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on Sun 2 Jan 11, 12:28 PM to petit_chat's blog.
So another couple we are mates with have just split up... and predictably have started the whole point scoring rigmarole of trying to 'win' friends over new years... its like my parents getting divorced again only with my friends...
Why do people have to do this? I would ideally like to be friends with both of them but now they make it so awkward that mutual friends feel put in the middle. I have just spent an hour on the phone hearing all the terrible things the other one did and yet somehow it has just made me like both of them quite considerably less *sigh*
Think it just makes me realise my relationship is thankfully strong... have to give Master lots of cuddles today and make him his favourite tea! x
| 2 Jan 11, 1:21 PM redflamephoenix 5 yrs |
We got almost caught in the middle of something similar a while back. The only thing I can suggest is say you'll be there for both of them, but also point out that you're friends with both, not choosing sides etc etc. That kinda worked for us. One friend kept their distance to allow the other party some ranting space to us. *shrugs* it seemed to work. All the "he said, she said" crap gets right on my nerves. I make opinions about people based on their actions to me and mine - I don't go in for the gossip etc. If you're like me it might help pointing out to both of them that until either one of them does something to hurt/upset you personally, you'll stay friends with both of them, tyvm. *hugs* It's shit, but don't get drawn into their problems. They're big enough and daft enough (one assumes) to get over the hurt of the break up their own way, but trying to "win" friends out of the wreckage will only bite them on the bum in the long run! *more hugs*
It'll get better - promise!! red xxx *edited to add* And yeah, there's nothing quite like a shitstorm between friends who broke up and a ring-side seat of the goings on that makes you appreciate just how wonderful your relationship(s) that you have are!!! Keep hold of that thought.... The people who matter won't mind, and the people who mind don't matter! Edited 2 Jan 11, 1:23 PM by redflamephoenix |
| 4 Jan 11, 2:30 PM PlayerOfGames UK(E), 5 yrs |
Why did they break up? Are they communicating? What issues are there for them if you remain friends with both of them? |
