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| Thu 4 Aug 11, 10:52 PM tamworthboy 10 mths  |
Masters and Mistresses,
I see lots of threads and notes in profiles saying that a Dom/me has been let down by a wannabe sub. It does happen the other way - I've been let down twice this week already. I get to the bit around arranging a time...and then it goes quiet, or in the case of another well known site c*ll*rm*.com, I get blocked.
Ho hum - I'm sure someone will want to use mw one day *chuckle* D | |
| 4 Aug 11, 11:39 PM MisstressvsSolicedog UK(NN), 17 mths  |
patience will i,m sure bring welts,, er rewards Please excuse crap spelling cause i,m rubbish | |
| 5 Aug 11, 12:18 AM switch_bitch UK(G), 7 yrs |
 am stocked and shunned, you mean people actually do that on here ?? If you go through life with your head in the sand, all people will see, is an arse | |
| 5 Aug 11, 10:58 AM Raven86 UK(G), 12 mths |
The website that you mention, is a particular mine field in my opinion. I'm not quite sure what it is but it seems to draw alot of people who want to live there 'deepest darkest fantasies' online, and the minute that they get an offer to meet, they get cold feet. However that said there are alot of good people on it too. I really like IC, and I've enjoyed my short time here. Ok I think I'm probably less likely to find what I'm looking for here, but the community seems really warm and welcoming. The chat is good, and people are willing to take the time to explain or share experiences. I'll echo the other posters and say that it takes time, but i'm sure that you'll soon find what you're looking for! | |
| 5 Aug 11, 11:55 AM MixAndMatch UK(S), 3 yrs       |
I've run into some interesting people on OKCupid, funnily enough. Although normally it matches me with people I know already... I've not tried to meet people through BDSM websites, preferring munches and the like for an in-person chemistry. It doesn't matter how well they type, if we don't click in person then it won't work. I signed up to CM a year or so back. Got about 10 messages from PDs in America before I'd even written my profile. I didn't bother completing it. It's much nicer here! @SouthYorkshireMunch 4th Sunday of each month Also on fetlife | |
| 5 Aug 11, 3:22 PM fitzcaraldo UK(BA), 6 yrs |
In my experience all these sites with blocks of bold colour and dramatic graphics are like supermarket food ; shiny packet with nothing inside that's any good for you. The same goes for the filmstar profiles , the more perfect and promising the profile and pictures, the less likely it is to be real. It's often the case on IC that one sees all shapes , sizes and persuasions, more like real life. Fitz. Escaped from the parallel universe | |
| 5 Aug 11, 5:19 PM HalloweenWhite UK(TF), 7 yrs    |
Unfortunately, people get let down all the time, it's just the way it goes. Keep your chin up and carry on carrying on, I think the thing to keep in mind is you'll meet sincere people by showing you're sincere. Sadder still to watch it die than never to have have known it. | |
| 5 Aug 11, 5:22 PM calmhands UK, 2 yrs |
I had a profile on CM, for about 4.5 minutes. I do pop in as a guest from time to time, just to read the boards. ch x Bring me back to me.. | |
| 5 Aug 11, 8:33 PM ClassAct2005 UK(N), 7 yrs |
Lots of people are pretty unreliable although in the example given it seems no date to meet had been arranged so it was just someone who at crunch time was not prepared to move off line to on line (although even that has wasted someone's time). On holiday in a culture where people don't turn up or don't on time we found it very hard 2 weeks ago and then this week arranging for a small scale sale I was dealing with ordinary people rather than the sorts of people I deal with in business or family who are utterly reliable and we have been shocked by how many will say yes and then not turn up. YOu forget when you insulate yoursel f into a life where people are on time, fix things in diaries and are reliable and do what they say that a lot of people don't run their lives like that in the UK which is probably why so many of them seem to live in virtual chaos and never get anywhere. I certainly would only date a man who was organised and efficient and stuck to times (and was not leading me up the garden path about wanting to meet). | |
| 8 Aug 11, 1:19 AM jemima101 UK(NE), 10 mths |
mmmm perhaps i should not comment, but personally expecting much of contact sites is ,imo, a waste of time. People waste a lot of time online because they think everyone is actually looking.The fact is most ppl are fapping. That said i met my Master online. The big thing is to look at how you are choosing a Dom/me. Are they willing and able to spend the time getting to know you? Remember you can only be let down if you allow ppl to let you down.You are a sub not a doormat. Thoughts ,musing, ideas,http://itsjustahobby.wordpress.com/ |
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