The profundity of teasing (29)

This is a noob suggestion only, but if I were going about the process of learning how to be dominant in a relationship, I'd find out what turned the submissive person on, and then use suggestion to bring about a situation in which they were in a state of high arousal, but I was not.

Or perhaps in the dominant's physical person, desire would be refined, silent and submerged, and thus made into a source of power over the submissive, whose desire is naked, helpless and plain to see.

I know that the main sexual motive for D/s in my case, would be pure enjoyment of manipulating someone else's desire to the point of helplessness, whilst remaining uninvolved and inviolate myself.

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Edited Fri 7 Jan 11, 10:00 AM by Noctiluca

I know He is not unaffected by my reactions, that He manipulates my behaviour to satisfy His needs. I think that maybe what you may find is that its normal to be aroused by seeing your sub in this position but the knowledge that gives you the power is knowing that you have the ability to choose if you do a damn thing about it.

and if this doesn't makes sense then apologies, am on mental work schedule and can't seem to wake up today!

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Sexual power lies in having the self confidence to take your partner to a place where she is off balance, and to keep her there for long periods; to maintain the initiative so that she does not have agency.

Exploiting someone who is emotionally committed to you but with whom you are not emotionally committed seems to me closer to psychopathy than to BDSM, in my opinion.

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It does make sense, and I think I agree. It wouldn't make sense without there being a mutuality about it. It wouldn't be possible for me to bring about that kind of situation without being profoundly involved - the difference would be in who directs the course of events, and whose body is the explicit locus. The desire would be there on my part, but hidden, which is important

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Edited 7 Jan 11, 10:32 AM by Noctiluca

I'm not sure that I meant 'desire' to mean 'emotional commitment'. It seems to me perfectly possible to exploit a certain foible or fetish, for example, that you know drives someone wild, but which has little effect on oneself - the emotional commitment would still be mutual, even if the stimulation derived by each party was quite opposite in constitution, because each would know what the other was getting out of it.

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Please don't - if you read the rest of the post you'll see that the bald statement is qualified somewhat. From "Or perhaps...

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Edited 7 Jan 11, 10:38 AM by Noctiluca

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Peoples motivations can be far more than just a sexual or arousal. So yes for some your statement may be true, but for others it may not. That is why it is so hard to find the right person. Or so at least I have found.

I used to be a pro mistress and I got paid for entertaining my clients. Whilst that sort of domination gave me a feeling of power, it wasn't the sort of power I wanted over a none paying client.

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