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| mia |
on Wed 23 Feb 11, 11:04 PM to mia's blog.
I am a linguist, a communicator, my life is surrounded by words and meanings and nuances, all in some attempt or other at passing one piece of information on to someone else in a way they are able to understand.
I speak four languages very well and can 'get by' in a further two. The main thing about speaking and learning a language is understanding that words don't just replace words, but that whatever the original message was is more important than the words used. That's why online translators are pretty shit. They don't know the speaker or writer, they only see the words and put them through some chute and spurt out some other words at the other end. They are improving, with more intelligent grammar programmes, but they're still pretty shit. For example of why words alone are not enough, in the Spanish version of Gone With the Wind, Rhett Butler mutters something along the lines of “Frankly love, it doesn't matter even a gherkin to me”, but the Spanish know what he's on about, even if we wouldn't, word for word like.
So I move onto labels… There are a lot of people who really hate them. I don't get it. I mean, i hate negative labels, obv. What i mean is, when i describe myself as a 'girl' or 'female' or whatever, then i do it to describe my gender, usually, and sometimes to describe the way i'm feeling about my gender (good, little, etc). But if someone were to use the term in a negative way, i'd be pretty pissed off, á la “Oh, you can't throw, you're a girl.” Well, actually, fucktard (how's that for a label?!) i can't throw as i have bad coordination, rather than cos i have a fanny. So in terms of BDSM I think labels can act as, well, as useful information. I mean, if i were on le pull and someone got chatting to me, i don't reek of submission, not often, so i might have to convey my orientation if a sub or bottom started to take an interest in me. I'd probably use the term 'sub' as i like a whole load of D/s along with my sm, but there you go. If someone else uses the term top, dom, switch, bottom or sub, most people have at least an inkling of what to expect. Someone else has made reference to tomato soup before (it might have even been me) and yeah, ok, there are varying degrees of understanding, hence the gazillion threads on sub/slave/bottom/monkey hanger/etc… But tomato soup, whether Heinz, home made, cream of, whatever, is still not oxtail soup by any stretch of the imagination, so it at least gives some indication. So yes, what i'm saying is i love labels, i love them as a communicator, not as something to restrict or pigeon hole me, but to explain to other people where i'm coming from and what one part of me is about.
I shall now tackle spelling. I lost my temper a bit on the main boards the other day when someone had a dig at someone for using 'discrete' instead of 'discreet'. To be honest, i hadn't even realised there were two different ways. I wouldn't have known how to spell it, spelling not being my strong point, but i would have googled it, as i like to write properly if i can and when i have the time and enough characters to do so. But you know what, it didn't matter how he spelt it. It was so BLATENTLY clear what he meant. He meant he had to be quiet, he had to be a bit secretive about his BDSM interest. I find most of the digs, or spelling peacocking that takes place is completely unnecessary. I'm really REALLY not a fan of the spelling of the word queue as 'cue' as i like the letter 'q' and it's nice when it gets an outing, but in the following sentence: “The cue was going so slowly, I had to stand there all day” doesn't leave room for any ambiguity, unless of course, you're a complete imbecile. They mean a 'queue', they used the word 'cue'. Get. Over. It. It doesn't need picking up on unless you are their parent, partner, teacher, employer, editor or client. Chances are you've mentioned it in the name of 'trying to be helpful'. Well, here's a thought, be really helpful and leave them the fuck alone unless they request your help.
Right, that was a bit of a rant… Onto D/s communication, why not, eh? I find it really hard to communicate face to face with the man sometimes. I get really shy if i'm asking for something or if i need something. I cover my face with my hands and i squeak out my request for play, or sex, or money or to get a treat of some sort. I don't know why. He knows i was going to have to ask for things when he took things away from me, so he's not going to be shocked or surprised or cross that i'm even asking, but i feel so small, so dependent. It's quite nice sometimes, the feeling, but when communication is so important to me, it frustrates me that I find it so crippling sometimes, but in some ways, it further highlights the differences between the two of us. Meh.
So, this blog post has been rather stunted, mainly due to the fact that i've written it in a different way than i usually do. I normally just write and write, with either an idea, or a title or something. It just comes out of each and every funny, angry, bored or loved up pore. This one, however, i thought of the other day, when the spelling thing came up, and i made a list of the things i wanted to mention and i've gone through them and, well, mentioned them. So i can only apologise for the rather distinctive and unflow-y nature of each of the paragraphs, and also for the appalling lack of humour. I will try harder with my next one. Promise.
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| 23 Feb 11, 11:11 PM Avada_Kedavra UK, 7 yrs |
We've all experienced it to some degree or another. I get angry and post things in haste and have had memos from people pointing out where I have gone wrong in my English. I can't keep my gob shut if someone has said something that I find offensive, and that's my downfall. M: Its only a baby needle, you wont know the difference. I am not a one dimensional needle obsessed Domme... | ||
| 23 Feb 11, 11:12 PM mia UK(M), 4 yrs       |
Nah, but i'm not bothered if i'm wrong in my English. I love good spelling and grammar, but only like i love cake. There's nowt wrong with a biscuit, yes it's not cake, but it's still food and still sweet. I'm not making sense now, am i? I'm just talking about cake. Again. x If i'm wrong at least i don't matter. | ||
| 23 Feb 11, 11:15 PM Avada_Kedavra UK, 7 yrs |
Did you hear about the new religion? To the untrained eye it looks like women eating cake.. But there are many devotees  M: Its only a baby needle, you wont know the difference. I am not a one dimensional needle obsessed Domme... | ||
| 23 Feb 11, 11:18 PM mia UK(M), 4 yrs |
I shall become a preacher, forthwith! x If i'm wrong at least i don't matter. | ||
| 23 Feb 11, 11:18 PM Avada_Kedavra UK, 7 yrs |
I look forward to your sermons M: Its only a baby needle, you wont know the difference. I am not a one dimensional needle obsessed Domme... | ||
| 23 Feb 11, 11:21 PM mia UK(M), 4 yrs |
Eat cake and multiply (in the cake way, not in the maths or baby way). Go, the sermon is ended, children of the cake. x If i'm wrong at least i don't matter. | ||
| 23 Feb 11, 11:28 PM Lady_Lancashire 23 mths £ |
Ah, the Jaffacake court case. Labels are certainly important when it comes to VAT. The Red Rose Whispers Of Passion (J o'B R) | ||
| 23 Feb 11, 11:35 PM mia UK(M), 4 yrs |
Yes. YES. Labels and cake. Why didn't i think of that?! Well, you know, this case. Good call Lady_Lancashire! x If i'm wrong at least i don't matter. | ||
| 24 Feb 11, 12:01 AM Lady_Lancashire 23 mths £ |
Bet you want one now. The first bite into its darkness, that hit of bitter-sweet tang on the tongue with the comforting squash of its sponge rescuing you from an otherwise surfeit of intensity .... The Red Rose Whispers Of Passion (J o'B R) | ||
| 24 Feb 11, 12:40 AM ScarlettDeWinter UK(BS), 3 yrs |
Mmm cake.
That was the point of this. Right? well behaved women rarely make history |
