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| Sat 8 Jan 11, 9:55 AM theambassador UK(PE), 17 mths   |
Wondered what peoples thoughts are of a Dom/me commanding their sub to perform acts that would usually only be associated with Dom/me scenes - purely for the physical sensation as opposed to the mental power exchange? x Edited Sat 8 Jan 11, 9:58 AM by theambassador | ||
| 8 Jan 11, 10:49 AM ToakReon  UK(RH), 12 yrs |
If the sub enjoys it, and the dom enjoys it, then what is there to debate? Toak FEMALE, BONDAGE-FRIENDLY MODEL SOUGHT. I am seeking to update my "How To" shibari bondage pictures (see my profile pics, the clothed blonde tied in red and black) with a model more "enthusiastic" about BDSM, and who is happy to be photographed nude. MEMO ME if this is you. | ||
| 8 Jan 11, 10:52 AM Purrrrvert UK, 19 mths |
Sort of a case of "Beat me harder you worthless wretch, or it's twelve of the best with the cane for you later". | ||
| 8 Jan 11, 10:56 AM Hiswhore 2 yrs |
The power exchange has occurred -- the Dom/me commanding their sub to perform the act -- so the roles are preserved. The rest is just sensation. i was once in a relationship with a Domme who very much enjoyed being caned. She had strict requirements for how she should be caned and detailed guidelines that i had to follow. i had no power over her; i had to do exactly as i was told. i was in every way her sub. Hiswhore. | ||
| 8 Jan 11, 11:13 AM relaxed1 UK(BR), 6 yrs |
I once told a sub to use a flogger on me, partly to demonstrate that I will take what I'll dish out, partly because I like a bit of pain. She hated it. I saw no problem, it's no different from any other instruction, but it really messed with her head and felt just wrong. "We are all in the gutter, but some of us are looking up at the stars." - Oscar Wilde | ||
| 8 Jan 11, 12:43 PM foxgirl UK(LN), 22 mths |
If instructed to flog/hit/otherwise hurt someone else, I'd cry a hell of a lot and put up a massive protest. I don't know how the desire to fulfil instructions would balance against the absolute horror of topping people. I know it would be psychologically an utter nightmare. I am more than anyone thinks I can be. | ||
| 8 Jan 11, 1:04 PM Ianneil UK(N), 5 yrs |
The way you describe it sounds like the situation with a dog when its base doggie instincts tell it to do one thing and it's instinct/training to obey it's master tell it to do something else. It's that look of frozen confusion, it can be quite funny.
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| 8 Jan 11, 1:07 PM Hiswhore 2 yrs |
But you would not be topping anyone; you would be performing an act of service for a Dom/me, no? Hiswhore. | ||
| 8 Jan 11, 1:09 PM OllieVW 3 yrs |
Lima is the only person I switch with, Ive never beat her, humiliation and degradation is what I use to get my kicks when I Top. It wouldn't work for me if a Dom/me asked me to beat "them" however if they ordered me to beat someone else I'm not sure its never happened. I play casually and If I ever saw those I play with submitting or switching it would ruin the whole sensation for me. Its the Fear they install in me that attracts me to them, witnessing them in a less powerful persona (my opinion) would change my perception of them and I wouldn't play with them as its about both parties enjoying.
"Its All About the Experience" | ||
| 8 Jan 11, 1:17 PM foxgirl UK(LN), 22 mths |
I am more than anyone thinks I can be. | ||
| 8 Jan 11, 1:21 PM Ama_Sidero UK(GU), 7 yrs       |
It is service topping. You are fulfilling orders, and filling a need/desire of the Dom/me. I don't see anything unusual in it at all. You are following instructions. It also rather goes along the lines as passion. Someone unnamed AGES ago commented on a thread how even though she is a Domme, she likes very rough sex. The general consensus of the ladies then was that while "submissiveness" is a good thing, passion is also and submissiveness does not equate to passive. I can understand, though, the horror of someone not wanting to hurt what they see a precious, AND that it can totally mess with the head in a D/s perspective. I think a lot of people switch with others for that reason. "Strip!" |
