23 May 11, 12:06 PM
tanken
UK(NR), 2 yrs
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sardax wrote:
stripped_warrior wrote:
The key problem with porn is less "immunity" more Apathy. I have on an external harddrive somewhere around 1.5Tb of varying pornography, some good, some bad, some eurotrash-esque dubbed rubbish of dubious quality and origin.
With porn once youve seen it you've seen most, it then becomes amcase of differing size and colour. Yes the cutting and format may change, but the techniques and positions remain relatively static. The only thing that changes is the pretty/gross young/ hung/ old/ vertically challenged/ mixgendered individual being that is the focus of the scene.
I meant more along the lines of a sub barely taking 20 strokes of a cane now needing 50+ from a dragon or similar.
P.s. I now only have around half a dozen films on my laptop, I too became apathetic toward pornography.
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This would make an interesting thread on itself.Being in the image business as it were, I'm interested how people manage to cope with the huge surfeit of imagery there is now. Whereas pre-Internet every video or photo was lovingly treasured and reviewed, now you need an attitude of jadedness to just deal with it all.Yet another damn distraction in the huge welter of distractions out there.
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I never got into pornography as photos of women on their own were always more attractive to me. At one time I used to visit the OWK website on a regular basis to look at the photos but the impact of so many images has worn off over time and these days I only ever look at the occasional femdom image and prefer the more subtle ones.
I don't need images for masturbation as my imagination is far too vivid for that 
Happiness is a warm bum
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23 May 11, 4:21 PM
Shypeachybottom
UK, 20 mths
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nastybstd wrote:
If you are into "play" you can experience everything and tick everything as on a checklist. More strokes, longer etc etc.
Maybe. Maybe you come to a time where your original list of "to do's" is complete. But surely I am not the only one who achieves goals and find new ones to chase?
And in a relationships despite "knowing" a person intimatly and thinking you know everything possible, I have to believe you never stop learning and evolving.
Activities, preferences and scenarios change as quickly as life itself. None of use ever get there IMO. There is too much to do , see and experience to have "done it all".
And just remember, there is a time limit on everything in life. No one gets out alive you know!
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^^ Agreed. It is just like life - your original "interests/to do" list modifies, adapts over time, refreshing itself quite naturally (and not necessarily by having "more" of the same thing). And in a relationship, there is always something new to learn about each other or to learn/discover together, and always things to enjoy and experience, and the intimacy of a good relationship provides its own intensity. There's a somebody I'm longing to see, I hope that he turns out to be, someone to watch over me
I'm a little lamb who's lost in the wood, I know I could always be good, to one who'll watch over me (Ella Fitzgerald)
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24 May 11, 2:17 PM
msmeow
UK, 2 yrs
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LondonShyGirl wrote:
nastybstd wrote:
If you are into "play" you can experience everything and tick everything as on a checklist. More strokes, longer etc etc.
Maybe. Maybe you come to a time where your original list of "to do's" is complete. But surely I am not the only one who achieves goals and find new ones to chase?
And in a relationships despite "knowing" a person intimatly and thinking you know everything possible, I have to believe you never stop learning and evolving.
Activities, preferences and scenarios change as quickly as life itself. None of use ever get there IMO. There is too much to do , see and experience to have "done it all".
And just remember, there is a time limit on everything in life. No one gets out alive you know!
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^^ Agreed. It is just like life - your original "interests/to do" list modifies, adapts over time, refreshing itself quite naturally (and not necessarily by having "more" of the same thing). And in a relationship, there is always something new to learn about each other or to learn/discover together, and always things to enjoy and experience, and the intimacy of a good relationship provides its own intensity.
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Both of these are premised on the prospect of a relationship - do you think it's the same for people who only enjoy casual play?
Since I'm still waiting for my dream dom to drop out of the sky conventiently into my lap my wariness of casual play comes a little bit from fear of I'll end up on a slippery slope when really I'm looking for something else altogether... |
24 May 11, 2:27 PM
nastybstd
UK(LU), 6 yrs
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msmeow wrote:
LondonShyGirl wrote:
nastybstd wrote:
If you are into "play" you can experience everything and tick everything as on a checklist. More strokes, longer etc etc.
Maybe. Maybe you come to a time where your original list of "to do's" is complete. But surely I am not the only one who achieves goals and find new ones to chase?
And in a relationships despite "knowing" a person intimatly and thinking you know everything possible, I have to believe you never stop learning and evolving.
Activities, preferences and scenarios change as quickly as life itself. None of use ever get there IMO. There is too much to do , see and experience to have "done it all".
And just remember, there is a time limit on everything in life. No one gets out alive you know!
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^^ Agreed. It is just like life - your original "interests/to do" list modifies, adapts over time, refreshing itself quite naturally (and not necessarily by having "more" of the same thing). And in a relationship, there is always something new to learn about each other or to learn/discover together, and always things to enjoy and experience, and the intimacy of a good relationship provides its own intensity.
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Both of these are premised on the prospect of a relationship - do you think it's the same for people who only enjoy casual play?
Since I'm still waiting for my dream dom to drop out of the sky conventiently into my lap my wariness of casual play comes a little bit from fear of I'll end up on a slippery slope when really I'm looking for something else altogether...
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I indulge in casual but not public play. For me the reaction I get from a sub dictates to some extent what happens/how far etc.
It is possible you try and recreate the same buzz/feelings/excitement as the first time or best time. Maybe you will push yourself further and harder in this quest.
I hope and suspect that when in a long term situation, it still progresses but in both a mental and physical form.
I doubt many total slaves turned 18 and after a quick fumble at the back of a night club new for sure they needed to be a slave! So progression might just be individuals maturing? The pleasure, I fear, will be all mine!
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24 May 11, 2:36 PM
Shypeachybottom
UK, 20 mths
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msmeow wrote:
LondonShyGirl wrote:
^^ Agreed. It is just like life - your original "interests/to do" list modifies, adapts over time, refreshing itself quite naturally (and not necessarily by having "more" of the same thing). And in a relationship, there is always something new to learn about each other or to learn/discover together, and always things to enjoy and experience, and the intimacy of a good relationship provides its own intensity.
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Both of these are premised on the prospect of a relationship - do you think it's the same for people who only enjoy casual play?
Since I'm still waiting for my dream dom to drop out of the sky conventiently into my lap my wariness of casual play comes a little bit from fear of I'll end up on a slippery slope when really I'm looking for something else altogether...
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I guess it depends on your definition of casual play. I wouldn't do totally casual one-off play, because I need some (sufficient) level of trust & intimacy. So even between long-term relationships, casual play for me implies that there has to be some kind of ongoing connection so that I feel confident that the Dom in question - even if we are not in a long-term relationship - does have a vested interest in my wellbeing and our ongoing "connection". So there would still be an ongoing process of "discovery" in such a context, which may or may not including increasing the intensity. Not sure if that answers your question?
There's a somebody I'm longing to see, I hope that he turns out to be, someone to watch over me
I'm a little lamb who's lost in the wood, I know I could always be good, to one who'll watch over me (Ella Fitzgerald)
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24 May 11, 2:40 PM
ThRobin
UK(SE), 19 mths
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I find that while I'm expanding in the scene and breaking new barriers for myself, I can always revert back to a simple naughty boy who just needs a spanking  |
24 May 11, 3:03 PM
totallycoverme
UK(M), 4 yrs
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the harder i play, the more i get desensitised to things.
i'm always looking for new highs and lows when it comes to s and m. having said that, i hope the shock of having my face slapped never leaves me coz i like what that does in my head It's nice to be important, but it's more important to be nice xx
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24 May 11, 3:32 PM
relaxed1
UK(BR), 6 yrs
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It's a slippery slope, IMHO. There always seems to be something new, something more. Unless you're immortal (or have a serious amount of spare time), in which case I guess there comes a point where "been there, done it, got the t-shirt" is inevitable. I hope not to live that long. I suspect I'll reach the point where an early night curled up around my girl means just that first. "A man who does not think for himself does not think at all." - Oscar Wilde
"If you go to see the woman, do not forget the whip." - Friedrich Wilhelm Nietzsche
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24 May 11, 3:38 PM
Shypeachybottom
UK, 20 mths
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totallycoverme wrote:
the harder i play, the more i get desensitised to things.
i'm always looking for new highs and lows when it comes to s and m. having said that, i hope the shock of having my face slapped never leaves me coz i like what that does in my head
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I wonder if that is the difference - S&M versus D/s - I am only interested in the latter. I wonder whether all/most people interested in S&M seek new highs/lows, and whether that is less important if your primary focus is on D/s? Just thinking aloud now. There's a somebody I'm longing to see, I hope that he turns out to be, someone to watch over me
I'm a little lamb who's lost in the wood, I know I could always be good, to one who'll watch over me (Ella Fitzgerald)
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24 May 11, 9:15 PM
AshUK
UK(EN), 7 yrs
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I can relate to this question. And I think slippery slope is a good phrase for it.
When I first started in the scene ( nearly ten years ago now ! ) I was quite happy to tie girls up and do bad things to them. Occasionally involving hot toffee sauce, but I digress.
And now.... while I'm the first to admit that I'm not the lust-crazed dangerous maniac that my stories would suggest, my tastes have certainly become progressively more extreme over the years.
I do worry. Genuinely. I'm nearly 40. What the fuck am I going to be doing in another 10 years - hiding in the bushes outside primary schools with a meat cleaver ? " When I am King, you will be first against the wall. "
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