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| Goldilocks |
I am about five foot nine. A hundred and seventy something centimetres. And I weight roughly around sixteen stone; it fluctates.
My BMI is therefore in the 'obese' thirties.
I am fat.
There is no other way of putting it. That is what people need to tell me. It hurts, sure. No-one *likes* being told they're fat....well, maybe some people do.
Not me.
But, alas, I am.
And that needs to change. In six months time my life will be changing. I will be moving away from my family home and embarking on a new adventure of learning in a different city.
I can't be how I am now when I do that.
I need to be fit and healthy.
Thus, I am blogging to say that I really am going to make an effort with this. I need help though. I need my friends and family to encourage me to go for a walk or run, to play football or frisbee, not to eat that chocolate bar or drink that coca cola or Dominos pizza.
I can not do this on my own because I am not strong enough.
I know how to lose weight:
Less calories in and a higher energy/calorie output will result in weight loss.
I need to know that my heart and lungs are strong, my organs are healthy, my skeletal system and joints are not under excess strain.
It's essential for what I want to do and for the life I want to live.
I want to be a fit and healthy mother, friend, lover, partner, colleague, sister, daughter.
If only there was a Dominant man out there who got a kick out of taking a submissive girl under their wing and getting her fit, slim and healthy over the course of several months. If only I could abandon my job, family and everything else to live in a giant hamster cage for six months with gym equipment, water and healthy food.
Alas, that doesn't exist and I have to depend on myself.
I'm lazy.
I lack self motivation.
I like to eat shitty foods.
I don't like exercise.
I guess the point of this blog is thus:
I would like advice. Have you lost weight? How did you do it? And I would like encouragement.Edited to add:
Since posting this I acquired a personal trainer, started exercising several times a week and cut out the crap foods and replaced them with healthier foods.
I currently weigh just under fourteen and a half stone. I am finally making a difference and change in myself and hope to continue to do so.
Edited Thu 24 Mar 11, 12:37 AM by Goldilocks
| 8 Feb 11, 3:06 AM LittleLadyBecca 4 yrs |
I'm losing weight. I'm 5'5" and I weigh 161 lbs, 168 when I started (12st). My BMI was about 27.
If you need a loss buddy or someone to vent to when it gets frustrating and tough I'm available! I'll send you a proper memo in the morning but I wanted to leave you a little note now to say that that you aren't alone B x "This is my word and as such, is beyond contestation" - The Black Prince. | |
| 8 Feb 11, 3:19 AM pilsburyDB 19 mths |
If you need someone to shout at you and tell you to "pull your finger out!" from afar, just ask  Rob Do I care? Do I fuck, I'm on a roll!!! | |
| 8 Feb 11, 3:26 AM The_TOGmeister UK(BA), 4 yrs   |
A person who knows what she needs to do. How fortunate you are to blog about it here, ther are many "Slimmimng" clubs in the weblogs who give each other the confidence, motivation and support required. No doubt they will be in contact with you in the very near future. Go for it and the very best in your endeavour.
TOG Second childhood? Me? I haven't left the first one yet! | |
| 8 Feb 11, 4:01 AM Shypeachybottom UK, 20 mths |
Sending you a pm. Great blog! lsg There's a somebody i'm longing to see, i hope that he turns out to be, someone to watch over me | |
| 8 Feb 11, 8:09 AM summberblues UK(LS), 7 yrs |
Do a search and find your local kickboxing club, mix that with the gym or some other activity and you will enjoy it alot more. | |
| 8 Feb 11, 8:12 AM Irelyn US, 2 yrs |
I can not offer advice. I am on the same journey. In fact I just wrote my weight loss goals for the next year and a half last night. It is overwhelming and I am alone in trying to figure out how to eat 1500 cal or less every day for the next 1.5 years. I do think it is important to get lots of rest, eat at regular times and drink water. Weight loss/gain is NOT as simple as people like to think it is. I know people don't want to hear that someone has thyroid issues, depression, low metabolism but those are REAL factors in the weight loss battle for many people. I have to face I am not just curvy anymore. Please try to love yourself and your body. You mentioned being a mother; I am too. Women's bodies are amazing-nurturing life and all that. Honor your body even if others cant see past the excess weight. Anyone that can't accept you now does not deserve your time and attn when you start losing weight. You sound very clear about this goal. I set up small measurable and attainable goals. I downloaded an android ap that counts calories; it really is helpful to see where you are during the day as you log in your foods. You can set up a profile based on your BMI age weight and desired weight loss goal. If I meet my daily goals I will be able to meet the weekly ones, which will enable me to achieve my short and long term weight loss goals. It is handy to be able to track calories so efficiently. If I want to lose 1.5 lbs a week, then I have to restrict my calories a bit more. You can log daily exercise so you see how that affects your caloric balance for the day. As you log your foods and exercise the ap tells you how many calories you have left to use. I think this will help me. Next I will try to find support and encouragement to help me on this LONG overwhelming journey. That I can't download in an ap. Good Luck! I am not severely restricting calories, so my weight loss will be very slow. But I am ok with that as long as I can see tangible gradual results. | |
| 8 Feb 11, 8:16 AM rubberesque UK(W), 5 yrs |
Goldie, I met you first when I was at my absolute heaviest! The last time I saw you was this weekend... If someone had told me five years ago I'd go from a BMI of over 40 to a BMI of under 25 and be a personal trainer I'd have laughed at them! I did it by doing a very extreme VLCD - very low calorie diet. It wasn't easy and I'd not recommend it but it was what worked for me. Are you staying in Bath or London mostly these days? I'm happy to meet up and give a few ideas as to what you can do to begin. Hell if you're that interested I can even offer some PT sessions at a greatly reduced price if you want. I'm a woman! We don't say what we WANT! But we reserve the right to get pissed off if we don't get it. That's what makes us so fascinating! And not a little bit scary. | |
| 8 Feb 11, 8:51 AM tom_tom UK(PO), 7 yrs  |
You might find this site useful: http://www.medicine.ox.ac.uk/bandolier/booth/boo... Da Vinci was a well known sexual deviant. You know that sketch of the naked man in the wheel? Blueprints for a rape machine. | |
| 8 Feb 11, 9:38 AM tanken UK(NR), 2 yrs |
I've never been much overweight but in my 40s and early fifties I was about a stone heavier than I am now. I didn't go on a diet or anything but was working with someone who didn't eat lunch and I adopted similar habits just for that period of work.
Suddenly I found myself a stone lighter and a waist size smaller so I thought that it was best not to put it all back on once I had bought the smaller size trousers. That was 6 years ago now 'Kiss the boot of shiny, shiny leather' - Velvet Underground | |
| 8 Feb 11, 10:09 AM Grownup_Frankie UK, 4 yrs |
I am a firm believer in afirmations, its like re-programming your thinking a bit, so I liked your line - 'I want to be a fit and healthy mother, friend, lover, partner, colleague, sister, daughter'. Although I think it should be 'I will be...' And you need that written down where you can see it every day to remind yourself, to 'bring into being what is most wished for'. I certainly didn't like the lines near the bottom of your blog, where you listed what you were in a negative way - I mean, if YOU tell yourself these things are so, then you first of all have to 'overcome' them. Fight each one of those negative 'barrier' beliefs. Now and then I've given something up, some habit, something I told myself various myths about (often for years) but the power of what we choose to believe about ourselves is truly amazing, you can USE that power - just believe yourself to be someone who does NOT do the things you no longer want to do, not someone who has to struggle constantly against temptation. What temptation? A coke? A burger? A nice cream cake? Exactly how strong, how scary, how unbeatable are these temptations when matched againt the powerful, powerful, POWERFUL belief that "I will be a fit and healthy mother, friend, lover, partner, colleague, sister, daughter." I will be a Fit (slash) Healthy (slash) Mother (pow) Friend (biff) Lover (slash) Partner (slash) Colleague (biff) Sister (boff) Daughter (Ka-pow!)... Oh look, not a burger in sight, not a coke left on the battle field. You are Victorious! Surely they don't stand a chance against you! You don't need them. Yuo don't want them. They are neither your friends nor your deadly arch enemies - they're nothing to you. Now - now you're GOING PLACES. Now you KNOW where you're going!
"Yet I rejoice in the great harm done me, for this reason only, that I am more mine being yours, than were I mine." - Michelangelo Edited 8 Feb 11, 10:15 AM by Grownup_Frankie |
Imortatality's far WORSE.