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| Sun 5 Jun 11, 9:53 AM gentlemusings UK(M), 19 mths     |
Can you spot indications that he or she is uncomfortable in your relationship, lying, cheating or thinking of it??? 1) Patting your back awkwardly while hugging you maybe a bad sign, because it shows they are uncomfortable. But It could just mean they are not outwardly affectionate, not necessarily lying or anything else... 2) Check to see if their eye's are looking up and to the left as they answer key questions. According to police interview technique notes, someone who does this is lying: the look to the left shows they using the “creative” side of his brain, so it's a good indicator that they are thinking of a good cover up story.... FACT: open communication can prevent a downward relationship spiral, so pay attention... So if anyone has any other good ways of spotting them.... SPILL!!! 3) ..... :::::. Most welcome bondage, for thou art a way, i think, to liberty .::::: William Shakespeare | ||
| 5 Jun 11, 10:04 AM Ianneil UK(N), 5 yrs  |
3)....http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=r8hjtFq3vE0&featu... | ||
| 5 Jun 11, 10:10 AM cheekyandtrouble UK(SL), 2 yrs     |
4) there breathing pattern can change "There are no gains without pains" ~Benjamin Franklin | ||
| 5 Jun 11, 10:12 AM chartreuse UK(BA), 6 yrs  |
With some people it's easier to read their body language than with others. Some postions/gestures can indicate more than one thing, it's often when it's too late that we learn which of them it meant. (When I say "too late" I mean that all becomes clear due to the outcome e.g. defensive body language can mean they feel uncomfortable with you and are trying to comfort themselves (discomfort is not always a bad thing, if a submissive displays this behaviour and it's desired by the dominant)... it can also mean they're hiding something you should know/be told). Some gestures are the result of an outward influence, others are because of an internal conflict/emotions - deciding which is which is a skill I have yet to perfect.
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| 5 Jun 11, 10:15 AM Olokun UK(S), 5 yrs |
Actually the eyes looking to top left isnt always sign as it can change if they are left handed. Interviwers normally ask control questions first to find the interviewee's correct pattern | ||
| 5 Jun 11, 10:23 AM gentlemusings UK(M), 19 mths |
Ohhh thanks for that! x :::::. Most welcome bondage, for thou art a way, i think, to liberty .::::: William Shakespeare | ||
| 5 Jun 11, 10:29 AM gentlemusings UK(M), 19 mths |
Also, Gut instinct is a good indicator, it's something that i've ignoured many times in the past but has seldom been wrong... Trusting you own intuition is hard, as you rarely want to believe what it's telling you! ** Note to self: Must pay more attention! :::::. Most welcome bondage, for thou art a way, i think, to liberty .::::: William Shakespeare | ||
| 5 Jun 11, 10:30 AM The_Dark_Prince UK(WR), 4 yrs |
Read a basic NLP book and that will tell you what to look out for regarding eye movemenet, control questions. Failing that ask Derren Brown round for a quick cuppa/interrogation session. He knows the shit. Be the change you want to see in the world. - Gandhi. | ||
| 5 Jun 11, 10:30 AM Ianneil UK(N), 5 yrs |
For example folded arms.... defensive or just feeling cold?
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| 5 Jun 11, 10:35 AM gentlemusings UK(M), 19 mths |
Check for goosebumps?? :::::. Most welcome bondage, for thou art a way, i think, to liberty .::::: William Shakespeare | ||
| 5 Jun 11, 10:38 AM gentlemusings UK(M), 19 mths |
Ohhh yeahhhh Derren Brown (swoons)
email sent: lets hope he's intriegued, do you think I should ask him to bring his own interrogation toys? :::::. Most welcome bondage, for thou art a way, i think, to liberty .::::: William Shakespeare |
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