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This event announcement is on the Birmingham (B) topics page and the BDSM Events web board. 100 members going: aliceinwebland, andy64, angel_led_astray, AsrocX, BBM2000, bbwbabe74, Birchwood, bohnanza, Bryn_1971, Cal451, carenza_lionheart, charliecoxx, cheekymonkee, Cheeky_Little_Smile, Chrys21, Cinnamon_Tart, Cosmic1, cotswolds, DarkDreamer, Daybreak, Docdeath, DomChef, dragons_sub, DSC2006couk, eloesa, Elohims_jay, Ember2b1, EvilSam, fallenangel6, FemSubSocialClub, FireWolf, FluffySub, Garret_Jax, GazUK1963, gentlemusings, Ghedes_Princess, hhman47, hissecret, hollythedolly, honeyslave_AS, innocence21, insanity_sane1, iolasHunger, Janie_0, Jons_Amaranth, Kam7312, KinkyGerlinky, kitty_kat, ladydreams, lickgekko, little_miss_sunshine, lizzymint, Lordanum, LostTime, lovelylunatic, MagicBuddha, maso_miss, Melvyn_Braggard, mia, Minxxey, miss_plum, Monahan, Mr_Loc, Mr_Smith_UK, nastybstd, NimueBanditQueen, nobodyknows, Noise, Nosfratu, OldNick666, pilsburyDB, popi, quietsoul, Rhoobarb, RotHund, Rousseau, Rubber_G, Sam_Descant, sassysub_lime, serveme, Siglorel, simplepleasure, slavesemi, SlutLesley, Sphvinx, subdawn, suspension_slut, Sycophant83, tabitha_does, Taintedinnocence, Tanos, tarana, Tara_Red, TheFalconer, touch_of_rose, True_Dark_Horse, viragoangel, Winston_Smith, Xafar, Xenolith
| 14 Sep 11, 12:13 AM carenza_lionheart UK(NN), 24 mths   |
Just to say that the door signs made it clear that the chill out room was strictly no play, but I think the definition of "badgering" is a tough one - does that mean no approaches at all in the chill out room? But badgering is against our rules generally, so if anyone ever feels badgered (male or female), find a blue star badge person and let us know! The one who claims to be innocent | ||||
| 14 Sep 11, 12:21 AM FluffySub UK(NN), 6 yrs     |
^^^ This ^^^ We could not have been more clear in both the signs and leaflets that a No is a no. If you need to tell someone to leave you alone more than once, look for one of our team, it will be made VERY clear to anyone pestering people that they will get one warning only. Not huffy or stuffy, nor tiny or tall,
But fluffy, just fluffy, with no brains at all. | ||||
| 14 Sep 11, 12:33 AM FluffySub UK(NN), 6 yrs |
My bold. That's a very valid point. I think we all assume that only men do the badgering. It's not acceptable from women, either. Let us know if it ever happens, so we can nip it in the bud, please.
Not huffy or stuffy, nor tiny or tall,
But fluffy, just fluffy, with no brains at all. | ||||
| 14 Sep 11, 6:51 AM Xafar UK(S), 12 yrs £   |
if anyone wants to badger me... go for it... Mac
"Me Man Whore... You Jane..." | ||||
| 14 Sep 11, 7:57 AM lizzymint UK(M), 5 yrs   |
I did try-- you didn't take me on!!! Pppffffftt.... Sweet dreams ... beautiful nightmares | ||||
| 14 Sep 11, 8:23 AM Xafar UK(S), 12 yrs £ |
did you have clothes on at the time or just flames...??? Mac
"Me Man Whore... You Jane..." | ||||
| 14 Sep 11, 9:23 AM borntoplease UK(ST), 2 yrs |
I did'nt go to this event to play, I went as a social event and did an awful lot of people watching. There was no badgering, I think it can be hard enough for a man to ask, even if he is 'dom' - this covers an awfully wide level of self confidence despite an 'orientation'. Rather than badgering there were simple offers in casual conversation that if one wanted to play later etc... I've been badgered very very rarely in clubs and I'm not exactly shy in my attire and demeanour - instead I find it pleasant that I find BDSM clubs more civil and courteous than an ordinary nightclub (perhaps becuase of the lack of focus on alcohol to have a good time). I'm a very confident woman and I'd have no qualms in asking a man to play, as I'm sure other subs do (not all of course)if I think there might be an experience to be had! I was being slightly provocative in my query over vetting (because I think some men might find it offensive or embarrasing or simply go to events...like most of them, that require no vetting)and I was also wondering what the ratio of singletons was. I was'nt sure what the event was...it certainly was'nt a 'dating' event,it was very mixed and therefore good. The vibe was like any other bdsm night for me, a bit odd not seeing any sub men ha ha, never seen so many men fully clothed... At the end of the day, the club is 'public' ie no closed rooms, it should be a safe place to meet. I guess I'm lucky in that I only know of three or four men who are 'dangerous' but then I've only been on scene for 2 years and not played with many.Other people ay know far more and would seek to exclude them. I could be being naive but I don't feel unsafe in any club. I hope you can see the point I am making. I can fly but I want his wings | ||||
| 14 Sep 11, 9:24 AM sublimitee UK, 10 mths |
I want to go such a great club. Mmmm wonder who's weekend bag I can sneak into  | ||||
| 14 Sep 11, 10:27 AM TheFalconer UK(S), 6 yrs |
Surely the point is that all unknown Doms are vetted? It's just the nature of the particular event that all Doms are male and all subs female. Ensuring that all the Doms are seen as "good quality" should in theory enhance the atmosphere at the event as it allows subs to feel more comfortable in acting submissive, surely? "Morality, like art, means drawing a line someplace." - Oscar Wilde | ||||
| 14 Sep 11, 10:31 AM gentlemusings UK(M), 19 mths |
Just because some people didnt witness badgering, or were not personally badgered, doesnt mean it didnt happen... I must make this point though... The venue is very well set out, and the windows on the corridors allow onlookers to view play within 'CLOSED' rooms without the need to enter these rooms and invade the personal space of those playing. The windows provide a barrier yet allow play to open up to others without loosing the 'players' total privacy, which adds to the feeling of safety and personal comfort for the players regardless of how hard they are playing. Just my opinion of course, but there shouldn't be any reason for anyone to enter these rooms whilst play is in session unless they are participating in play or have been invited... . Submission is giving your heart freely knowing what joy and pain will come of it... Edited 14 Sep 11, 1:28 PM by gentlemusings |
