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| Tue 19 Jul 11, 11:49 AM Miss_Deviant_2011  UK(SE), 11 mths £   |
I don't think I'll ever get rich doing this as am turning more away than accepting... LOL. Had a session with a guy, who disappointingly, turned out NOT to be the pain slut he'd led me to believe he was...Grrrr!!!! I think I scared the shit out of him!!!!!!! Needless to say we will not be seeing each other again. Lesson learnt: To ask MORE questions about the subs previous 'actual' experience as oppose to just listening to their fantasies!!!!! Went to my 1st event a couple of weeks back and talked a Domme into letting me have a go with her bullwhip, not on a sub, just in an empty room. I nearly took my own eye out!!!!! Much more practice me thinks... LOL This is a real learning curve for me but still loving every minute. Have a few subs who have become my practice slaves so my confidence is building. Sending love to all the Dommes xxxxxxx | ||
| 19 Jul 11, 12:13 PM Sam333 20 mths |
Best wishes and good luck....keep having fun | ||
| 19 Jul 11, 2:02 PM Charlie_G UK, 2 yrs |
Learn this... You are the dreamweaver. A smart mistress would have sent the guy home thinking he HAD taken loads and fulfilled his fantasy... not yours. That's what people pay for.
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| 19 Jul 11, 3:19 PM Lady_Lancashire 23 mths £ |
There are some people who just want a physical experience with no head-play but even then you have to use psychology to tease out exactly what they want to get out of it and someone declaring themselves to be a painslut, whether a client or not, is talking about an umbrella that covers a number of things, not least variations from scene-to-scene but fluctuations of tolerance level. Hitting people is easy, getting their headspace right is not.
The Red Rose Whispers Of Passion (J o'B R) | ||
| 19 Jul 11, 3:51 PM Miss_Deviant_2011 UK(SE), 11 mths £ |
Thanks for the advice, like I said I'm on a learning curve, have also found out I don't know nearly as much as I thought I did!!!!!! | ||
| 19 Jul 11, 3:52 PM Miss_Deviant_2011 UK(SE), 11 mths £ |
Now I feel rally stupid......Doh!!!!! Thanks for the comment, will take that piece of advice and use it well. Thanks again. xx | ||
| 19 Jul 11, 6:51 PM Souci_X UK(BA), 5 yrs |
I think this is key to be honest. No one likes to walk away feeling that they failed, even less so when money changed hands. | ||
| 19 Jul 11, 7:00 PM Mistress_Emerald UK(LE), 6 yrs £ |
Had a session with a guy, who disappointingly, turned out NOT to be the pain slut he'd led me to believe he was...Grrrr!!!! I think I scared the shit out of him!!!!!!! Needless to say we will not be seeing each other again. So his interpreation of the term was different from yours and you then proceeded to "scare the shit out of him" I am left to assume that you still charged him and he left with no doubt a memory of a very disappointing and disturbing session. Should we expect a thread on here from him about how bad pro dommes are or maybe he will be put off from visiting anybody again, or if he does someone will have to 'mend' him first. As you have admitted you are on a learning curve but announcing your failures here will not promote confidence in your skills.You are trusted with peoples bodies, minds and fantasies all of which are very delicate. Please ensure you can really fly before going solo to use an aviation term. For those seeking 'Venus in Furs' Domination can be elegant. www.mistressemerald.co.uk | ||
| 19 Jul 11, 7:07 PM tanken UK(NR), 2 yrs |
Another thing to consider is that the ability or willingness to accept pain varies very much with mood. Personally, I'm only feeling masochistic when I am sexually aroused to a degree at least. Other times I may not like it at all.
We are fickle creatures
Happiness is a warm bum | ||
| 20 Jul 11, 2:17 PM Miss_Katie_TV UK(SL), 4 yrs £ |
As you say you are new and are on a "Learning curve" I think you always will be, I have been doing this for some years and am still learning. Never think you know it all because there will always be somthing new, but thats what makes it fun. Best of luck. Katie
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| 20 Jul 11, 3:52 PM Lustful ES, 2 yrs |
Bad analogy: first solo doesn´t mean the pupil pilot can really fly, it means the pilot has a fair chance of make a reasonable landing after a quick circuit.
All I ask is a tall ship and a star to steer her by. Edited 20 Jul 11, 4:10 PM by Lustful |
