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| Mon 28 Mar 11, 9:16 PM flogit UK(E), 15 mths   |
As a newbie to this site and to the scene I am hoping for some "pointers" please when introducing myself to a Domme via a message. I am confident regarding my grammar, spelling, vocabulary etcetera but I am more concerned about etiquette which feels very important to me. Any absolute "do write this" tip's and more importantly, "do not write this" advice? I am sure most of it is common sense but really want to get this right from the go! |
| 28 Mar 11, 9:19 PM willful UK(EC), 7 yrs |
Just some words that I'm pretty sure dont go down well. Cock, penis, cum, sissy, do me, i want, do this, i copy pasted, secret, cant do real time |
| 28 Mar 11, 9:20 PM flogit UK(E), 15 mths |
Duly noted, thankyou. |
| 28 Mar 11, 9:23 PM Rapunzel  UK(WC), 9 yrs |
Imagine you are meeting someone in the flesh and extend them exactly the same common courtesies. Just because you are typing rather than speaking doesn't mean that manners go out of the window! Rapunzel - all round bad girl.... Fawcett Hall Lowewood Academy A Kinky Girl's Guide to Life Follow me on Twitter @FawcettHall (if you have nothing better to do!) |
| 28 Mar 11, 9:23 PM Twistee UK(BA), 3 yrs  |
Just be yourself. Don't talk about your kinks right off the bat. Introduce yourself as a person first, and not as a sub. As long as you're polite and respectful, without being obsequeous and servile, you should do just fine. ~Twistee~ Everything is better with a twist |
| 28 Mar 11, 9:30 PM idonna UK(SM), 21 mths |
I think it is better for you to have some presemce onn this site.
Write on boards, make yourself known.
I am very weary of those who have no profiles and not even a single post.
I know is not really answering your question, just my oppinion. Signing with your real name after filling up your mprofile is imho important. |
| 28 Mar 11, 9:31 PM tails_SB UK(CB), 6 yrs |
I'd recommend including a comment about the recipient's profile which shows you've at least read that. It's probably worth including a bit about your favourite 'vanilla' interest, or better yet, a shared one. ------ |
| 28 Mar 11, 9:35 PM carlbigvern UK(CV), 15 mths |
I had the same reseravtions as yourself, being very new to this life and this site. I need to work on my profile and it would seem get some photo shoots done.... However...this has been such a freindly welcoming world, I would say...go to some munches, clubs and soon it will all become so easy |
| 28 Mar 11, 9:44 PM clubslut UK(B), 4 yrs |
Just be yourself and be honest. If you can't do that then what's the point? The more experience you get, the more you will be able to add to your profile over time. In the meantime, a little bit about yourself will do just fine. Meet some fellow pervs and get yourself known and munches and clubs Have fun and enjoy it
Good luck A friend with a flogger/cane/crop/pinwheel/violet wand/set of needles/strap on/etc. is a friend indeed |
| 28 Mar 11, 9:48 PM Dark_Cherry UK(B), 2 yrs     |
Treat them as a person. Be yourself. Do away with capital Ys when saying You. A little humour enough to make me smile always works, text speak makes me run a mile.
Good luck Fuck labels. Labels suck. I am a filthy, slutty, sadistic princess |
| 28 Mar 11, 9:48 PM SubWhisperer UK, 5 yrs |
Twistees advice is about right – it applies pretty much to any dynamic, not just to approaching Dommes. You have to try and get across some sense of who you are – if the person responds to that, then the rest is negotiable (as in any relationship) You'll get the the odd Domme profile that states “Grovel before my magnificence useless worm” - (the male equivelant is “Kneel bitch”) ….... to be avoided like the plague in both cases – reading a book once does not make someone “Dominant”. The only other thing I'd suggest is keep it real, and a bit of humour goes a long way. The serious stuff all comes later. You'll hear rumours about the ratio of male subs to female Dommes making your chances slim – but just ignore them. Be better than the others and you will win. The only other thing you'll need is faith in yourself – that alone will put you out front Good luck x Ever wondered who the devil comes to for ideas ? |
