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| Thu 12 May 11, 9:30 PM cheekyandtrouble UK(SL), 2 yrs       |
My Dom and I were having a talk a while back about you send a message on a fetish site and they read it and you get no response back. For me it doesnt bother me as in the past thats rarely been the case. For him it really annoyed him and thought it was rude for not a response back. So I mentioned that us females subs do get a heck of alot of messages from Doms and we dont and cant always have the time to reply back. He says sure but I knew he didnt realise how much it does fill your inbox up for female subs. So to prove a point I opened up an account on a well known fetish site with hardly any details in and within one day the inbox was full of messages from Doms of 5 pages. What are your thoughts on no replies? Do you consider the fact the person you sent it to may have tonnes of messages to sive through. I dont know what its like from the male side as im not a male, but feel free to add to this thread. p.s. not a fab speller. Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional. Edited Thu 12 May 11, 9:31 PM by cheekyandtrouble |
| 12 May 11, 9:39 PM bohnanza UK(FK), 12 yrs  |
A collection of thoughts can be found here and here. Rohypnol means never having to say "Would you like another coffee?". |
| 12 May 11, 9:40 PM mroberts UK(EH), 6 yrs  |
I try and reply to all of them but I completely understand why people don't having seen some of the memos that get sent around. |
| 12 May 11, 9:43 PM girl_arachne 21 mths |
I originally tried to be polite and reply to all the messages, but in the end it just got silly! Especially when I found myself replying to messages apologising for not having replied to their first message within 5 minutes of reading it. So i came to the conclusion that I'd delete the ones that were clearly bollocks but reply to the rest. And I still got complaints!
So now I haphazardly delete idiotic ramblings without the slightest hint of guilt; dish out a healthy dose of sarcasm to those who are mad, and frighten away anyone who sounds even vaguely normal by being overly sceptical. But it's all good fun Better to win, by admitting my sin, than to lose with a halo... |
| 12 May 11, 9:46 PM Dommy_nick UK(WS), 6 yrs |
I don't know what it is that I do, but I don't get bombarded by memos from men or women for that matter. I do use this site to keep in touch with friends or compliment someone on their pictures or profiles I like, but I don't have an ad up. Do you think it's my profile which stops me getting bad memos? In fact, my profile has gone through several incarnations and the only time I got several memos at once was when I did have an ad up looking for playmates. It stopped when I took my ad down, and that was a few years ago. Dommy_nick Licence to perve! |
| 12 May 11, 9:49 PM MisstressvsSolicedog UK(NN), 17 mths |
yup some are time bandit's sending 10-100's of message's in the hope of responce, some expect a reply, because thier a 'dom', but realisticly your time can be better spent on other things rather than potenualy wasteing hour's even with a copy and paste reply to each one,, a simple message in the profile can help eliviate any feelings of guilt Please excuse crap spelling cause i,m rubbish |
| 12 May 11, 9:52 PM epona74 UK(SL), 7 yrs |
I will reply if the memo is worth replying to. I get (reasonably regularly) memos from some knob who claims that he's just "finished reading my profile" and then goes on to describe how we'd be perfect for each other. Which proves that he's lying on at least one front: he clearly hasn't read my profile, since the first paragraph on my profile includes the following "I'm a lesbian. That means lots of things to lots of people, but to me, it means I won't be dating men. I won't play with men. I'm also not going to play with, date, or have sex with your girlfriend, wife or lover as an “experience”, a “gift” or for any other reason. I'm not a commodity to be given away!" He's not the only one, but by far the most verbose-his memo is quite long! So yeah... The knobs get deleted (or taken the piss out of). Anyone who actually writes a sensible memo gets a reply.
It works for me For every minute you are angry you lose sixty seconds of happiness. (Ralph Waldo Emerson) |
| 12 May 11, 9:52 PM beauvoir UK(B), 2 yrs |
I rarely reply. I don't care. |
| 12 May 11, 10:10 PM Dissident UK(EC), 5 yrs |
Due to the fact I know how many messages female subs get I don't even tend to bother with the online stuff. Much prefer to meet people face to face then add on IC or wait for subs to contact me. Never been one for competing for attention. I do however, respond to the message that i am sent. Written on a phone, so please excuse any mistakes |
| 12 May 11, 10:18 PM rocco_43 UK(RM), 2 yrs |
I always reply to memos sent to me, even if it is to say thanks but no thanks. Its just common curtesy to me to do so  |
| 12 May 11, 10:23 PM StUdZ1 UK(ME), 17 mths |
I don't send out memos because I am really happy with my brat. I don't feel the need to go telling other 'subs' that they have to bow to my every order, I think it is just rude and derogitory(not sure I spelt that right). |
