Unexpected attraction (18)

I don't express this side of me in terms of crossdressing, but the word 'camp' does come up a lot in reference to me. In fact, the other day I was described as 'comfortably camp' which kind of sums me up very nicely.

And with the risk of sounding like a tree-hugging hippie, yes, I'm quite comfortable with saying I'm a mixture of yin and yang. What I've come to discover, though, is that things definitely work best for me when I'm with someone who mirrors that mix; someone whose yin-yang matches my yang-yin.

Maaan

~Twistee~

(edited for clumsy phrasing)

Everything is better with a twist

Edited 1 Jul 11, 4:39 PM by Twistee

It's funny, I would never say I have a 'type', it's a lot to do with a person as a whole (and not just in a stereotypical 'personality' way, a person's walk can do a lot for me).

But again, to answer the OP, yea, I get unexpected attractions all the time, some good, some bad, all surprising. In fact, it may be safe to say that I find most of my attractions a surprise because there's rarely a correlation between them.

Northeastern_light wrote: Firstly! I'm being 'very' general here and this isn't directed at anyone, I'm just blethering on! as it's an interesting subject There is a strong likelihood that peer behaviour, might have an influence on tastes and the excepted 'social norm'. In respect of that: the social façade is formed at an early age or at the puberty stage, or better known as social conditioning I.E. 'your friends like manly men, so you like them also'. I'm not meaning this as being false or disingenuous, or trying to meet other people's expectation! I mean it's a form of unintentional sublime social programming, learnt at an early age through peer networks. Another theory could be: a female might have had an 'alpha' type mother or father, who has inherited this taint and is unlikely to find the competing competition from dominant male, attractive (or symbolised by looking very manly) or as an ideal recipe for a successful relationship. I mean this as in partnership beyond the bedroom. I am being 'rather' general here! As I don't know! My post is only intended to widen the debate, on a very interesting subject

That's all actually really interesting. I hadn't thought of any of those before.

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Please note that the above is my opinion. It may not be the same as your's so does that make it wrong?
Be careful what you wish for, you may just get it - and then some!

sodsta wrote: That's all actually really interesting. I hadn't thought of any of those before.

Thank you

It's just a theory of mines, and it might not even be true, in relation to the OP's original question, but thought I would try to expand on it

The problem I find with these type's of questions and subsequent replies is: people tend to agree, that they have at one time or another; experienced these type's of human 'awakings' for one reason or another but have fail to actually expore the reason or reasons, for this and subsequently, don't actually offer any answers or any type of constructive input.

I realise this website is merely a 'lightheart' causal information site, and maybe it's not suitable for lengthy debate about subconscious behaviour and trying to understand it.

If I simplified my theory with a some silly random question, like: "Why did you buy an I-phone", people would probably post about apps, internet access and picture's! which doesn't actually answer the question

I believe the term 'hey ho' is a good metaphor

typos

Edited 3 Jul 11, 1:28 AM by Northeastern_light

Apologies in advance for any worse-than-usual waffle; I'm receiving medical treatment for a hangover of pathological proportions.

This reminded me of a post on fetlife about how a woman had always chosen the type of men she thought she should be attracted to (and was attracted to, in some respects), but the relationships had all failed to last.

She finally sat down and asked herself honestly what she really needed in a man. Doing as he was told was near the top of the list, of course- but she dropped all sorts of things like 'macho, tall, dark, socially accomplished' etc, and ended up with a shy but very nice and intelligent geek whose psychological 'style' complimented hers, rather than matching it. And they've now been married 15 years, and not the least sign of serious trouble.

My gf's 'style' compliments mine in that same way. I'm still slightly surprised because she's a lot more serious-minded than I ever thought I would be attracted to in a woman, and yet somehow it all just works.

If you do what that woman did and just focus on the true essentials- the few things you really need in a relationship partner- and just give people a chance, then yes- you will probably be surprised at who stays in your 'keep' net. And very surprised at how happy they can make you.

Edited 3 Jul 11, 11:14 AM by JustTony

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