Posted by Ariane on Mon 9 May 11, 8:41 AM to Ariane's blog.
Ok, even allowing for men only being able to think with one head at a time...
Morning messages today include a Dom over at CM who I've spoken to casually and pointed out that I would have no interest in as he's Dom, dropping me a message that said "I'd really enjoy fucking you."
Internal voice says "I'll bet you would, but it's not mutual." The fingers just clicked the delete button.
I come over here and have a message from someone who is apparently switch, having exchanged a couple of messages, and suddenly he's making demands that include taking him out to lunch and a profile that has suddenly developed God complex.
What's with these guys? Do they believe that ANY woman, much less a Domme, is going to go weak at the knees in the face of classless demands?
So I look at the forums, and there is a post by someone I don't know, presumambly sub, saying that she received a message that said only, "Come talk to me cunt."
You have to wonder what's in the water, or star configurations.
Let me explain it in words of no more syllables than absolutely necessary to any males reading this:
1. I don't sub.
2. Demands are a BIG turn-off.
Seriously, I don't even think of them as men or human when they talk like this.
3. Women expect at least basic respect. Yes, including sub women, most of them. There may be exceptions, I wouldn't know. I do know a lot of sub women and ALL of them that I'm acquainted with look for a certain level of class and respect before they will submit to a Dom.
4. This demanding approach speaks of insecurity and compensation. You won't get respect for it.
I have a lot of friends who are male Doms. They are people who treat others, men and women, with respect and show some class. What they do with their subs in private is none of my business, but you can bet that they didn't get together through the demand approach. Oh yes, most of them have long-term relationship subs. Some are married to them.
I know it's a fairly common male Dom fantasy to have a strong woman kneel to them. Personally I've been known to have contempt for Doms who suddenly decide to become subs.
But let me make this clear. I don't do sub. It's not in me. I tried it once with a trusted long term partner and had the giggles the whole time. It was a waste of time, it's just not happening.
And I'm sure as hell not going to give the time of day to some twat that thinks he can make demands of me. It's an absolute guarantee of rejection.
I won't tell you what to do with your unrealistic fantasy. Somewhere in the world there are Dom/mes who submit only to a partner and that's their business, not mine.
But don't bother with me. I'm pointing and laughing at your small willy.
| 9 May 11, 9:23 AM Sissy_girl UK(M), 4 yrs      |
Brilliant . Cicely by name & sisserly by nature | |
| 9 May 11, 9:38 AM CarolinaMoon IE, 5 yrs |
I went through an openly switch period. It was amazing how many dom men approached me on the quiet to tell me that they were secretly sub or looking to explore etc but would never openly admit to it. And I can honestly say that I have gotten involved with a guy who's first contact was rude or demanding. I like a polite man whether dom, sub or switch. Ah go on, get your kit off....you know you want to... | |
| 9 May 11, 2:14 PM The_TOGmeister UK(BA), 4 yrs  |
Having said all that, I know lots of Dom/Domme couples who have been happily married for many years.
Don't jump to conclusions in this life style, there aren't any.
TGM01 Second childhood? Me? I haven't left the first one yet! | |
| 9 May 11, 6:28 PM Made_in_Italy UK, 2 yrs  |
Thank you, thank you and more thank you!
I thought I was the only one cursed with it... as it happens I had nearly as many Dom asking me to fuck them with my strap as subs! and the amount of of times I had self defined Doms strike up conversations to just tell me they wanted a shag... and were very surprised when i told them where to go for that (it generally involves sheep and holes in the walls) the worse was this guy (which i shall not name) who approached me just few months after I joined IC and very grandly offered me his butt to ravish. (like he was doing me a favor!) When I stopped laughing I told him his female sub was by far more attractive (he looked like a lopsided frog with serious acne). he suddenly got very frosty with me and told me that "I was too inexperienced to use his sub, I might spoil her" (give her a good time yeah!) WTF!!!!!!!!!!!! so yes, most male think with their other head, not the one near their neck.
I also had to specify in my profile I do not sub or am interested in subbing. (tried it once and was told I was crap at it!) | |
| 9 May 11, 8:20 PM Twistee UK(BA), 3 yrs |
Men? Being dishonest? Goodness me, what a surprise! ~Twistee~
Everything is better with a twist | |
| 10 May 11, 7:09 AM Storm_in_a_C_cup 5 yrs |
Yes unfortunately they do
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| 10 May 11, 7:56 AM Ariane 8 yrs |
Green Man, I know these things can work for people. What I'm addressing is 'Dom' men speaking to me as if I were a sub, and doing it badly. Surely they don't expect to be taken seriously? |
Imortatality's far WORSE.
