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| Mon 24 Jan 11, 12:49 PM Austino3 UK(BS), 16 mths  |
I dont know what post i should post first! Do you do introduction posts on here? Well if you dont im sorry, but have decided this will be the easyest way to get me started using these forums!
Hello everybody Im James, Ive been ignoring my kink side for over 4 years now and I have now decided to stop fighting it and just go with the flow! When did all you realise you wanted to serve/be serverd? Was it progressive like with me, or did it just turn itself on one day? I've decided to accept its just part of me!
Anyway, hopefully this site will help me explore further, and come to fully appriciate this sceane! Edited Mon 24 Jan 11, 12:51 PM by Austino3 | |
| 24 Jan 11, 6:02 PM SweetLucita UK(BL), 17 mths |
Hi James  I'm a 'newbie' too so know exactly how you feel about that awkward first post!!
I have being interested in kink for a very long time, over 10yrs...but never had to opportunity to explore it further. A divorce later and here I am!!
Anyway hope you have lot's of fun here, I've not been ostrichised yet, so can't be that bad here!! | |
| 24 Jan 11, 6:14 PM cheekyandtrouble UK(SL), 2 yrs      |
for me i discovered the lifestyle when i was 14, but when i had the confidence i stepped into it at 20, and have never looked back. one in there is no going back. and welcome to ic :p | |
| 24 Jan 11, 6:25 PM Black0rchid UK, 2 yrs  |
I have never wanted to "Serve". If so I would have taken a course as a waitress when I left school. Az me shloft mit hint, shtayt men oyf mit flay | |
| 24 Jan 11, 6:47 PM Innocentgirl UK(SO), 4 yrs  |
Welcome to IC James
I discovered I was into kink when I was thirteen or fourteen, when first coming across bdsm in a novel I was reading. Something just seemed so appealing and right about it
I hope you have a good time on IC! | |
| 24 Jan 11, 8:05 PM Twistee UK(BA), 3 yrs  |
Hi James, and welcome to IC. For me it's always been there, but it wasn't until I accepted what I am and started looking back over my life that I realised just how much it is a part of my nature. I discovered BDSM forums on the internet way back in the dim and distant days before the web was invented. When the vanilla relationship I was in at the time came to an end, I took the chance to finally explore what I'd only been reading about up to that point. It's worth doing a little research before you jump in. It makes going to events so much easier when you do get around to checking out the public scene for the first time. At least that's how it worked for me. ~Twistee~ Everything is better with a twist | |
| 24 Jan 11, 8:37 PM jools_searching UK(WD), 20 mths £ |
Hi James!
I can really relate to your post. I am recent too, though my desire to be dominated (or serve, as you put it, whichever) has been there from a very young age.
So, making the leap! It's scary and exhilarating. I remember feeling like if I didn't experience some of these sensations, hmm... NOW, then I would explode! The run up is always more scary that the jump, at least in my experience. | |
| 24 Jan 11, 8:38 PM boffin54 UK(PR), 21 mths |
Welcome James, is denial a form of bondage, we are all new to some extent. | |
| 24 Jan 11, 8:51 PM Asteria_Noctis UK(SS), 4 yrs |
well done for coming out of denial.
The people in Bristol are pretty much a good sort. You should get out to Swamp, or Fiendish and say hi to them . ~The Brightest light casts the darkest shadows.~ | |
| 24 Jan 11, 8:54 PM american_girl UK(CB), 2 yrs |
Aww, that's not very nice. There are plenty of people on IC for whom service is a big part of their kink. Just cuz it's not for you doesn't mean it should be derided. YKIOK. And James - welcome to IC. I think there was always a kinky american_girl inside, but she didn't properly come out to play until a year and a half ago. It wasn't so much discovering something new as it was allowing something that was always there to breathe. It's become a central part of my sexuality, and I can look back now and see that it was always there, waiting for the right time, the right mindset, to be explored. Good luck on your journey, and HAVE FUN! I'll echo what @twistee said about doing a bit of research, and when/if you decide you want to try a munch (which I think is a GREAT way to get into the scene), I highly recommend the Bristol munch, which the lovely @twistee helps run. It's a good crowd, a friendly atmosphere, and a nice size. The U35 crowd in Bristol is also quite organized (check this link) out if you use Fetlife). They have their own munch, as well as going to the main Bristol munch. | |
| 24 Jan 11, 9:00 PM Asteria_Noctis UK(SS), 4 yrs |
b;imey how could i not mention the munches silly me. ~The Brightest light casts the darkest shadows.~ |
Now it's like something has clicked in place and I'm going "arrrrrh that's what I was missing!!" 
