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| River_Deep |
In my line of work I make contact with new people every day for consultations. I have business cards with my name and number on. I am on my company's website, with my details on there too. Not a problem...
...until someone decided to take a shine to me.
I met a client the other day for a consultation. The initial call was a bit weird with him constantly saying "when am I going to meet your lovely face" I shrugged it off to cultural differences and language barriers and arranged the meeting.
Bad move. During the meeting he asked me if I was single and also if the number he had for me was my personal number. I was truthful on both counts.
Yesterday a text came through asking me how I was and it was so nice to see me the other day. I ignored it. This morning I have just had one saying it is unfair that I ignored him yesterday.
I mentioned it to one of the managers at work about the way he was the other day and they also shrugged it off. I think I may have to be a bit more forceful when I go in today as I am not putting up with this from a client of the company.
Could do without this sort of attention at work!
Edited Thu 26 May 11, 10:49 AM by River_Deep
| 26 May 11, 11:09 AM reacher UK, 17 mths  |
I think your company ought to take this more seriously | ||
| 26 May 11, 11:09 AM Outlier UK(W), 2 yrs |
Some times, honesty is not the best policy! Personally, I am very careful not to blur the lines between business and private life. Depending upon what one does, this is not always as simple or straightforward as it seems - or in some cases indeed possible. But the old adage of not mixing business with pleasure is sage advice. "Nothing is so strong as gentleness, nothing so gentle as real strength" St Francis de Sales | ||
| 26 May 11, 1:06 PM River_Deep UK, 6 yrs |
I do hope you are not infering that this is my fault in any way? It is not what you say or do but the way you say or do it | ||
| 26 May 11, 1:11 PM Outlier UK(W), 2 yrs |
No, not at all. I suspect you are an intelligent lady. "Nothing is so strong as gentleness, nothing so gentle as real strength" St Francis de Sales | ||
| 26 May 11, 1:32 PM wonderer UK, 5 yrs |
Does your employer expect you to use your personal phone for work? Having separate phones would help keep things separate, especially if the work one was switched off outside of contracted hours. A good employer also ought to be able to provide some support if you're the target of unwelcome attention as a result of employment too. "Wisdom begins in wonder” (Socrates) | ||
| 26 May 11, 3:17 PM River_Deep UK, 6 yrs |
Yes they do know. It is common practice in my role. I do not have contracted hours due to the nature of my job. Management are now aware of the issue. It is not what you say or do but the way you say or do it | ||
| 26 May 11, 3:37 PM wonderer UK, 5 yrs |
Hope they manage to get the problem sorted for you then. Can't be very nice having a random pesterer, especially if it overlaps from work life to perosnal time.
Best wishes "Wisdom begins in wonder” (Socrates) | ||
| 26 May 11, 3:43 PM Outlier UK(W), 2 yrs |
Ditto. I hope it all works out OK.
"Nothing is so strong as gentleness, nothing so gentle as real strength" St Francis de Sales | ||
| 26 May 11, 3:44 PM magpieuk UK(LA), 5 yrs      |
I've been in a similiar situation. The thing is he's not actually done anything massively wrong just because he fancies you and has been a bit persistent about it. If in your next face to face meeting he makes a move (which from the sounds of it he will). Just decline, smile sweetly and say you think he's a lovely chap but no. You can't be mean just because he's fancy you - he shows good taste. If he then becomes a nuisance you can be stern and glary. Possibly fart or belch in his company. Not particularly professional but it might dispel some of your feminine mystique. | ||
| 26 May 11, 4:41 PM wonderer UK, 5 yrs |
I gather nose-picking can have a similar effect.
"Wisdom begins in wonder” (Socrates) |
