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| Mon 3 Jan 11, 11:08 AM Cassius UK, 3 yrs   |
The dymanic of these has always interested me, as an extension of the classic 3some I guess. Extending from 3 who play together to a full-blown domestic situation,they provide greater variety but also pose problems in many ways,requiring tolerance and understanding. What are our thoughts and experiences ? Practise senseless acts of beauty. | |
| 3 Jan 11, 11:15 AM FairyGirl UK(YO), 3 yrs   |
I doubt this should be on this board... "Nothing saves anyone's life, Sir. It just postpones their death." - Posner , The History Boys. | |
| 3 Jan 11, 5:30 PM Cassius UK, 3 yrs |
Which one do you suggest? I would be grateful. Practise senseless acts of beauty. | |
| 3 Jan 11, 5:32 PM Rocker67 UK(LL), 2 yrs |
Fetlife probably. | |
| 3 Jan 11, 5:33 PM MissAnnThropist UK(SE), 3 yrs    |
Am I the only one here that instantly thought of the scary Chinese mafia Triads? Not familiar with the term in the context the OP means. ETA: before anyone says it - I did go have a look see at the dictionary http://www.informedconsent.co.uk/dictionary/Tria... OK so I feel stupid, but I've not heard of that term in a kink-context before. "Love is dead. It was acquired in a hostile takeover by Hallmark & Disney, homegenised, then sold off piece by piece." L Simpson Edited 3 Jan 11, 5:36 PM by MissAnnThropist | |
| 3 Jan 11, 5:37 PM MisterAngel UK(LA), 5 yrs |
I was used to hearing the word "triple" in this context, as a natural equivalent of "couple". I've only seen one person use "triad" like this (although apparently pronounced quite oddly) | |
| 3 Jan 11, 5:39 PM relaxed1 UK(BR), 6 yrs |
I think that if you take the potential problems in a couple, then treble it because you now have three couples (a+b, b+c and a+c), that might be somewhere approaching the level of challenge in making it work long term. If the person at the head of the triad is a very strong, charismatic and experienced leader, that might mitigate some of the risks. "We are all in the gutter, but some of us are looking up at the stars." - Oscar Wilde | |
| 3 Jan 11, 5:46 PM Iphis_me UK(E), 4 yrs |
My only experience of a triad would make me very hesitant to get involved in one again. I think if you have the Dom and two subs set-up (whatever the relationship between the two subs) the dominant needs to be very on top of things, strong and in-control (of themselves as much as anything else) for it to have a hope in hell of working. FWIW at this point in my life I feel much happier with having concurrent relationships, where people may have more than one partner simultaneously but without the complexities of balancing everyone which is involved in a triple. YMMV of course. "The unexamined life is not worth living" - Socrates | |
| 6 Jan 11, 12:21 AM Lush_Life UK(NW), 2 yrs |
Are they the ones who chop your fingers off when you make a cock of things ? "You might well think that; I couldn't possibly comment" | |
| 6 Jan 11, 8:55 AM AngelFingers1 UK(CH), 2 yrs |
I use the term "Triumvirate"
However I dont mean a threesome. My Triumvirate is my group of the 3 men/partners in my life. (So in a way I am the 4th member but its not really like that.) My Triumvirate (my gang or stable of three) makes me whole, complete and satisfies my kink, vanilla, bdsm, sex and emotional selves.This happens through a combination of the qualities, personalities, kinks and interactions in the group. We are unlikely to scene with more than me and one other at anyone time, so not a threesome at all. Of course this is probably way off what OP was meaning. I just mention it here as an alternative word to Triad. I dont know if anyone else uses the same word in the BDSM world, but even if they did they would probably not be referring to a situation like my Triumvirate. Angel Anything but ordinary Edited 6 Jan 11, 8:57 AM by AngelFingers1 | |
| 6 Jan 11, 10:05 AM ATTWT10 UK(PE), 22 mths |
We are a 'triad' in play and socially but do not live together due to a. Distance/locations b. Families. We try to see each other as often as we can and we all value our time together. When together we feel our situatuon works but we all have to work hard to make it work (but surely we all do that in all relationships). We do recognise weaknesses in that light is on her own for the majority of the time and she does not have the day to day support partners who live together have(will ask her to post her thoughts). It is more than kink, we are lovers, friends and kinksters and overal it works well for us. Edited 6 Jan 11, 10:07 AM by ATTWT10 |
