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| Sun 10 Jul 11, 3:06 PM DonthaveAname 3 yrs |
Can two submissives. one male and one female only. (sorry to be direct but want to know if these type of couples work) Ive possibley spent years looking for a partner who is dominant. though maybe i should look for a partner who like me is submissive and we have our own rules from the offset regarding play. Vanilla - would be a normal couple. Do these couples work? Is there any couples out there, who enjoy this or is it just swinging, then would be bdsm swinging. Views please. thanks. Edited Sun 10 Jul 11, 9:01 PM by DonthaveAname | |
| 10 Jul 11, 3:15 PM dougie159  UK(KA), 7 yrs     |
I would have thought that at least one of the couple would have to be switch. i don't think two subs could make it work as if true subs then how the hell do you work out who's going to do what when. 273-797-178 (may well be wrong which of course would be a novelty.......cough) Don't knock down fences until you know why they were put up. | |
| 10 Jul 11, 3:16 PM bohnanza UK(FK), 12 yrs  |
There are plenty of instances of a dominant/submissive couple not working. So orientation may not be a very critical factor. Rohypnol means never having to say "Would you like another coffee?". | |
| 10 Jul 11, 3:19 PM mia UK(M), 4 yrs      |
It could work, especially if you would be willing to let each other play with others, either as singles and/or as a couple. I would imagine issues of jealousy could cause problems though and not in the traditional sense of someone else touching/sleeping/playing with your partner, but if one of the two of you got more attention from dom(me)s than the other. However, if you both know where you stand in terms of ever playing with each other and topping for each other or not and where you both stand in playing with others, then aye, why not eh? x Quick Lynn, run, they're sex people | |
| 10 Jul 11, 3:20 PM sassyslut US, 21 mths |
It would depend on what you mean as couple? romance love or focused on play? if they are together love each other and share more than kink or sex it might work, as some couples even here started together as nillas an then moved into kink for one or both of them. but i imagine there would be compromises an they would have to find play outside their relationship either together or by themselves, that play might or not involve sex with peopel outside the couple. But honestly there are the oddest couples in the world whom you think cant have anything in common but are extremly happy together, it all comes down to their love trust communication and chemistry after all.
Ladran Sancho!! seņal de que avanzamos. | |
| 10 Jul 11, 3:43 PM IndelibleMarker UK(E), 6 yrs  |
Yes, it can work. One person will probably naturally take more of a leading role. Sticking two subs together is one of the best ways to bring out Dominant tendancies in at least one of them! In terms of play though, it may help more more intense play with there were people who could Dominate them individually... Or as a couple. How about finding yourself a Dom/Domme couple? Patrick | |
| 10 Jul 11, 4:26 PM DonthaveAname 3 yrs |
I am happily owned actually. its more to have a social thing. someone i can go out to events with not being needy to a Mistress. So it might be i just need a single lady who is domme but understands im owned... Tg was amazing last night, apart from bar took along time. got me thinking. Thats why i started this thread.
Edited 10 Jul 11, 4:28 PM by DonthaveAname | |
| 10 Jul 11, 4:28 PM sassyslut US, 21 mths |
you mean such as a friend? Ladran Sancho!! seņal de que avanzamos. | |
| 10 Jul 11, 4:33 PM gagmequick UK(OX), 2 yrs |
This is an intrihuing Thread and one that I've been pondering myself for a while. Like the OP I have longed for a lovely Domme/Gorlfriend. That would be all my dreams come true, but have struggled to find someone. I have wondered if I should extend my search to Submissive Women, and that we would have a Vanilla relationship together, but be Dommed by other people. Jealousy might be an issue, and if I had Sub as my Girl, but she had Master or Mistress, II would be exceptionally unhappy if anything sexual went on. By the same degree if I had a Mistress, thiose limits would be in place for me to. Thank you OP for starting this, I shall follow it with interest! | |
| 10 Jul 11, 6:19 PM mesmerone UK(E), 5 yrs |
Me and @Silanah have been together for ten years, and we're a sub/sub couple. Mostly. | |
| 10 Jul 11, 9:03 PM Andy_Herts UK(N), 5 yrs |
I would think a sub/sub partnership could prove very successful-potentially more so than a kinkster with a vanilla partner. I have had some very fine partnerships with people over the years who weren't kinksters in the slightest,and where kink was not part of the relationship. Also people manage to get their vanilla partners to indulge them too with some success. At least a sub/sub partnership could be honest with each other from the outcome and understand each others needs. But I think a relationship would need to be based on more than kink for it to work. |
