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| Sun 10 Jul 11, 7:52 PM icy_one 11 mths  |
Ok I'll probably get crucified for this but i will do as i have been advised and ask for some feedback on my situation. I am been in a D/s relationship for about 1 year,I was allowed to retain some independence, i worked and was allowed to see friends, He had the ultimate say but i never felt stifled or was afraid to say what i felt. For the past couple of months things have been changing, He no longer allowed me to spend time with my friends and i reduced my hours at work as He felt it was intruding on our time together. He stopped treating me as a person and i became a possession. He became cold and detached. All affection was withdrawn and last week He decided to draw up a contract for me to sign, I did not feel i could agree to everything he wanted but he would not compromise I now need to decide if i can go back and resume our life together or move on The chains that bind my mind are stronger than the chains that bind my body | ||
| 10 Jul 11, 7:55 PM Perplexion 13 mths |
You could sign the agreement but move on at any time. Doesn't sound as though things were as enjoyable lately as they had been, though. | ||
| 10 Jul 11, 7:58 PM Ms_Valentine UK, 9 yrs  |
Move on and quickly. I do not think the way the relationship you were in was developing sounded healthy or beneficial to you. You felt uncomfortable about it, did not sign the contract and walked. Keep on walking, head held high. A Fine Norfolk Domme. Mistress of @paulss My PD blog at http://mistress-keene.blogspot.com/ | ||
| 10 Jul 11, 8:00 PM Alphasort UK(YO), 3 yrs |
From what you have said so far, and without knowing any further details, I would say move on. In my view a D/s relationship is about the D caring for the s and taking her views and opinions into consideration. What you have described is a control freak, not a Dominant. But from a few lines of a post it is impossible to know all the implications and we are only getting one side of the story here. | ||
| 10 Jul 11, 8:02 PM Anna_List UK(BD), 2 yrs |
WHAT!? This is unhealthy and in the long term absolutely not good for you.
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| 10 Jul 11, 8:02 PM AngelFingers1 UK(CH), 2 yrs |
Manipulation.....I wouldnt have it.
But you are you, not me.
You arent happy or you wouldnt have posted.
Please search your heart....and go with it. All the best. Oh Yes....and the sun will set for YOU. | ||
| 10 Jul 11, 8:03 PM icy_one 11 mths |
I always did my best to please Him, i agreed with all he wanted as i cared so much for him.
The chains that bind my mind are stronger than the chains that bind my body | ||
| 10 Jul 11, 8:03 PM teufel_tanz UK(HA), 7 yrs |
Whilst it seems a difficult situation with no easy answers, what is the point of signing a contract which isn't agreeable / possible for both sides ? Without knowing specifics or your situation, you say "I did not feel i could agree to everything...", does this mean you wouldn't like everything (in which case the contract success would depend on the type of relationship you have) or you would not be able to fulfil everything (in which case, there seems little point in agreeing to everything). As has been said above, it doesn't seem as though the relationship is what you both want at this time, but it is only you who can say if it is one in which you wish to continue in. If it was good up until the recent past, could you not both explore why things have changed ? or try to see if things can revert to a better time ? TT Edited 10 Jul 11, 8:08 PM by teufel_tanz | ||
| 10 Jul 11, 8:04 PM fellatrix UK, 2 yrs |
You clearly have major doubts about the way the relationship is progressing. Take some time out (on your terms) to think about what you need. Why would anyone be in a relationship that didn't make them happy? | ||
| 10 Jul 11, 8:07 PM icy_one 11 mths |
Like any D/s relationship i often had to do things i didn't like, that was never a problem or an issue. I wanted to serve and please Him This change involves things that have always been a hard limit for me, things he knows are above what i can do
The chains that bind my mind are stronger than the chains that bind my body | ||
| 10 Jul 11, 8:09 PM Dissident UK(EC), 5 yrs |
Sounds like this guy is using a d/s situation to mask being an overly possessive and abusive douche. Move on. Find someone better. Shouldnt be hard Good luck! |
