Safewords (8)

Have you tried using a non-verbal safeword, such as dropping a bell or hankie?

Never feel a failure a lot of subs have the same problems. I am sure from what you say you have an experienced and perfect master, who does normally read the signs. But somtimes in play it is difficult on both sides to spot the signs in the heat of the moment. I think the important thing for you both is that you have a sane and sensible master(again from what I read he is)

If this is the case he will not cause any lasting damage and will cherish the special gift a sub gives. What master in the right mind would want to chance loosing that.

But yes explore through discussion other forms of communication eye/hand contact perhaps I used to take one subs hand at regular intervals and she would squeeze in a certain way to signify enough. Replace green red amber safe words with 1 2 or 3 fingers extended.

Master P (DomXmale)

I know exactly how you feel darling. Speaking is the last thing I'm able to do when playing. It does make our role playing especially difficult for MM He chooses scenes that require minimum verbal from me. That said, because of my disability MM has learned very quickly how to read my body signals. He knows that the droop of my shoulders or the drop of left arm means I've had enough. These things I do automatically, without thinking so it works very well.

And darling it's not failure on your part. Failure (and I hate the word) is when you try something with only half your heart. If you give your all and do your best, then as I told my daughters at exam time, you have succeeded! It's the very same principle.

I don't think the word "failure" is in your Master's vocabulary when he describes you my lovely girl!

warm wishes kikki xxxxx

kikki{MM} "I finally got it all together...then I forgot where I put it!"

Melody I think what Master P says is wise. These things happen sometimes - even with the best of intentions on both parts.

You don't have to have a weird and wonderful safeword - like sausages. All it has to be is something you would not normally say in the heat of passion. Something you won't forget is always helpful too! What about something from your course - then for a bonus it might help with your revision! Ever practical that's me!

Or the non verbal suggestions - would they work best??

Hoping that you find the solution that makes you feel secure and safe with your Master because he does seem right for you (from what you say).

Hugs xx

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Thank you, yes I need to explore a non-verbal safeword. I am going to give it some thought.

melody

Your words are so encouraging. I know I've bagged myself one of the best and I intend to keep him. Master knows me very well, I would hate the responsibility of being 'up top'.

In my opinion it's a lot of hard work for not very much in return.

mel xx

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Thanks Anomie,

What about 'per incuriam' - that's bound to be a passion killer?

Melody

Yep it has certainly killed any passion I ever felt!! Sounds like some venerial disease to me - have you swapped courses??

xx