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| 29 Dec 10, 1:08 AM thinking_dom 5 yrs  |
Being sadistic isn't exclusively about physical pain. Cruelty can easily be inflicted mentally and emotionally through words and non-violent actions too. The key is the imposition of cruelty and primarily the satisfaction it brings to dominant. The fact that the sub/slave may enjoy it is not relevant, though clearly the subject of the sadism needs to be a willing recipient. For me its a combination of enjoying the control and seeing the impact of the sadism - particularly taking the sub/slave into new areas and breaking their previous limits/boundaries. | ||
| 29 Dec 10, 1:16 AM Baby_Girl UK, 5 yrs £  |
I feel greedy,,, needy and want more. Its like however much I Inflict isnt enough to satisfy Me or My needs,,, I grin from ear to ear and laugh out loud a lot,,, even getting goosebumps from time to time,,, I cant say Ive ever felt 'Powerful' ,,, Just In control and sometimes have to really kerb it with a masochistic subject so that I dont go too far,,, I know that I could so easily do this if not managed with caution,,, Its not good to get carried away,,, I like to use blindfolds,,, I think thats for My benefit really,,, the facial distraction of the tortured is of no Interest to me, just the body language and noise from their pain is of Interest,, this is what seems to keep My attention better.
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| 29 Dec 10, 1:33 AM yoda_dog UK(HP), 6 yrs |
If anyone here were a Sadist in the truest sense of the word, they would neither need or want a person's permission to inflict pain (mentally or physically) on them. In BDSM, the vast majority use the term sadist to mean 'inflict pain on another consensually for sexual kicks', rather than it's true meaning. "Bottom line: it's couples who are truly right for each other wade through the same crap as everybody else, but the big difference is they don't let it take them down. One of those two people will stand up and fight for that relationship every time." | ||
| 29 Dec 10, 1:35 AM Empress_Martine UK(HA), 2 yrs £      |
Being Sadistic does not have to involve pain etc.You can use verbal methods to humiliate a slave without using whips and chains etc. http://empressm7.uboot.com/ Vampire pro/lifestyle ts dom and switch. Age play mummy/aunty/AB ,medical play,domestic, energy and outdoor specialist. "Beyond the government,above the police ." | ||
| 29 Dec 10, 1:44 AM yoda_dog UK(HP), 6 yrs |
Yes, as I said, mentally or physically. "Bottom line: it's couples who are truly right for each other wade through the same crap as everybody else, but the big difference is they don't let it take them down. One of those two people will stand up and fight for that relationship every time." | ||
| 29 Dec 10, 2:31 AM El_Presidente UK(G), 4 yrs    |
But then if, for example, you were using 'The Force', then would that count as mental or physical? (A tricky conundrum, I'm sure you'll agree!)
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| 29 Dec 10, 3:07 AM Trussedworthy UK(NW), 6 yrs |
I can empathise with this take on sadism. As a top I do need to know she's getting off on the situation, even if not every detail of it is to her liking. I don't have a minimum level, if it's enough to get her into an erotic headspace then that level works for me. Similarly as a bottom, I get sexual pleasure not from what the top is doing specifically, but from seeing that being in control and inflicting the pain is turning her on, which increases my threshold and willingness to endure more. It's cumulatively increasing, mutual sexual stimulation. If it doesn't have that effect on her it won't have that effect on me, then it would just become play for the fun of it. Fine for clubs but you want more from within a relationship.
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| 29 Dec 10, 1:41 PM Belasarius UK(M), 8 yrs      |
I get a completely different kind of satisfaction when I delliverr the kind of pain she craves. I would not call that sadism at all. It is hugely satisfying for me to take her to the sort of subby nirvana she sometimes achieves. I feel a similar sense of satisfaction to that which I have when I make her come - and a huge sense of power and pride (in an "I did that" stylee). It feels very different when I hurt her just because I want to and she lets me "just because he wants to". I think that's the closest I'll get to sadism. My goal - to save women from nature (Dior) | ||
| 29 Dec 10, 1:56 PM the1whoserves UK(DN), 6 yrs |
if i were a sadistic sub i would remove my body from mistresses reach therefore not allowing her the pleasure and sexual satisfaction she gets from beating me,, and also i would be torturing myself with the very same act,, good job i,m not that sadistic then,,, | ||
| 29 Dec 10, 1:59 PM Ama_Sidero UK(GU), 7 yrs      |
This^^^. I almost always laugh. I can't help it. The squirming and moaning. It's usually when I've just inflicted a large amount of pain then start to tickle them and they can't stand it. For me it isn't so much about the pain but the interaction and dynamic. Like playing an instrument and producing certain responses. Feeling the energy from them. Giving them energy. In fact I don't really consider it sadistic at all - because they want (want is not the right word) the pain from me. It is really more just an exchange of energy... "Strip!" |
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