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| hollythedolly |
on Thu 10 Mar 11, 1:38 PM to the Dark_Play group.
How do you incorporate the two?
It's a question that has come up, and the likelyhood it happening in my relationship is zilch.
But if it was possible how do you combine the 2 because my priority would be what's in my belly.
Although do find it incredabily hot to have a certain word carved into my belly and watch it grow with the swelling of my stomach.
But on a pratical point of view how safe is a little UV and erm punishment.
No abuse or desperation happened in writing this post.
| 11 Mar 11, 10:22 AM Miss_Despotic UK(M), 5 yrs    |
Personally, I'd say avoid it altogether. It may well all be safe...but it might not too and I can't see it'd be worth the risk. | |
| 11 Mar 11, 11:59 AM spankAlicious UK(N), 4 yrs |
It's a little bit of an extremist thing, in my mind although sex during a normal pregnancy (and also normal stages of pregnancy) is considered low risk for complications such as miscarriage I think this may rule out BDSM play. I think would be a lot different, you have the safety of a child to think about too, the responsibility is a little different. Obviously stresses or being distressed could lead to cause complications and obviously activates within BDSM could even bring on contractions and lead to all sorts of awful things. For me I would not even contemplate such a thing. There are activities people should avoid when pregnant and looking at some of them I can imagine it would be unwise to risk such a thing.
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| 11 Mar 11, 1:38 PM popi  UK(M), 7 yrs |
You know what I'm going to stick my neck out here and disagree with people I usually agree with. I'm of the opinion that a happy mum equals a happy baby, in and out of the womb. Every rule has an exception but i think in most normal healthy pregnancies, where miscarriage has not previously been an issue a little of what you fancy does you good.
We are pretty incredible beings and we protect our babies really well tucked up in there warm and safe. One of the best and erm violent (for lack of a better word) scenes was when i was pregnant. I didn't realise at the time but i was about 6 weeks. It was amazing, i was black and blue and baba was fine Later on in pregnancy my protective hormones kicked in and heaven help anyone who encountered my wrath. Instinctively I just wasn't up for been hurt. Trust your instincts, they're evolved very well over the years. I think almost 10 months is a long time to deny yourself something and your own common sense dictates the rest, a punch to the face acceptable, a boot in the abdomen, less so. You get me drift. One thing to be aware of though is that a very high percentage of domestic violence starts in pregnancy as shocking as it is, so health care providers are extra vigilant of it at this time and you are in contact with them on a regular basis. Just another thing to consider. popi xx
Edited 11 Mar 11, 1:40 PM by popi | |
| 13 Mar 11, 8:45 PM hollythedolly UK(NN), 2 yrs  |
That is a lovely post @popi and would like to thank everyone for their posts.
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| 13 Mar 11, 8:54 PM such_serenity UK(PR), 10 yrs |
It's a tricky one, on the one hand both times I was pregnant my hormones were through the roof and sometimes I was completely gagging for a good beating. On the other hand, in my first pregnancy I fell down the stairs and landed on my bump and was absolutely besides myself that I'd done damage. After that the thought of unnecessary risk was just not worth contemplating. It might be fine, but on the other hand it might not be. Like with most things I feel its a case of weighing up the pros and cons and making an informed decision. We stuck with a bit of spanking, whipping, all concentrated on my back half and during the earlier months. By the latter months I was too bloody grumpy and knackered to be bothered with all that! Kiss me with apocalypse | |
| 20 Mar 11, 12:53 AM pinkylucy UK(M), 9 yrs   |
When I was pregnant I found it very frustrating not to be able to get any sensible information about pregnancy and BDSM. I had to opt for weighing up pros and cons and going with what felt right for me at the time. When it comes to sensation play such as flogging etc. I really do not see how it can pose a threat unless you are beating the stomach which doesn't tend to happen anyway. As I used to say, 'the baby isn't growing in my backside!' My bigger concern was the emotional rollercoaster I tend to go on during play. I love fear and distress as part of my play but I experience these things as 'positive', so what I couldn't work out was whether it would be experienced as distressing by the baby. Unfortunately I was in very stressful unforseen circumstances day to day during a lot of my pregnancy and I eventually opted to keep playing due to the overall stress relieving factors of playing versus not. Particularly as I didn't really want sex after a few months so the play became more important. I'm planning to start trying for another baby in the next month or so and to be honest we haven't made any definite decisions about play during pregnancy yet. Last time I was single so I got to choose but this time it'll be a joint decision. I think that second time around I have a different perspective on time and I don't feel quite so worried about the thought of changing things for 9 months or so. Certainly some of the ways we do things would not be compatable with pregnancy but I see no reason to stop everything.
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