Recent Mistress scam (94)

But you could be a bit less misleading by turning your ad off when you state you aren't looking.

Rohypnol means never having to say "Would you like another coffee?".
Religion: It makes good people do bad things.

The really painful thing with this type of con is not so much the money but the feeling of stupidity at being somehow complicit in one's own con.

When ever I have been stiffed in business with unpaid invoices or undelivered goods there were always the warning signs that I chose to ignore. My greed, laziness or lust over riding my BS meter.

But then the same techniques that Derren B used to manipulate for entertainment, sales and con men use against use.

I don't want to get to a point of weary cynicism where all are potential cons till proven different neither do I want to be nieve and over trusting.

Maybe its a balancing act of being aware of the signs and being aware when our wishful thinking is making the decisions.

Perplexion - I do agree with iyour point regarding PD's as it can reflect on them when it shouldn't. Maybe I should have started this thread in that area instead of here.

One thing I will be is far more wary in the future with anyone offering the sort of thing I like.

Out of interest, did she say she was a professional or just that she needed to buy you your clothes in advance? It's often said that some 'non-professionals' ask for gifts or money that is not a payment but 'a tribute'. This is not allowed on IC unless one has the '£' icon on their profile and that sort of behaviour reflects very badly on the women who are genuinely looking for someone.

ETA: Did you talk on the phone?

Edited 23 May 11, 1:37 PM by Perplexion

All I can say is do your research before you send anyone money, whether they purport to be a person, a company, a charity or a dominatrix!

With regards to professional Dominatrices, most of the serious Mistresses have listings up on major sites, advertisements in magazines, a background of training at a dungeon or under a well-known Mistress, have expensive set-up and equipment, website with domain name, and are thus are unlikely to disappear into the ether.

As both a lifestyler and a professional Mistress, I can understand and empathise with the situation.

Ama_Sidero wrote: KinkyinCov wrote: Checked it out on Google maps, didn't think to use street view! I would think it would be difficult to see the actual house numbers in street view, wouldn't it? But then, I've never tried. Thankfully. Something just seems wrong about that. LOL

More reliable to check addresses would be the Royal Mail postcode checker service. That lists all addresses within a postcode.

Unfortunately Royal Mail sometimes gets it wrong and some other companies get their gazetteer from Royal Mail.

I'm not sure if the National Land & Property Gazetteer (NLPG) is available for general use, following an exercise to check all addresses it is updated with information from planning departments. But even this can thrown up the occasional query.

Some addresses are real, but they weren't registered as the address in common use. eg 27 - 31 have now been split into separate properties, or 27, 28, 29, 30 and 31 have now been converted into 27 - 31 or 'BDSM House' and divided into flats. Then there's always human error.

If there's an issue with the address, then it may also be an issue for Sat Nav, not sure how Google works, I assume that could also be affected.

So while all those sources can be a good guide and will generally be correct, there may be exceptions.

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Edited 23 May 11, 2:43 PM by Dovetail

Agreed that postcode checker is not infallible. They may miss some addresses that do exist through them being wrongly registered. But it won't include any addresses that don't exist.

I'm not so sure that I completely agree, I think, as it often is, it's down to degrees.

If I get stopped by a total stranger in the street, who spins me a tale about desperately needing a couple of quid for the bus fare or somesuch; if I've got a couple of quid spare I'll hand it over, just in case they're telling the truth. I've almost definitely been conned there, but I won't feel stupid or hurt in the slightest.

However, if, as is the case with the OP, I give a stranger a, presumably significant, lump of cash and then travel all the way down from Coventry to Bristol to an address that doesn't exist, then I would feel stupid, because I'd have been bloody stupid.

It's not about never trusting people, it's about simple common sense. I know that sounds harsh, but how many times do people need to be told to look both ways before they stop getting knocked over.

"Me and Kevin, we're just not the same"
Women are from Reigate, men are from Reigate. Not all of them of course, that would be silly, some are from Pimlico, or Cleethorpes, or that little village in Derbyshire who's name eludes me, or Bridlington, or Weston Super Mare, or Clac....

I can imagine Dom Littlewood, cheery little imp that he is, interviewing somebody dressed in a gimp mask on telly