Chastity (31)

I want go into detail (read our blog if you want that) but the low level D/S that permiated our relationship while we did it was amazing and it made us sexually very close (which was great given that we had a new baby). Personally I could not do chastity play if I was not in a relationship and living with the other person, it would be all pain and no pleasure!

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Edited 23 Jan 11, 10:27 PM by camdencouple

I totally get that. But surely it can continue to be sexual without penetrative sex or orgasm?

I'm actually wondering now if chastity can mean different things to different people (like most other terms we use) and whether it has to mean no sexual activity at all or if it can be a bit less prescribed.

Maybe what I'm thinking about isn't actually chastity but it's certainly how I've read lots of people describing their experiences of it.

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Edited 23 Jan 11, 10:12 PM by Incandescence

OllieVW wrote: This thread sucks

Lol - I can't help but think that you set yourself up for it though, asking all those questions! Somewhere you must have had a suspicion that she'd give you the opportunity to get personal experience, to satisfy your curiosity?

Silklover2

I started to speak about chastity with my sub quite some time ago, and after a bit of looking about for reviews of male chastity devices, settled on one that looked promising.

We both get something out of it - I like the control aspect of it; I was already in control of his orgasms before we started using the device, but I wanted to be certain I still had control of them when I wasn't in the room! As for him, he says:

1. He sees giving up control of when he can orgasm to me as a natural part of submission

2. When I do allow him to orgasm it's a far more intense experience than if he was able to do it all the time

3. He wants to prove his fidelity to me and thinks the fact that he wanted to wear a device helps in that

It is more about denial than control as I use other methods for that. We don't use chastity all the time either, in which case 'chastity' is probably the wrong term; it's come to have a new meaning in the kink world, though, and I'm happy with that.

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The relationship I am in now which includes love/all things vanilla too, it's a case of he knows he is NEVER EVER allowed an orgasm that I don't give permission for. He is NEVER EVER allowed to masturbate.

We don't need a device for that but we do use one from time to time but that is more about the play side of it. I use it for teasing purposes as the 'fun' that a domme can have teasing a straining cock through the bars of a CB is endless Personally I get such a thrill from controlling his pleasure as it is a man's most basic urge and he has not control over it.

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I don't have a physical chastity belt, but saying I belong to someone and having his photo on my profile is definetly working as well as any physical contraption that could have been made!

Mind you, sometimes it would be nice if someone would speak to me now and then. As they don't, I assume the 50 personal memos a night I got prior to August 2010 were not from people who "just wanted to be friends" after all.

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Edited 2 Feb 11, 3:13 PM by Black0rchid

Consequently, and for an as-yet undefined period, I am locked into my CB3000 whenever I am not in her company. This is my choice, my idea, and it is one of the ways I hope to show my deep love for J. It is also in some small way a penance for the hurt I caused her.

On the other hand, we are both switches, and interchange the roles of Dominant and submissive on a regular basis. Perhaps difficult to comprehend, my "chastity" is not a feature of submission to My Lady, except when we play with me as the submissive. From my point of view, I can entirely take the Dom role whether I am or am not locked into the CB. For pretty obvious reasons, if the scene is likely to be sexual in nature, if I am to be the Dominant, then the CB comes off well before we play! If I am the sub, that is up to J !

For the rest of the time, the CB reminds me of my committment to My Lady, as well as providing a gentle level of stimulation that keeps me always conscious of our erotic times together. And for J, the certainty that I am always thinking of her, and that she can be entirely confident of my fidelity. I think that counts as "win-win"

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Sounds like queenie has spoken Ollie.

I'm sure many look forward to your updates.

All the best.

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I bet it is. I once had a bit of memo banter with your lady about chastity. I've never known such a reaction. I think she must have quite a serious dependency. Would take some serious effort to get that under control if it were possible at all I reckon you;d have to start with about 5 minutes. What fun could be had though ... obviously for the sort of chap who likes to make women squirm, not for a subby boy like me

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Edited 2 Feb 11, 4:05 PM by wonderer