What do Doms get out of it...? (75)

Why thank you. It's nice to be appreciated. Sorting out the silly way you wrote at the top of your post, is also part of the service.

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Edited 22 Jul 11, 6:35 PM by Muzzlehatch

kirsty_m wrote: So would any of the Domly ones out there like to share why they enjoy it and what they get out of it?

I suspect this is maybe more of a question for people who do SM and not D/s, surely? I mean, as the Dom in a 24/7 relationship, I'm sharing my life with a woman who will do whatever I want, whenever I want her to do it, without question. I would hope I don't have to explain what I get out of that

"Morality, like art, means drawing a line someplace." - Oscar Wilde

Taken from my CM profile, which might help:

The mind is the largest erogenous zone in the human body. For me, this is where all of this is not in the genitals or other parts of the body.

You do not submit for the physical aspects but because of what it does to your mind and psyche. It is my intention to get to know the person and the mind, how you tick rather than just use your body for a brief sex session.

You can see on the left a list of what I like and enjoy, but what isn't listed is the enjoyment I get from getting a submissive into "space" nor the power I feel when I get you into that position of total submission to me.

Your Milage May Vary

I never find it hard work but maybe that's because we live together and know each other way. If I am feeling dominant but not particularly energetic the session will reflect that. He works hard too as he has to do what he is told when he is told whether he wants to or not.

So in essence I suppose what I am saying is that we work equally hard but in different ways.

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Edited 22 Jul 11, 6:56 PM by DominaFire

With BDSM you can go into some special territories / spaces ( emotionally and psychologically ), which other people don't get to.

Also, it is ( or can be ) great fun!

I love it for so many reasons, the bond, the service like gettin cooked for, cleaned for, not having to lift a finger, the pamperin like the massages, nice candle-lit baths, the spoilin, the way they react, their face as you do anything at all, good or bad, how much they want to please you...

I love being dominant, I love tying a sub up and teasing them. I love their anticipation before you strike them with a crop or pour wax on them. I love their reaction when you pretent to crop them but don't. I love exploring and finding those little places that touching or licking sends them wild. I love a sub to pleasure me using their mouth. I looooove the cuddles and kisses afterwards

I even love introducing new subs to the scene, working with them, the highs and the lows as they discover what they like/can take. Oooooh, I'm not long back from playing for 3 days with an especially cute little subbie who whimpered and moaned and didn't get release at all. Damn now that was hot.

So yeah I'm guessing the being dominant is OK

1) Because there is nothing like sending a woman into a total sexual frenzy for several hours to make you think "Who da man" ?

2) Because you can drag her upstairs by her hair, leave her tightly bound and gagged on the bed, and ignore her for an hour or so whilst you drink beer and watch "Match of the Day" and it counts as foreplay.

S.x.

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