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| 5 Mar 11, 10:35 AM relaxed1 UK(BR), 6 yrs   |
Age is just a number, until it ceases to be. There are no generalities. For casual play, it doesn't matter at all, so long as both are happy with it; my youngest was 21 when I was in my early 40s - she was feral, fought like a bitch, and it was the only time I've ended up with more scratches on me. For a relationship, the youngest was about 13 years younger. We connected well, despite the age gap, and I thoroughly enjoyed being a kind of step-father to her three - it was no different from having my own kids - they needed nappies changed, taking to school, help with homework, etc. I don't want to have more of my own (hence having the snip) but others' kids are just an extension of parental responsibilities. It's a balancing act, because you're in loco parentis, but you need to remember that you're not their father. That said, I have become a surrogate father to my best friend's daughter, but that was her choice, not mine. "Consistency is the last refuge of the unimaginative." - Oscar Wilde | |||
| 5 Mar 11, 11:13 AM ladybabe2 UK(SK), 6 yrs |
age may well be just a number and it shouldn't matter but it does, and just like out in vanilla land we have our own prejudices regarding age and who and what we want to play with, its always going to be a personal choice, so does age matter? yes of course it does if your lucky to meet someone who just makes your world complete and there is an age difference then it doesn't matter...
see there is no right or wrong answer..... Don't make them a priority, when they only make you an option... | |||
| 5 Mar 11, 12:45 PM Ama_Sidero UK(GU), 7 yrs       |
I'm only bothered about age from a longer-term perspective. Play-wise, it doesn't really matter if the chemistry is there. But, over the long run, it seems a bit silly to start anything with someone who is going to want to settle down and have babies with someone else. It doesn't mean I wouldn't be interested, but probably would be sensible. @Play_Space - next Party is Sunday, March 20 - Peer Rope Practice/Bring & Buy is March 27. | |||
| 5 Mar 11, 12:58 PM WykD_Dave UK(DE), 9 yrs |
Is this really a question? If you don't have a hang up about age then you don't have a problem, if you do have a hang up you have a problem you made for yourself. If two people are happy together then what's the question about? Don't worry about it, be happy with someone you find attractive. RopeTopia for inofmation, tutorials, galleries and bondage education | |||
| 5 Mar 11, 1:07 PM Souci_X UK(BA), 5 yrs |
It depends what you are after, I have been with a man who was 20 odd years older than me but it was bloody hard, not because we didn't get on but because of the reactions we got walking down the street etc. Now I am getting a little more serious in terms of a relationship I want someone closer to my age because of many things, family acceptance to practicality of life goals. In terms of casual play I couldn't care less. | |||
| 5 Mar 11, 1:30 PM Top_Class UK(GU), 2 yrs |
If you have to do it arse-about-tit then reverse the formula:
... start at 40, take off 7 is 33, double that is 66. "Fork handles?" "No, not 'fork handles' ... four candles." | |||
| 5 Mar 11, 2:16 PM Long_way_home UK(CF), 19 mths |
What a great way of putting it. Couldn't agree more. If you care about each other, no-one is being damaged, and it lights up your existence, you are blessed, whatever age you are.
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| 5 Mar 11, 2:20 PM WykD_Dave UK(DE), 9 yrs |
OK so someone else has a problem. But you can't do anything about that, therefore it's not your problem and it's pointless to have a problem with it.
RopeTopia for inofmation, tutorials, galleries and bondage education Edited 5 Mar 11, 2:21 PM by WykD_Dave | |||
| 5 Mar 11, 2:30 PM FrostyFingers UK(SW), 2 yrs |
It's better to find someone you like and respect, regardless of their age. Don't go seeking dommes only of a certain age, because all you're doing is narrowing your field of options. You may prefer a slightly more experienced lady, but who's to say that a 35 year old is less experienced than a 65 year old? | |||
| 5 Mar 11, 2:45 PM submitman1 UK(SS), 6 yrs |
Why should BDSM be any different from life, people do naturally gravitate to their general age group in many situations and feel more comfortable in that scenario. I have always thought the BDSM scene is more welcoming of differences and more understanding of people regardless of age, gender or sexuality, one of the great things about the scene. That said, why has IC insisted on putting your age on the profiles? Do i detect some ageism or am just old and past it!
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