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| relaxed1 |
on Sat 15 Jan 11, 6:35 PM to relaxed1's blog.
I have been pondering, as I do, my own inconsistency, as pointed out by the wonderful @rubberesque on my last blog.
Without thinking, I have tended to refer to a fem sub as 'girl', whilst male subs I've tended to refer to as 'men'. Maybe it's to do with my own discomfort at being referred to as a 'man' in my late teens and early 20s – even though it's hard to figure out why, or what would have been more appropriate.
Maybe it's to do with my having two wonderful sons ('my boys', although they are no longer boys). But then I have an almost-daughter too, whom I have rarely referred to as a girl and, now that she is 19, would never consider her as anything other than a young woman.
Ah the dilemma of words. Who would imagine that, as one who prides myself on my grasp of language and vocabulary, I would struggle so much with simple nouns?
So yes, I am inconsistent and no, I don't mind it being pointed out to me. (Even my own inconsistency at posting a suggestion on a recent thread about suitable names for a male slave of 'boy'). I doubt that I will become more consistent (or less inconsistent) any time soon.
| 16 Jan 11, 3:21 PM penwiggle UK(CB), 5 yrs  |
I'm glad you have no aims of becoming less consistent, because I'm struggling to get my head around almost-daughter. Either she is a product of your loins, and thus a daughter, or she is not, and thus not a daughter. Unless it was almost-sex. Crap. Maybe I've gone too far. You can slap me if you want. You say Ouch like it's a bad word. | |
| 16 Jan 11, 4:47 PM relaxed1 UK(BR), 6 yrs |
My 'almost-daughter' is the daughter of my best friend. My friend and I have no relationship, and never have had, but for the past ten years I have been the father figure in her life, since her biological father took little interest in her. So she's not my daughter, nor my step-daughter, but I treat her as much as my child as my own sons. Even though she has seen her own father a couple of times in recent years (when she has come to stay with me) she still seems to regard me as her father. Hope that is clearer. "We are all in the gutter, but some of us are looking up at the stars." - Oscar Wilde | |
| 16 Jan 11, 8:34 PM penwiggle UK(CB), 5 yrs |
Yes, makes much more sense, and what a wonderful man you are. Quite often, better the family we choose than the family we are born into. You say Ouch like it's a bad word. | |
| 17 Jan 11, 1:01 AM Shypeachybottom UK, 20 mths |
I would add, referring to your first post, that biology alone is not what makes someone a parent (or, indeed, a good parent). It can help, but it absolutely is not sufficient. Which is why almost-daughter is a beautiful concept, because it reflects what that relationship is. There's a somebody i'm longing to see, i hope that he turns out to be, someone to watch over me | |
| 20 Jan 11, 9:28 PM reacher UK, 17 mths |
You are a very lucky man to have that relationship. I love being a father |
