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| Mon 4 Apr 11, 5:06 AM LightningJack UK(SW), 7 yrs  |
Does it still occur. Perhaps in attending clubs or parties or any other events. One of the reasons I innitially started my parties was to redress this balance but I have not seen much reference to it in recent times so perhaps they are more accepted now. Are they. Female anything, Dommes, subs, switches, voyeurs are always it appears highly desirable but do males feel just as wanted. Do other organisers desire lots of male subs etc, Dont say I never speak to you, only 5 minutes ago I told you to shut up. ! | |||
| 4 Apr 11, 6:36 AM MinervasOwl UK(OX), 20 mths  |
As long as they are respectful, cheerful and not pushy, they are welcome: at least this is my personal experience. | |||
| 4 Apr 11, 7:32 AM clubslut UK(B), 4 yrs |
Not generally a problem in my experience as I've always been made to feel welcome at events. There have been a few places where I haven't felt quite as "at home" - usually on a first visit to somewhere, but I don't recall ever being made to feel unwelcome. A friend with a flogger/cane/crop/pinwheel/violet wand/set of needles/strap on/etc. is a friend indeed | |||
| 4 Apr 11, 7:33 AM Utterbosstard UK, 3 yrs |
There is bias in every walk of life, but I have never been particularly conscious of a bias towards single male subs, although it kind of fits quite comfortably with the role perhaps... | |||
| 5 Apr 11, 1:25 PM Gentledom14 UK(CA), 6 yrs     |
In my opinion,if any group outnumbers another then that group is less desirable than the others. If you find yourself the only sub at a party with 20 fem Dommes you will be well recieved. But males usually outnumber the girls at BDSM events, So Dom or sub, we will never be the group that gets free entry and other benefits.
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| 5 Apr 11, 2:05 PM Avada_Kedavra UK, 7 yrs |
This... M: Its only a baby needle, you wont know the difference. I am not a one dimensional needle obsessed Domme... | |||
| 5 Apr 11, 2:13 PM Kali_Ma UK(B), 5 yrs |
Seconded. If there were no male subs at events I'd have no one to play with! K x 'I heard she's a bit of a thug' Mister Bear. | |||
| 5 Apr 11, 2:21 PM submitman1 UK(SS), 6 yrs |
I like to think there is no intentional bias and that the BDSM world welcomes all. I know the feeling of turning up to a club or event knowing nobody and feeling ignored but that would be the same in a non BDSM environment. If you are going to meet people then you need to have an attitude of openess and a willingness to chat and introduce yourself to people, chances are that another Domme, Dom or sub is feeling the same so just say hello.
When the rich wage war, it's the poor who die. | |||
| 5 Apr 11, 3:01 PM Gentledom14 UK(CA), 6 yrs |
Being welcomed is not the same as being highly desired
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| 5 Apr 11, 3:17 PM Delilahs_samson UK(WR), 5 yrs |
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| 5 Apr 11, 3:42 PM Anneski UK(BA), 2 yrs |
True, but people can make a conscious effort to be welcoming, but you either desire somebody/something, or you don't, you can't make yourself desire the undesireable, so don't see how the two can corrolate? Anneski |
