This post is on the D/s & M/s web board.
| 25 Apr 11, 2:23 PM SheilaBlyge UK(S), 4 yrs   |
I have to agree a rule is a rule. But without anyone here knowing more about your particular dynamic, we can't say whether it was 'ok' or not. The only person who knows that answer is your Dom. I would just add... perhaps with this being a new relationship, you are finding yourself entering into new rules and tasks too quickly and then struggling when an obstacle occurs? For me, I would find it very hard to commit to rules in the first place, especially remotely, but once the soul was searched and the commitment given, I would hold myself on my honour unless a seriously unavoidable situation arose. I would also hope by the time a rule was agreed, I knew my partner well enough and they knew me well enough to have a pretty good idea of what was an acceptable contingency and what was not. Your OP just makes me think you are still finding your way, and agreeing to things before you're actually maybe in a position to do so?
I wish you well | |||
| 25 Apr 11, 2:25 PM Darkmagi UK(B), 6 yrs |
Yeah, I'm thinking the Dom in charge might punish you by locking the collars and cuffs in place and leaving you in them for a weekend! | |||
| 26 Apr 11, 5:36 PM Intelligencia UK(GU), 5 yrs |
It might just be curious ole me, but I am interested to know what the upshot was of this now............. Any offers?
Where is the wisdom we have lost in knowledge, where is the knowledge we have lost in information? T S Eliot | |||
| 26 Apr 11, 6:29 PM Monkey_Wench UK(B), 20 mths    |
Curious me too. | |||
| 26 Apr 11, 6:31 PM lilybee  UK(TN), 5 yrs   |
Oh deary me, you broke the rules, as the others have said there could be all sorts of reasons you did this ranging from seeing what your boundries really are to just plain not interested in your Dom enough to obey. Only you know the real reason.
The more interesting part for me now is as @Intelligencia has asked, what was the outcome? I know if you were mine that the complaint of being hot may well have resulted in a fair lot of ice edited to add, buy a fan? lily Edited 26 Apr 11, 6:32 PM by lilybee | |||
| 26 Apr 11, 8:04 PM Diablos_patience UK, 6 yrs |
Very wise words from the lovely syndee who i agree with completely... in D/s rules are not there to be broken... and if you do so readily it kinda shows you haev little respect for your Dom... if its a new relationship and already you are doing your own thing with little regard to agreed rules it doesnt stand much hope in the future. ~* Raku wa ku no tané; ku wa raku no tané. *~ | |||
| 26 Apr 11, 8:13 PM not_lost_still_lady UK(PE), 22 mths    |
From your profile; About me I am a character, do like to push, loves attention, likes to talk, confident, hard working, enjoys most pain and enjoys hoods, gas masks, hypnosis, psychology and NLP. Is this just an attention seeking ploy? Signature removed to make room for .... | |||
| 26 Apr 11, 8:15 PM fellatrix UK, 2 yrs |
I disagree. We've all made mistakes and done stupid things haven't we. Early on in my relationship I did something much worse. It didn't go against a written rule. There wasn't a written rule because it was so obviously wrong that it didn't need a rule. And I didn't ask him about it beforehand because I knew what his reaction would be. I fessed up immediately afterwards. I suffered the consequences. And he gave me another chance which even I didn't think I deserved. That was over a year ago. Learn from your mistake. | |||
| 27 Apr 11, 8:14 AM Outlier UK(W), 2 yrs |
[/quote]What's the point of agreeing rules then breaking them?
[/quote] To be punished?
"Nothing is so strong as gentleness, nothing so gentle as real strength" St Francis de Sales | |||
| 27 Apr 11, 10:38 AM Diablos_patience UK, 6 yrs |
Oh i agree with you, but first you need to be able to identify it as a mistake... im not getting that impression from the OP. So if shes happy to think stuff it to the simple request of sleeping in cuffs whats going to be her reaction when something much more challenging is required? Her Dom cant be watching over her 24/7 to ensure she does what is asked she has to take responsibility for her own actions and in D/s relationships trust is the very foundation upon which they are built. ~* Raku wa ku no tané; ku wa raku no tané. *~ |
!