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| 7 Feb 11, 12:46 PM tanken UK(NR), 2 yrs   |
I don't think age difference matters as long as there is some sexual chemistry between the two, but if you don't fancy each other at all then what's the point? 'Kiss the boot of shiny, shiny leather' - Velvet Underground |
| 7 Feb 11, 1:19 PM Adwhored UK(BN), 10 yrs  |
I think never say never. I have had various relationships; ones I thought would work out, ones I thought should, ones that worked sexually and or emotionally and or intellectually... you get my drift. I met Dan through a friend. He was totally vanilla and not a romantic interest that blipped my radar as such for the simple fact that he was 21 and I was 45. He persued me, quite relentlesly to be fair. I had just literally come out of my last relationship and genuinely said really, no! he didn't listen which is either charming or irritating. I then said ok, one night and some fun. That changed to well ok let's keep it open and see others and let's do all your fantasies. We're now at two years later despite all the public, familial and local horror as such and doing well, really well as it works. Very early on I told him what I was and what works for me, he had naturally slipped into it and honestly has the potential to be amazing at this as he's already damned good. He reads me, gets me, sees me and embraces all those things. I can't manipulate him, manouvere him or win any situation. I can however talk, share, discuss and feel loved and supported. I am a cynic in that seen, heard, done and read about it all before. The relationship you're in seems better than the last, stronger and you believe the oxytocin flooding through your system. But; two years on and and I do feel the same, more so in fact. It's great on most levels most of the time, excellent on some and occasionally it has its ups and downs, but that's a relationship. His age, my age, totally irrelevant within us. We only notice it when others say, look, comment etc. My eldest daughter is 5 years younger than him and all 4 of my amazing daughters have accepted us, unconditionally (unless he murders the cat) He hurts me, controls me and dominates me on every level. Sometimes the balance is perfect sometimes it isnt as life gets in the way, again that's a relationship and it's a relationship regardless of age. We try not to let it get in the way in fact. It's an number to some, state of mind to others, maturity to the other person, emotional maturity to her, financial capacity to him and bugger all to me nowadays. Debs "Woman in her greatest perfection was made to serve and obey man." John Knox |
| 10 Feb 11, 3:09 AM socair01 UK, 16 mths |
Age difference in the majority of relationships is largely irrelevant, as the majority of relationships do not really last very long anyway. If you are asking about substantial age difference, say a generation apart, in long term relationships then (although there are rare exceptions) in all probability the relationship will fail. I'm not saying don't start these relationships all I am saying is that the vast majority will fail. Usually the older the younger partner is at the onset of such a relationship the greater expectation one may hold for longevity and I would say that the inverse is almost certainly true. |
