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| 11 Jul 11, 3:13 PM BigOldHector UK(DE), 10 yrs   |
What a strange question. You are talking about a "D/s relationship" right? Not a session? Do you really imagine people are "in role" 24/7 because their relationship is 24/7 and they happen to be D/s? All icy coldly uberdomly or wormy/grovelly the whole of the time, like they don't have personalities beyond their particular kink? Yes. Laughing together at the same things is one of the things that brings people closer together in any relationship, isn't that obvious. The only dealbreaker is treating the D/s dynamic itself as a big joke where the other person takes it seriously.
I AM THE GOD OF HELL-FIRE!.....but its my lunch break right now | |
| 11 Jul 11, 3:57 PM Mentor_2012 UK(PO), 4 yrs |
I would personally find BDSM without shared humour to be a very scary practice. Doubtless a harsh, humourless Dominant might suit some subs, but BDSM without humour is, for me, a hard limit.
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| 12 Jul 11, 9:09 AM Ms_Valentine UK, 9 yrs |
Oh thank you, this is what I would have said if I had been at all with it. Some people can have such odd ideas about a 24/7 D/s relationship that I often think if you have to tell people how it is, they clearly lack the common sense or human awareness to even begin to get how it really is. Humour is but one kind of human response/emotion which is required along with all the other normal one sin a healthy relationship. Thinking that humour somehow reduces the whole of a relationship to parody and sham is crazy. What about a Dom/me showing grief or being ill. That doesn't ruin the relationship just because for a while they may not be on their top form. Various states of mind and reaction are part of human interaction and necessary for a fulfilling relationship. No one lives their life in one or even a couple of modes of behaviour.
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| 14 Jul 11, 10:49 PM pinkylucy UK(M), 9 yrs     |
Laughing together makes our D/s dynamic stronger. I love to laugh and so does my partner. She's also my Dominant and I'm her submissive and we still love to laugh. When we're rolling around clutching our sides laughing or just having a little shared giggle I feel my love for her all the more strongly. My love for her is a very strong motivation for putting effort into my submission. We take the D/s seriously, but that's because the D/s is the structure of our relationship and I do think it's important to take your relationships seriously. In order to maintain a happy relationship though you have to be happy together and when you're laughing together you know you're happy! "Don't Dream It, Be It" - The Rocky Horror Show 1973 | |
| 14 Jul 11, 11:08 PM Adverse_Camber UK, 3 yrs |
Smiling quietly as I recall the day he was tickling me so hard (in "scene") that I vomited with laughter...or was that because he suffocated me with his...manliness...after tickling me so hard I nearly peed? Howe'er it was, it got a tad messy... Anyways...as everyone else has said, how can you exist without laughter? Unless your nickname's Eeyore...then you should never laugh...or smile...or even subtly curve the corners of your mouth upward...EVER. "If you let me have my way, I swear I'll tear you apart..." | |
| 14 Jul 11, 11:14 PM DonthaveAname 3 yrs |
yes they can. its actually very important. In private, can be a another strength to the great agreement i have with my domina. |
