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| 2 Jan 11, 11:21 PM Empress_Martine UK(HA), 2 yrs £        |
Drawing the line is difficult but it is a fine line to some individuals. In this case, he did, in my estimation of the line, over stepped to mark. This was a getting to know you memo and he did it wrong. Nothing clicked so I would suggest you move on. http://empressm7.uboot.com/ Vampire pro/lifestyle ts dom and switch. Age play mummy/aunty/AB ,medical play,domestic, energy and outdoor specialist. "Beyond the government,above the police ." | ||||||
| 2 Jan 11, 11:33 PM Xrampage UK(PR), 6 yrs |
I agree, it should be a mutual arrangement with a list of limits between two like minded people! I'm a sub (I don't practice much these days because lost my enthusiasm), but at the end of the day, sub = submission! Happy New Year to you girl; is hardly what I call patronising! | ||||||
| 2 Jan 11, 11:55 PM Moonlight_x UK(RG), 4 yrs |
"I can assure you, Pleasure is very different from Happiness" Dorian Gray Edited 3 Jan 11, 12:37 AM by Moonlight_x | ||||||
| 3 Jan 11, 12:09 AM Xrampage UK(PR), 6 yrs |
At the end of the day, you have to make a judgement based upon your feelings and intuition! If you don't feel comfortable, then follow your instincts! On the flip side of the coin, I have met some obnoxious Dommes in my time! Good luck in your search | ||||||
| 3 Jan 11, 12:12 AM Xrampage UK(PR), 6 yrs |
Don't worry, I'm use to being patronised lol | ||||||
| 3 Jan 11, 12:15 AM Moonlight_x UK(RG), 4 yrs |
I'm glad you got the irony
"I can assure you, Pleasure is very different from Happiness" Dorian Gray | ||||||
| 3 Jan 11, 12:41 AM Xrampage UK(PR), 6 yrs |
I do understand what you mean. I don't really care if people are patronising towards me, it's what I think about myself is more important! I guess there are people out there, that are total control freaks! By patronising someone, you take away their confidence and self teem. You can call me boy any day of the week, it makes me feel young. Besides, I thought the way you patronised me was kind of sexy lol Edited 3 Jan 11, 9:40 AM by Xrampage | ||||||
| 3 Jan 11, 1:19 AM Black0rchid UK, 2 yrs |
I love it when He patronises me and calls me "little girl".  Az me shloft mit hint, shtayt men oyf mit flay | ||||||
| 3 Jan 11, 3:54 AM The_Majickian UK(SW), 9 yrs |
It seems to me he was conforming to stereotype. To my mind, people often get off on calling subs girl/boy or whatever alternative takes their fancy as they see it as the done thing: this is what other people do, and it works for them. Many people who are on the receiving end of this also get thrills from it (I know, when I am so addressed by a Domme, my sap rises something chronic), but then some people, as yourself, find it demeaning and not really what they want. It's personal choice at the end of the day - if it doesn't suit you, walk away; or, if you want to explore, you could see what he means by that and whether it's hard-wired of a bolt-on cliche. May you find that you seek. Holmes: Meretricious | ||||||
| 3 Jan 11, 5:11 AM Phantomdream AU, 2 yrs |
Hmm...I kinda see what you mean...actually recently I got several memos from someone, which I thought was very patronising. I won't give out that person's name, because I do not wish to start a conflict with that person: I simply blocked that person on this site from contacting me again via memos, but here is the text of the very last memo with related quotes from the previous memos (without that person's name) just to show you what I mean about being needlessly patronising: O_o
Edited 3 Jan 11, 5:29 AM by Phantomdream |
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