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| Tue 5 Jul 11, 12:09 PM NightSprite UK(EN), 4 yrs   |
OK, I was out shopping on Saturday with my Sister and her best friend as a birthday present. (Which is today, btw) A proper girly shopping trip. Whilst my Sister was off dealing with something else, me and her friend was talking about stuff and we started talking about my fetish interests. About Femdom, restraints and all that jazz. Even told her about the branding. She seemed all very interested and non-pluss about the whole thing. I said that should come along to the LFF, if she wanted to. To which she asked if she would be allowed. So, I wonder, are "vanillas" generally accepted at events? Is it like mixing of oil and water? Bind me, beat me, bugger me! | ||
| 5 Jul 11, 12:10 PM valleyrose17 UK(BS), 2 yrs |
Happy Birthday. No idea bout your question although I would have thought she would be welcome. | ||
| 5 Jul 11, 12:15 PM Kinkytalk UK(PR), 4 yrs |
An interesting situation. I go to a biker's bar in my hometown and when the rock music events are on this seems to bring out presumably 'vanilla' people but they dress up in leather, pvc, lace etc. They could be practicing but if they aren't on the websites you use we will never know unless fetish crops up in conversation.
A guy I drank with sussed me out and vice versa and he had been practicing for years. A main Goth event I also attend definitely attracts practicing kinksters. Talk to me on the phone and see our friendship develop . | ||
| 5 Jul 11, 12:18 PM KinkyRoly UK(OX), 3 yrs |
It doubtless depends on the precise event, but there shouldn't be any problem at LFF. At A&R we have always had a policy of welcoming newcomers and that has inevitably involved some people bringing vanilla partners. Last month, one gorgeous lady brought her Mum along too. It's never been a problem. | ||
| 5 Jul 11, 12:18 PM Lj_switch UK, 3 yrs  |
My immediate reaction is "how the hell do you tell if someone is 'nilla? I'm not aware of having to take a test to prove I'm kinky before being let in. Just so long as she doesn't faint in horror at the first fetish-dressed person, or say "eeeeugh that's sick".
Just forewarn her of the sort of things she may encounter and then hold her hand, mentally or physically be a switch, double your fun | ||
| 5 Jul 11, 12:21 PM SueDunim UK(YO), 21 mths |
If I was running things, a curious, well-behaved nilla* would be far more welcome than the creeps, the I'm-fascinating-cos-of-how-I-like-to-fuck bores and the “a sub=my sub” brigade.
*as far as you know, label correct at time of going to press Well I would absolutely love you to give me a long, hard, disciplinary hearing, because you know what I'd have at the end of it? A big, fat compensation payment. So go ahead. Give me one. | ||
| 5 Jul 11, 12:21 PM Daddy_SirHC UK(DA), 3 yrs |
Of course nillas would be welcomed, until we come out and admit we are all a bunch of raving perverts to the rest of the world we are nillas. We all have to start somewhere, and in comparison to many in this lifestyle, I would be considered more nilla than kink, to others, I would appear to be an out of control perve. Take her, advise her on her attire and protocols and ensure that she enjoys the night and see where it goes. Your Milage May Vary | ||
| 5 Jul 11, 12:22 PM NightSprite UK(EN), 4 yrs |
Well, the way she reacted was very much like it was a paid up exclusive membership!!
Bind me, beat me, bugger me! | ||
| 5 Jul 11, 12:23 PM Graci_e UK, 5 yrs |
Of course she would be sweetie - everyones welcome at the LFF we open the doors to any and all so long as your not drunk or underage (is she underage ?!:D:P) | ||
| 5 Jul 11, 12:25 PM Daddy_SirHC UK(DA), 3 yrs |
She has shown an interest and curiosity, she may not be as nilla as you think or believe, she was with her best friend, but interested enough to ask, you have the opportunity to bring another into this world, take it and do so responsibly. Remember if she wasn't a little curious, then she wouldn't have asked the questions and asked about going to an event, just make sure it is not a heavy BDSM night that will scare the beejesus out of her Your Milage May Vary | ||
| 5 Jul 11, 12:53 PM bohnanza UK(FK), 12 yrs  |
A much better question to ask is will they like being at an event? As said above, you cannot tell if someone has an interest in BDSM by looking at them. Plenty of people will only go to an event once never to be seen again, it just wasn't for them. There will be plenty of things you have tried only once. Take them to an event and if they don't like it let them go home. Rohypnol means never having to say "Would you like another coffee?". |
