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| Fri 7 Jan 11, 4:00 PM kirsty_m 18 mths  |
It's relatively recently for me that my submission has exploded out of the box so to speak, although looking back i can see its been there for years. Now i wonder if i could ever go back to the way it was - i'd be really interested to know if people could ever see themselves being happy in a non Ds relationship now. Could you/would you for the right person? or is it just not possible? kirsty x | ||
| 7 Jan 11, 4:18 PM simply_sub_lime UK(SP), 2 yrs  |
IMHO being submissive is something you are born with. It may even be genetic as my mother was always submissive, although not in a kink way, to my father. Outwardly I appear to be a leader, plenty of ideas, fairly good people management skills, drive and passion, but deep down inside I know that I prefer to be led. Bullied as a child, always being the one to say sorry, even when not my fault, I would now rather submit to a genuine Dom who recognises the true submissive before him than try and live a lie any longer. | ||
| 7 Jan 11, 4:23 PM cheekyandtrouble UK(SL), 2 yrs      |
doubt it but you never know :p | ||
| 7 Jan 11, 4:25 PM bohnanza UK(FK), 12 yrs |
People go back all the time. They find other hobbies which interest them more. If it was a one way trip people wouldn't turn dom and would hang around places like here for ever, after all where else do you go to find doms? Yet the number of active people on here and at events don't keep going up. Rohypnol means never having to say "Would you like another coffee?". | ||
| 7 Jan 11, 4:27 PM Drakino UK, 21 mths |
I am most certainly not a natural, "born" submissive. I am a natural masochist, I suppose, but submitting I find hard, especially because I am much more domme than sub. And yet I still don't think I could do without it occasionally; not in my current relationship anyway. I find it ridiculously difficult, but I still want to submit to my boy sometimes. (Most of the time I don't :P but that's another story.) “When Rabbit said, 'Honey or condensed milk with your bread?' he was so excited that he said, 'Both,' and then, so as not to seem greedy, he added, 'But don't bother about the bread, please.'” | ||
| 7 Jan 11, 4:29 PM Olokun UK(S), 5 yrs |
Im not sure about going back, but im sure its within many a subs grasp to gain confidence whether from knowledge or just focusing, then becoing more domly. That may never happen for some, but im sure alot have the potential its just choosing whether or not to exercise it | ||
| 7 Jan 11, 4:34 PM Richtea UK(BN), 2 yrs |
For the right person I would not give D/s a second thought. Of course, as D/s is very much a bedroom/play thing for me, I wouldn't be giving up that much really.
I may be in the gutter, but I am looking at the bars. | ||
| 7 Jan 11, 4:42 PM shit_sub UK(W), 5 yrs |
or they pair* off happily and just get on with it in the privacy of their own homes? IC and the scene aren't the be-all and end-all of BDSM you know! *triple off, quadruple off, open-mindedly encounter casually with many others off etc etc | ||
| 7 Jan 11, 5:20 PM relaxed1 UK(BR), 6 yrs |
I've thought about it, and even had a two-year relationship that wasn't entirely vanilla, but enough to make me realise that I'd probably always be dissatisfied without a sizeable element of D/s in my life. But you can never say never. There are no certainties in life beyond death and taxes. "We are all in the gutter, but some of us are looking up at the stars." - Oscar Wilde | ||
| 7 Jan 11, 5:24 PM syndeetoo UK(WC), 6 yrs |
He'd have to be a coffin dodger with a beautiful country house with well-tended grounds and a library, a collection of vehicles and an appreciation of knitting. | ||
| 7 Jan 11, 5:25 PM syndeetoo UK(WC), 6 yrs |
surely not! |
