Cougars, MILFs...and Mummy Dommes (97)

I am dominant in a 'this will do you good' sort of way rather than acting as though I actually am someone's mother unless it's roleplay. In vanilla life I have been adopted by a group of young women who call me 'mum' so it seems I have a Mother-aura in my middle age.

I always veer towards calling a male partner 'Daddy', even the 'nillas, and havn't been in F/m relationship to try out being a mother figure full time. Tbh I don't think it would work for me because of my emotional need to feel looked after and be sub but playwise it's cool.

That's not to denigrate younger women, of course - I love and value them all - but I seemed to be more in tune with crones than maidens. I'm open to be persuaded otherwise, obviously...

What an interesting topic! Some thoughts, I notice you mention transposing the Daddy dominant to a female gender. Well, women can be daddies too, so not necessarily a gender distinction but I'm going to continue on the basis that you are only referring to dominant females types.

The Mummy dominant is possibly uncommon as the nuturing aspect is present in other dominant female types. As previously mentioned, there may be discomfort if the dominant female already has children and sees this as a kink too far. That's before you even consider people who have real mummy issues. So Auntie/School Teacher/Big Sister are ways to skirt around this.

You questioned the difference between some of these types and the Mummy dominant type, probably down to the perception of fear, if we are throwing in some sadistic elements. Your sadistic goddess could be a scary, monstrous leather-clad evil doer but mummy is sweet and gentle (usually), so this discipline is for your own good and she still loves you no matter what? Bit off the cuff there, so I'm mostly feeling that theory out.

If you remove the Mummy/Adult Baby and Mummy/Sissy dynamics, I think you'll be left with a very narrow area to operate in which could be regarded as purely a Mummy dominant. Transposing the Daddy dominant dynamic, you have the strict but nuturing, protective mother-figure, with a definite "mother knows best" and possibly some taboo aspects as well. The submissive could be mummy's little girl/boy, mummy's angel, mummy's naughty slut etc.

The strict but nuturing aspect without the taboo/sexual overtones I find most comfortable with girls, with the dynamic revolving more around improvement than service. With boys, undertones of non-consent, humiliation and taboo can make for a great deal of hotness.

I've noticed on Literotica, it is a pretty prevalent theme. Incest/taboo stories are the 2nd largest category with mother/milf/older woman/mummy tags all appearing in the top 10. If those figures correlate to BDSM communities, maybe it is being thought about but not voiced? Lorelei's The Mistress Manual covers the mother aspects of both the Nursemaid and Queen dominant female types in some depth.

~M.E~

I would suggest that the term "crones" ain't gonna improve the odds for ya

Ah yes, I understand now, and your bait is therefore just right. My apologies X