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| Bunneh |
OK I have a random question for you. Curious really.
What do you do when you are feeling pissed off or down with your significant other(s)?
See, when I'm in that mood, the best thing that my blokes can do is try to have sex with me. I know, doesn't really make sense. But it's a guaranteed sure fire way to either cheer me up or make me "forgive" them for why they pissed me off in the first place. 
I had to explain this to my other bloke yesterday as he said I seemed a bit quiet and he thought if he tried it on with me I'd get all uppity and say something like "You only want me for sex!".
His reply was he was going to have to forget everything he's ever learnt about women in his 56 years and do pretty much the opposite with me LOL! I told him it has taken hubby 7 years to figure this out :D
Do you sulk? I find it really hard to hold a grudge for more than a few hours, to be honest, and I have a pretty short attention span to keep an argument going. Plus, sex cures pretty much everything for me.
| 8 Aug 11, 10:19 PM Hartless UK(S), 2 yrs     |
Regardless of the reason why, if I'm upset or angry, I like to be left alone to work it through in my head and sort myself out. I hate letting anyone else see me like that. I need my own space and when I'm ready to be calm and rational, that is when I come back to talk things through. Sometimes when I'm upset in a calm manner, I go really quiet while I'm thinking things through and I need the time to do that. I'm the same with all of my partners, past and present. It can be a little difficult in poly relationships as time is so important because it is limited but sometimes that time on my own only needs to be ten minutes, other times it has been longer but if that is what I need to be OK, then that is what I do. Resistance is futile. |
| 10 Aug 11, 7:52 PM Astarael UK(S), 21 mths  |
I am a little unusual, apparently with respect to upset. When something/someone upsets me I can usually let things go fairly quickly and move on though it depends how much I'm poked  and how much I am reminded of it in each moment.I think it's very easy when we are hurt, in the heat of the moment, to see things to increase our upset and hurt. We easily go looking for the “indignation” angles. It's a trait I am not proud to possess, but I do always try to communicate, and heal it after the fireworks. I really don't like holding grudges, they just feel too exhausting, but I do find it hard coping with the reality that others need far greater time. I am usually ready to open back up very quickly and it can be more upsetting to realise that the other is not yet ready to do that. It's something I have come to understand but not yet emotionally accept without impact. I am a work in progress though. |
| 27 Sep 11, 12:49 PM frida_sub UK(CM), 2 yrs |
i like to talk through what i or They are pissed off about. I don't sulk as it doesn't solve anything. i love Who i am with and i am with Who i love |
| 27 Sep 11, 6:14 PM AngelFingers1 UK(CH), 2 yrs |
If I'm feeling like that I instinctively "go" to whichever of my subs that will provide the "antidote" that I need. They are all such different characters with different skills and attutudes that there is usually one who can"take me out of myself" and change my mind. If its one of them thats pissed me off....easy..... he get banished...the very best punishment. On the whole I am reasonably even-tempered, so its not often I get pissed off, and with quality subs on hand I realise how fortunate I am. Its gratitude that makes us happy, Ive heard...LOL Oh Yes....and the sun will set for YOU. |
