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| Puddin_Von_Puss |
on Fri 8 Apr 11, 12:58 PM to Puddin_Von_Puss's blog.
Good people of IC, I'm worried about something and I could do with your advice, even if it's to shut the fuck up and wind my neck in.
I've lived here for years (I own the house) and the house next door has often been a cause of stress for me. At one point it was very bad, which I won't go in to, then it was great for a few years. Well, now I'm worried again.
It belongs to the housing association and a few days ago someone new moved in. I couldn't tell you who, because its just been a steady mob of people coming and going since then. Mostly to the off licence. There's litter and crap on the pavement from when they moved in, that they don't seem to be prepared to pick up. They aren't kids, they look in their 40s or 50s but I know an addict when I see one, especially when there's a fuckin group of them. They are seriously look rough as fuck. Not sure if they're alcoholics, they come across as heroin addicts to me. Again, I do know addicts when I see them.
It's not loud music, its loud voices- shouting, laughing and doors slamming while they're in and out. And I'll be honest, I'm really worried about it. I don't want to go back to feeling that I'm trapped in my own home again, as I have in the past. But at the same time just because they've got problems, doesn't mean it's going to get worse. Should I just wait and see if it really becomes a problem? I can make a bit of noise myself, (should hear me cum- fuckin ridiculously loud) and how offensive is a group of people having a laugh?
Seriously, should I try and do something about it now, or shut up and just turn the telly up?
All genuine comments welcome.
UPDATE****************************
I actually went along to meet them a few days later and glad I did. I was trying to decide what to do about people who I knew nothing about.
The man who actually lives there is an addict waiting to go to rehab, so is here on a temporary basis. I've met his mum and the friend who looks after him, who, so far seem like lovely people.
There's been hardly any noise at all coming from the house, so I've got no worries at the moment, and no reason to complain.
Thanks for all your advice and messages, it made all the difference.
Edited Mon 11 Apr 11, 11:25 AM by Puddin_Von_Puss
| 8 Apr 11, 1:08 PM coquettish UK(BN), 22 mths |
I know they usually advise you keep a log of anything you deem important ie unacceptable levels of noise, time and date it all. If after a while things have settled down and you find you can live with it, then no problem. If however it has escalated and you do need to do something about it then you will at least have the information down on paper and they should be able to use that to help resolve things.
Hope it all works out |
| 8 Apr 11, 1:09 PM FluffySub UK(NN), 6 yrs      |
I feel for you because I've been there, too. For now I'd sit and wait to see how it pans out. Keep a diary of things that upset you so, if it gets to you making a formal complaint, you have some background to offer the Housing Association. There's a lot of helpful stuff here: http://www.nfh.org.uk/resources/Articles/hints/i... Good luck x Asking me not to be tempted by a violet wand is like leaving Homer Simpson in charge of the donuts. |
| 8 Apr 11, 1:17 PM The_Victorian UK(LE), 2 yrs |
Contact environmental health, and visit citizens advice, hopefully they will help.
Your quality of life is being damaged and that isn't something you have to tolerate.
Good luck. “The truth is not for all men, but only for those who seek it.” Ayn Rand |
| 8 Apr 11, 1:19 PM misstressclare UK(TA), 4 yrs £ |
I would contact the houseing asso They deal with tennents and will keep a cheek on them The property has to be keept to a good standard and they will have a housing officer. They will be aware of any anti social probs with who ever live there and so will have some clout with them. Good luck |
| 8 Apr 11, 1:26 PM Puddin_Von_Puss UK(WA), 6 yrs |
Some great advice there guys, thank you. I've left a message with the housing association to call me back to have a chat with them- not to make a complaint. Someone else has also suggested that I pop round and say hello, take a gift or something and introduce myself. I'll be able to make a much better judgement when I'm not just guessing! So, I'm going to keep a note of what's happening, speak to the housing and pop round there to say hello. Cheers guys x We don't live in the World as it is, we live in the World as we are. |
| 8 Apr 11, 1:26 PM gentlemusings UK(M), 19 mths  |
Give them the benefit of the doubt for now and some time to get themselves sorted out.. If their behaviour doesnt improve, and you feel its intimidating, which from the sound of things it is, then dont mess around write AND phone the housing association and enviromental health, and also make a point of talking to your neighbours (carefully) to find out their thoughts, if it really is a problem you should rally together... I am not perfect, i'm not looking for the perfect man, I just want the 'one' for whom i am perfect for.... |
| 8 Apr 11, 1:29 PM lightswitches UK(W), 5 yrs |
Housing assoc, police to advise there could be a problem, council enforcement, keep a diary and if possible without being spotted film them, a picture with sound is the most effective evidence coupled with a diary. I have been there i feel very sorry for you. |
| 8 Apr 11, 1:30 PM Scorpionic UK(BN), 6 yrs    |
I've experienced similar in the past and it's not nice, so you really do have my sympathy. Previous experiences can make us less tolerant when something else of a similar nature happens (and that can leave us feeling more sensitive to events we might have let slide before). My advice would be to contact the HA direct and ask for the Name, Telephone Number and e-mail address of the Housing Manager responsible for that particular property. Then e-mail the HM with your concerns and ask for an "Incident Diary" which you fill in over a 2-4 week period, usually in their pre-set format, and then post off to them. Try to appear as reasonable as you can (that's not easy when things grate on you over a period of time, I know). If the HA decide to enforce any restrictions on the tenant (eg: numbers of visitors allowed, noise levels, littering, etc) ask the HA to tell you what they have enforced - they might appreciate your feedback if they need evidence against the tenant. It's not a quick fix - but it's the best course of action - the HA will have a set process they have to follow. Oh.... and where possible (without being seen) take pictures of regular visitors and keep a note of the times they are in and out (if that's easy for you to do). Tenants are responsible (under their tenancy agreement) for the behaviour of any visitors, as well as themselves (something some tenants will forget about or not appreciate fully). Wishing you well and I hope things smooth out for you soon.
Scorps |
| 8 Apr 11, 2:19 PM Mistress_Donna UK(PE), 16 mths |
Hi thier. Firstly contact your local housing Association, ask them to keep your name and address a secred, and voice your concerns to them tell them whats happening and ask if thier is anything they could do to help sort this out. I wish you luck |
| 8 Apr 11, 3:11 PM chartreuse UK(BA), 6 yrs  |
When people move into a property that is new to them, there is often a steady stream of people visiting, usually just being friendly or nosey. The new tenants, being the age you suspect them of being, probably have quite a number of friends (and maybe even family members) who live nearby and want to drop in to see how they are doing.
Oh... and, some people always have a lot of "comings and goings" happening where they live, these people could be like that. Be prepared for a big house-warming party! I know it can seem a bit disruptive but... after a short period of time the disturbances should reduce in number. However, (if they don't) I agree with the advice you have already been given and think that keeping a log of activities (as well as giving the Housing Association the "heads-up" that there could be a potential problem with these tenants) is a good idea. @The_Problem_Page Edited 8 Apr 11, 3:12 PM by chartreuse |
