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| Tue 21 Dec 10, 2:12 PM pilsburyDB 19 mths |
So here's the question, my good lady and I were discussing things the other day and for both of us sex is an integral part of the D/s side of our relationship. It really is central to all of our play, now my question is this,
Is this the same for the majority of this site? Or is it something different for you? It's a pity I can't do a poll.... Do I care? Do I fuck, I'm on a roll!!! |
| 21 Dec 10, 2:19 PM Lady_Lucan UK(L), 4 yrs |
I was discussing this issue only yesterday with my boy. He said that the moment he knew I owned him was when he realised he would stay with me and serve me even if we were never to have sex again.
I reminded him that this would be an extreme scenario 'Ey la'/Ela! (Delete as appropriate.) |
| 21 Dec 10, 2:30 PM MissyG UK(MK), 8 yrs   |
I don't have sex with my subs, so no, it's not important to everybody. -:|:- London Munch -:|:- LondonAlternativeMarket -:|:- |
| 21 Dec 10, 2:33 PM Felix_culpa UK, 2 yrs |
I gave a fair bit of thought to this some years ago, whilst pondering 'Who is this Felix bloke, then? Is it all sex, or are you in fact something else entirely?' I'm more about the s&m than the d/s, although the latter makes itself felt when playing. I just don't start out that way. But it is all sexually based; even if something started outside of a sexual context it wouldn't be long before it moved into one. So yes, for me sex is central. No darkly sexual undercurrent, no fun to it, I find.
Which, personally, is a relief; I don't have to wrestle with an urge to wander about the place, hurting close friends and neighbours.. Edited to make the s&m clearer, rather than m/s. Which may not have been included in your audience. But what the hell; I'll contribute anyway. There are few good men. Thank your lucky stars that he's one of them. Edited 21 Dec 10, 5:32 PM by Felix_culpa |
| 21 Dec 10, 2:38 PM Made_in_Italy UK, 2 yrs  |
I have had countless conversations regarding this topic and what i have ascertained is:
some people (more than what it seems) use sex as part of their D/s. some "true" people have argued with me that kinky sex and kink should not be mixed up (as if that would be degrading?) and that only horny sex addict swingers would "bestially" involve sex with kink. (have not invented these statements, they were uttered by a real person) Personally I believe the above to be bullshit, and dont give a damn about on all the "true" people out there. I like sex, and I chose to demonstrate my dominat side via sexual acts. on the other hand my sub and I also have cuddles and vanilla sex if we so wish.. basically I dont like my life to be dictated by anybody! However, I have also met individuals (who often have also an s/m side) who enjoy their D/s story without the sex. Good for then if they can, I couldn't...
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| 21 Dec 10, 2:40 PM ClassAct2005 UK(N), 7 yrs  |
I suspect male dom, female sub tend to have sex more at the heart of it. I certainly am not interested in a D/s relationship without sex and a man who wants sex with me. |
| 21 Dec 10, 3:00 PM mia  UK(M), 4 yrs       |
Sex is one important part of our relationship, but personally speaking, i wouldn't say it is more or less important than the s&m, the dates out, the jokes we share, etc... It all adds together to make our (D/s, M/s, O&P) relationship work for us. x If i'm wrong at least i don't matter. |
| 21 Dec 10, 3:06 PM MissLibertyDelacroix UK, 8 yrs  |
It would depend on the chemistry, connection and nature of the relationship. Regards, Miss Liberty |
| 21 Dec 10, 3:09 PM CuteCorporal UK, 24 mths |
I can't form opinions on others' relationships, be they M+f, F+m, M+m or F+f, but personally I don't screw my subs, I don't tend to be sexually attracted by someone's submission. I do have to find my Dom/me sexually attractive though, because then sex is very important 
Taste religion, lick a witch! |
| 21 Dec 10, 3:15 PM Graci_e UK, 5 yrs |
i've had many a relationship where sex has formed no part in the relationship...it actually took me a while to understand that D/s relationships -can- have sex as part of their dynamic if i'm being obvious. For me sex is part of Oour relationship but as has been said it's not the be all and end all, there are far more reasons why i'm with Sire then the sex and whilst i'd find it hard i'd stay wtih Him if there was never any sex again. |
| 21 Dec 10, 3:53 PM Arbuthnot UK(E), 7 yrs |
Sex? Thet is what they used to use to deliver coal in Morningseyde, Ey believe. |
