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| 25 Jul 11, 8:53 AM fitzcaraldo UK(BA), 6 yrs   |
I'm guessing from your profile that the last Mr Perfect didn't work out. It is easy to fall into the trap of rebuilding a potential into something that only exists in your imagination. This isn't helped if the previous tries turned out to be tossers. It's easy to say, but taking your time before committing can be good for sorting out the rejects. To be realistic, there are a lot of Doms who think they're the answer to any maidens prayer, when in fact they're unreliable, self-centred tossers, so it's not necessarily anything you're doing wrong ! Fitz. Escaped from the parallel universe | |||
| 25 Jul 11, 9:00 AM Shypeachybottom UK, 20 mths |
I am probably a bit guilty of this too, especially as I am a soppy romantic. I try to clear the rose-tinted specs by getting to know the person well, in a non-romantic way initially, so that my expectations of him are as realistic as possible (recognising that I still have those rose-tinted specs on and am a "glass-half-full" kind of person anyway). And I constantly remind myself that I am so far away from perfection that I can't possibly expect anyone else to be "perfect" (besides, what does "perfect" even mean? "perfect for me" definitely means someone who has flaws and is human, because that is how I am! and I rather suspect that "perfection" would be a tad boring...) There's a somebody I'm longing to see, I hope that he turns out to be, someone to watch over me | |||
| 25 Jul 11, 11:17 AM nastybstd UK(LU), 6 yrs |
There was a time when I looked at a hot girl and figured being with her would be heaven. Every relationship with a woman was seen as "the one". Facts that she was a horrible person, up her own arse etc, just didnt even register.
Never mind rose tinted glasses, think more, welders goggles! Things have changed a lot since those days. I have come to realise every person I meet has faults including me (However it should be noted that I have fewer than most. Ahem.) When a person comes along that doesnt meet my expectations or I know they will not be good for me I will simply be polite and pass on by. I give everyone else a fair crack of the whip so to speak and see what happens from that. I guess age has mellowed me somewhat. Older and wiser and all that.
The pleasure, I fear, will be all mine. | |||
| 25 Jul 11, 11:35 AM Reversed 23 mths |
Any tendency I may have had to romanticise in such a way has been completely cured by joining this site  .
Aversion therapy rules, ok! Love is when you kiss all the time. Then when you get tired of kissing, you still want to be together and you talk more. | |||
| 25 Jul 11, 12:11 PM Xafar UK(S), 12 yrs £    |
my feet are made from clay... always have been... always will be... and i always make an effort to dissuade the other party against any notion that they are anything else... Mac
"Me Man Whore... You Jane..." | |||
| 25 Jul 11, 12:41 PM verte UK(E), 8 yrs |
I do entirely the opposite, and am thus occasionally pleasantly surprised. Railing against the tyranny of 'common sense'. | |||
| 25 Jul 11, 12:43 PM Reversed 23 mths |
I imagine that someone treading on your toes must be a shattering experience!
Love is when you kiss all the time. Then when you get tired of kissing, you still want to be together and you talk more. | |||
| 25 Jul 11, 1:38 PM Xafar UK(S), 12 yrs £ |
i have been crushed many a time me darling... many a time... ~sighs~ Mac
"Me Man Whore... You Jane..." | |||
| 25 Jul 11, 3:03 PM hollythedolly UK(NN), 2 yrs  |
yep sums me up | |||
| 25 Jul 11, 4:12 PM Cinnamon_Tart UK(S), 8 yrs |
Uh huh. And sometimes you tell us and tell us, and we hear you, but ignore you, and still love ya anyway. X Pleasure: quantified by piss enemas, service fucks, and unavoidable unstampable-on orgasms. |
