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| 7 Jan 11, 1:13 PM kinkymermaid UK(UB), 3 yrs   |
Sounds like a complete arsehole to me with obviously no respect for her at all! It is a measure of just how much (or little) respect he has for her, and all D/s relationships should be built on mutual trust and respect.Otherwise, what's the point? | ||
| 7 Jan 11, 1:14 PM Relaxed_and_Chaotic UK(SE), 3 yrs |
The whole rape issue concerns me also. He non consensually had unprotected sex with her. Yes, sex was part of the dynamic, but always protected so therefore, i call his actions rape. Not in the same way as i fully understand rape can be (from personal experience) but a form of rape none the less.
"There is no such thing as liberty. You only change one sort of domination for another. All we can do is to choose our master." D. H. Lawrence | ||
| 7 Jan 11, 1:16 PM lilybee  UK(TN), 5 yrs    |
In your op you used the term forced. In my mind that means she was restrained or over powered somehow and if thats the case then she probably didnt have much of a role in it other than unfortunate recipiant! lily | ||
| 7 Jan 11, 1:16 PM Spankeasy 4 yrs |
Get rid. | ||
| 7 Jan 11, 1:21 PM friendly_Paradox UK(NN), 6 yrs |
It's not unusual for a certain type of man to undermine the confidence of a female partner to such an extent that she feels incapable of ever finding herself another partner. It is for this reason so many women often forgive the unforgivable (and allow the unallowable). A man capable of doing the type of thing described in this thread is very likely to be that kind of man.
Knowledge is knowing a tomato is a fruit. Wisdom is not putting it in a Fruit Salad. Edited 7 Jan 11, 1:22 PM by friendly_Paradox | ||
| 7 Jan 11, 1:22 PM relaxed1 UK(BR), 6 yrs |
It sounds irresponsible at best. Yes condoms are unpleasant, but they are a necessary evil until or unless otherwise agreed. "We are all in the gutter, but some of us are looking up at the stars." - Oscar Wilde | ||
| 7 Jan 11, 1:26 PM Arse_Whisperer 2 yrs |
two words .. arse and hole! | ||
| 7 Jan 11, 1:29 PM Shypeachybottom UK, 20 mths |
fair point (and you are probably right about him if he did this) There's a somebody i'm longing to see, i hope that he turns out to be, someone to watch over me | ||
| 7 Jan 11, 1:30 PM Relaxed_and_Chaotic UK(SE), 3 yrs |
Yes i used the word forced and with reason. By role i meant simply that she may not have had to have been restrained, i am not aware of whether she was or not. If a sub is to be punished they won't like it, but through not wanting to let the dominant down any further, i would suggest that it is possible for sensible thought to escape the mind. That to me is mind control and can be just as affective as physical bonds....especially if you are young and impressionable... It in no way takes responsibility away from the so called dominant. "There is no such thing as liberty. You only change one sort of domination for another. All we can do is to choose our master." D. H. Lawrence | ||
| 7 Jan 11, 1:40 PM lilybee UK(TN), 5 yrs |
Ah make sense to me now, sorry brain is fried with work at mo. I wasn't suggesting either that the Dom's responsibility was lessened. It sounds an unpleasant situation and tbh if it were me I'd be gone. There are agreed boundaries, each D/s' is different from another but the one thing that binds us all is the right to agree to some degree of limit that should not be broken without consent.
lily |
