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| Mon 25 Jul 11, 12:15 AM msmeow UK, 2 yrs  |
:O Do you think people instinctively know you're into kink? Do you try and conceal it, or openly flaunt it? CAN you conceal it? Can you spot a kinky person in a 'nilla crowd? Thoughts, ponderings, musings etc all encouraged! | |
| 25 Jul 11, 12:22 AM mcphisto1 UK(ST), 18 mths  |
It does make me wonder whether people know, like when you buy 60m of rope from your local camping shop *shrugs*, i'm thinking surely they don't think this is for camping? | |
| 25 Jul 11, 12:27 AM Sarahs_desire UK(NG), 4 yrs |
I really don't think ANYONE in my vanilla life knows I'm into kink. I'm a regular churchgoer, I do the readings and the prayers and have meetings with the vicar. I do want to keep things that way as until my child grows up I don't want to get outed as other children can be so cruel. After that then what the heck, I am who I am.
As to can I tell if other people are into kink. Well not usually with women, but some men are just so subbie in their demeanour they just have to be, though of course maybe they haven't admitted it to themselves yet. Sometimes when I see a woman wearing a collar type necklace I do wonder if it does have a D/s meaning to it. The waitress in the Harvester had one recently that looked so odd with her outfit it can't have been worn just as jewellery. Anyone else play the is she or isn't she game about a necklace? Sarah xx @sarahs_littlephoenix and @her_desire are the objects of my desire, my desire is their desire, their desire is not necessarily my desire. So now you know, please don't ask me what I desire. www.minxysropework.wordpress.com | |
| 25 Jul 11, 12:30 AM chrismanch  UK(M), 11 yrs |
I know several kinky vicars, one of which is out to his congregation. My neighbour's son called me recently and asked if I had a "gimp mask" he could borrow for a fancy dress. I think they might know. Chris | |
| 25 Jul 11, 12:33 AM Sarahs_desire UK(NG), 4 yrs |
Nah, the vicar knows I'm a controlling, organising sort who isn't afraid of speaking her mind, but kinky? Noooooooo. One day I look forward to telling him and watching his jaw drop to the floor. Sarah xx @sarahs_littlephoenix and @her_desire are the objects of my desire, my desire is their desire, their desire is not necessarily my desire. So now you know, please don't ask me what I desire. www.minxysropework.wordpress.com | |
| 25 Jul 11, 12:53 AM pleasureswitch UK(E), 6 yrs |
No. I judge that on the responses, shocked stunned, nervous laff, quizzical looks, that I've recieved from the couple of my 'nilla friends (yes I do have the odd 'nilla friend !) I've told of my "big secret". Honestly ya can't tell by lookin at the cover, you've gotta open the book, especally what sorts of flaves an blends we're each into. We might like to think, we might like to imagen but I honestly don't think we can tell usin some K Sense. Oh an I recon there's some Kinksters on here who don't know I'm Kinky! "Yeah I like Kinky stuff,dirty dark pervy stuff,weird sex....
An' Yerself ?" | |
| 25 Jul 11, 1:24 AM Brindle UK(HD), 8 yrs |
When I "came out" to my colleagues at work (as a senior auditor for a bank....) funnily enough, they were all a) TOTALLY fascinated, and b) COMPLETELY unsurprised!
Then again I had also been quite open about taking pole dancing lessons.... Seriously, I think most folks know an awful lot more than they let on, and its very easy to give away more than you realise unless you are totally committed to not doing so ---------§-�---------- | |
| 25 Jul 11, 2:04 AM man_in_tyres UK(RM), 22 mths |
All of my so called vanilla ex friends know thanks to my ex wife going round telling horror stories. The couple that are left accept me for my real self though it's not their cup of tea. I'm trying to keep it a bit quiet now in vanilla life so my kids don't get anymore brainwashed than they already are . At the end of the day ................ It's night | |
| 25 Jul 11, 4:18 AM MistressClarabella UK(G), 3 yrs      |
I have had some interestin & amusin expressions but they are not usually totally surprised! The questions afterward can b stupid & repetitive but depends on the person. I know ppl think I am bossy & opinionated @ times but dom who knows... I think u could if u really wanted to but I'm not ashamed of it so would only be discrete for work purposes, etc I do sumtimes openly flaunt it! I sometimes wonder if the shy, cute geeks r kinky or if that's wishful thinkin on my part | |
| 25 Jul 11, 4:20 AM searcher1 UK(N), 7 yrs |
I think where I work that it has a varience of people. There are few I would admit to interests but those who I have mentioned it to might have actually a tinge of envy! It the old story of liking something but keeping it 'quiet' vs (on my part) not doing so. However having said all that I've been looking for years for someone to occasionally play with so the comment is rather 'mute'.
Michael It never hurts, it only tingles (yeah right!) | |
| 25 Jul 11, 6:19 AM LittleDove UK(BN), 3 yrs |
Absolutely no one would be surprised that I'm kinky. The surprise would be someone who's met me NOT knowing! I'm pretty open about it, and fairly unable to have any kind of conversation without inserting innuendos everywhere and giggling at any remotely rude sounding words/sentences. The only thing that might surprise some people is that I'm submissive. I'm very forward and forthright sexually, that can (and has) be mistaken for dominance. People know I have a fondness for whips and chains, they just expect me to be the one wielding them! Not a shred of evidence exists in favour of the idea that life is serious. |
