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Posted by glx101
on Thu 31 Mar 11, 7:01 PM to the Ultraviolence group.
I have been thinking about this for a while now my own kink desires go back a long way I can genuinely remember how I liked an ad and tv shows with bondage in them, particularly females in bondage. So a question to the group, how did you get into this world and what was the path that brought you here to UV?
cheers
G
| 10 May 11, 2:10 PM HalloweenWhite UK(TF), 7 yrs      |
I found out about BDSM by accident-it started because of some of the things I got upto at college, when I left college, I thought about it more and more and decided to see if there was anything I could read about it and/or people I could talk to about it. At that time I'd only heard the phrase "BDSM" and all I knew was it has "something" to do with whips and chains, but didn't really know what! lol, and I didn't know about all the other fun stuff that goes with 'em. As I read more I slowly connected to dots and, as Batman said "found a name for My pain"....BDSM, so I kept reading, eventually got the internet, found chatrooms,munches and eventually got into it r/l. As for what got Me here,specifically, I can't really explain it other than to say I like the rougher, more aggressive type of play. Sadder still to watch it die than never to have have known it. |
| 10 May 11, 7:39 PM pinkylucy UK(M), 9 yrs    |
My memories of enjoying BDSM related ideas and fun go back as early as being 4 years old. By age 15 I was incorporating it into my early explorations with my first girlfriend. By 16 I'd discovered BDSM erotica and imagery. By 19 I was active on the club scene and had my first Mistress. I got into my first full time D/s relationship 10 years later. I came to the UV group because my partner and Dominant had joined it and when I read the description I related to what it said. I'm not particularly drawn to the term 'Ultraviolence' but I've always been drawn towards domestic violence type play and later on towards 'Force Play' or CNC scenarios as part of a permanant D/s dynamic. I like being able to discuss these things here.
"Don't Dream It - Be It" - The Rocky Horror Show 1973 |
| 29 May 11, 4:08 PM Gilles_de_Rais UK(EC), 3 yrs |
Like the previous posters, I think there always was a BDSM element to the way I conceived sex/relationships. Some of it might be innate to me/us but I think some elements of that apply to all humans. We, BDSMers, just choose to emphasize it. In other forums, where feminism and sexual violence has been discussed, I think that part of that comes from the fact that it is hard to separate sex from power. It may have come from the idea that, in sex, "women give and men take". I don't think this idea has any biological reality per se (After all, the man 'gives' his sperm/the seed and the woman 'takes' it). But even Taoists who, iirc, seem to think that men should not ejaculate (too often) in order to stay young and energetic did not change the social power structures that made men the dominant members of society. And few, very few societies have. But, if you accept the idea that power play is indivisible from sex, then BDSM follows naturally - From D/s dynamics to, in the case of Ultra-Violence, sadism and masochism.
Or, at least, that's how I rationalise it... There is no right and wrong when it comes to sex ; only informed consent... |
