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| mia |
on Wed 4 May 11, 7:07 PM to the O_and_P group.
On reading the thread about how D-types can help improve their s-types either for the benefit of the D or the s or both, i was wondering if any of you had experience of improving yourself off your own back, as a direct result of the relationship?
This is open to both D and s types.
I've got better at being tidy - not because he makes me (usually) but because i want him to have a nice house and because i want to have a good image of his home when we have visitors.
I have also got over a MASSIVE food phobia since living with him. He hasn't done anything, or even requested that i tried to get over it (oddly, previous partners HAVE) but i think my trust in him means i trust that the thing i was scared of not to be a problem. I still have other food phobias and other phobias in general (moths-fuckoffmoths-argh!) but my biggest one was this weirdo food one and it just kinda went with a sigh and a few shakes and this determination that i wasn't going to have it anymore, cos he was there to protect me.
Anyway, your turn 
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| 5 May 11, 10:26 AM FairyGirl UK(YO), 3 yrs   |
I guess it's not so much off my own back because it directly involves him, but I'd wanted o lose some weight and generally be healthier for a long time... I knew I could do it, but always fell foul of "Why shouldn't I have that piece of cake?" I want to look and feel my best for him, so I asked him to help me, and so far, so good!
"Nothing saves anyone's life, Sir. It just postpones their death." - Posner , The History Boys. | |
| 5 May 11, 5:23 PM ClassAct2005 UK(N), 7 yrs |
It may just come also from being in a happy relationship. I bit my nails all my life until I met my ex husband and then never have since and I think that was partly because I just felt over all happier. Then also some dominant men have improved me because that particular dominant boyfriend was good with clothes/fashion or whatever it might be. That's rather nice too. I hope that in all good close relationships both sides can ensure that together they can achieve more than if they were two people alone. The sum is greater than the parts and each can bring out the best in the other. | |
| 5 May 11, 6:06 PM Taintedinnocence UK(S), 6 yrs |
Yup. Wearing make up, getting my hair done more regular, getting my nails done, wearing skirts etc. I always tidy the house up when I have guests, but I'm still no tidy angel. I'm more relaxed about sex, more confident.
I'm probably better behaved too I don't comfort eat anymore. I exercise regularly. | |
| 8 May 11, 12:21 PM Astarael UK(S), 21 mths |
This. Every relationship I have been in has resulted in some positive change in my self, not because it was enforced, rather, I believe, that it is simply part of our nature to want those that we love to be happy, and our own happiness is usually part of that. | |
| 16 May 11, 6:12 PM little_slavegirl NL, 13 mths |
Yup. Pretty much the same list here Adding: drinking less (I had a bit of a problem...) and less worrying about things I can't change anyway.
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