, 4:37 PM strawberry_fields UK(PL), 4 yrs |
I have just realised where I am going wrong... I have been looking in all the wrong places.. Or maybe its that I just dont have either Damn...
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