Posted by janiya
on Sun 13 Mar 11, 10:09 PM to janiya's blog.
Oh goodness, it has been a while. Life is treating me well. We have survived our first winter in rural Sweden. It was a little rough at times, especially when the snow plough was needed 3 or four times a day, just to keep the lane passable. Concerns over clearing the snow off the roofs came and eventually went, when we decided that it was a job left for the pros. I do understand better now why apartment life is so attractive here, even moreso after our heating bills (despite having thermoheating.
Having said all of that, we are looking forward to spring. Hopefully, we will see the lawn/ground again in about 4-6 weeks and i have a whole list of things to do in the garden this year.
Living in a Owner/property relationship again, has given me a huge ammount of security after all that happened. Yes i was on the right tracks to making it on my own, language, job, home etc etc... but now it just all makes sense once again.
One area that needs improving is friends/friendship. I am making a real effort to get back in touch with people and meeting new people, but it's not easy. I find people tend to be judgemental that i have moved forwards and that i have dared to love again. It's their opinion, but i do not agree with it. I do not understand why everything has happened to me as it has, but it has. That is fact. Now my focus is being happy.
| 13 Mar 11, 10:18 PM MissKimberley NL, 8 yrs     |
Thomas would have wanted you to be happy I'm sure. If people judge you for trying to build up life again, learning to love someone new, then they're best out of your life IMO. You don't need people to tell you what should and should not make you happy. I think it's never easy to move to another country, learning the language and finding your feet. The older we get, the harder it is to make new friends. You don't want to impose on existing friend groups and it might be difficult to find common ground. Sometimes it helps to do voluntary work, or joining some clubs or going on a course of interest. It can also help if you take the plunge and perhaps ask colleagues over for dinner one night. It can take a little more effort to "break into" new circles.
Well done for trying in any case, hope the snow clears up soon so you can enjoy some nice greenery “During times of universal deceit, telling the truth becomes a revolutionary act” - George Orwell | ||
| 13 Mar 11, 10:27 PM firemynx_B UK(B), 11 yrs |
Couldn't have said it better. It is clear Thomas loved you so much, and you he. No one who loves someone, would want them to sit and not live their life, and that includes loving someone again. Just because you have gone on to love someone else does not take away from the love you and Thomas shared.
I wish you only the best in life X
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| 13 Mar 11, 10:34 PM faeryboi 6 yrs |
The love you and Thomas shared will remain in your heart forever, We have the capacity to love more than one person and that is what you are doing. I imagine Thomas would be so very proud of you for being so brave in your new life. I have always admired your strength. Good on ya x | ||
| 13 Mar 11, 10:38 PM just_iana UK(SS), 6 yrs |
Exactly as these ladies have said.. Your love with Thomas was very special. The fact you've found happiness again is fabulous, be happy sweetheart, and those that care for you will be happy for you xx Edited 13 Mar 11, 10:42 PM by just_iana | ||
| 13 Mar 11, 10:49 PM epona74 UK(SL), 7 yrs |
Just hugs...so glad you've found happiness and a good place, both physical and mental! For every minute you are angry you lose sixty seconds of happiness. (Ralph Waldo Emerson) | ||
| 14 Mar 11, 7:08 AM River_Deep UK, 6 yrs |
Wow 'Jane' I never realised this was you! I am so pleased to read this, and would echo what has already been said above about Thomas wanting you to be happy. x It is not what you say or do but the way you say or do it Edited 14 Mar 11, 7:09 AM by River_Deep | ||
| 14 Mar 11, 12:38 PM janiya 9 yrs |
Thanks everyone. Maybe people don't realise that i am who i am lol never thought of that! |
